A short story/poem by Little Black Bird about Passing anxiety for Transgender people. (You can see the whole thing by to my sub r/transbrownpeeps or by going to this website, allpoetry.com , and creating an account for free, then searching for the poem.)

I saw a clip of a talk show where they were discussing how many liberal women are participating in the 4B movement, and they said don't these women understand that if they refuse to have children the conservatives will outbreed us.

I don't think it's progressive to treat women as broodmares responsible for bearing liberal children. If instead of focusing on the reasons women are refusing to date men and have children with them, you are choosing to focus on negative consequences of the movement in order to make women feel guilty you are part of the problem. A significant reason women choose to the 4B movement because they don't feel safe dating anymore. The person most likely to harm a woman is her significant other. I am Bisexual, but lived in a very conservative state all of my adulthood, so it was easier to date men because there wasn't a ton of LGBT resources or spaces (especially in the area I lived). I have personally experienced how horrifying many men can be, so I understand saying you don't want to put up with this anymore (even if you are a straight woman so it means completely giving up dating and relationships). I especially understand because there are men who focus on learning just enough to appear like they aren't bigoted, until they feel like you are emotionally invested enough that they can start showing their true colors. It can be exhausting, and I am fine with women exercising their bodily autonomy and ability to make choices for their own future to decide how to live their lives.

Reducing women to their ability to have babies is so regressive (and transphobic). The idea that liberal men are trying to tell liberal women they owe it to mankind to have liberal babies is ridiculous. Women shouldn't have to have kids because you want them to. Telling someone they are stupid for personal decisions like not having kids isn't ok. There are many people who shouldn't have kids. Recognizing this and choosing to follow through takes strength (especially when you are being pressured that you are supposed to). The concept that everyone should have kids is regressive (because if you hate children, having children and then taking out your hatred for kids on them is bad).

The 4B movement is a symptom of societal problems. Trying to remove the symptom without fixing the problems (and by implying that it will make the problems worse) isn't helping anyone. Forcing people to have children they don't want doesn't help anyone. If we had resources to make being a single mother an accessible option, I bet the women doing the 4B movement who want kids would choose to adopt (because kids aren't the heart of the problem, but resources for raising kids are a part of it). Saying the only solution is to give men what they want isn't progressive, and is very telling of what you actually think of women.

Sorry for this rant, I'm just upset as an AFAB person because I have a lot of trauma around sex and dating, and so do many women in the 4B movement (which is why I can relate to it even without being a part of it). Regardless of whether they have trauma, it isn't my place to tell people they are obligated to marry men and have their children. I chose this group to talk about this because I thought specifically how transphobic reducing women to broodmares is could be an aspect of the discussion, and I am honestly just hoping that this group won't have people who are trying to argue women are obligated to have children for men for the benefit of society. There are a lot of things we could do as a society to make this movement less necessary, but telling women to just get over it isn't one of them.

He is a tween and doesn't like to hug people he isn't close to. His grandfather is conservative, is an aggressive hugger (picture you're reaching in for a handshake and he'll grab your hand and quickly pull you in for a bear hug) and would be triggered by phrases like "body autonomy" and "boundaries."

We plan to text him before we meet for our Christmas lunch to let him know to please not grab my child and hug him.

I'm asking here because my child has same-sex parents and while my FIL loves me he's still socially awkward and pushy.

Thanks in advance!

Hi there,

I am a queer faculty member at John Jay College, currently conducting a study to explore and examine power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics in the LGB+** community.

Power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics among LGB+ individuals are generally assessed via standardized scales, which were developed on and for cis-het populations. Using these existing measures in LGB+ communities does help focus our attention on the issue. However, the use of these scales may narrow our attention to certain types of control and abuse—most common in heterosexual relationships—and we risk reproducing a heteronormative understanding of victimization and perpetration.

This leaves the actual experiences of our community invisible and ignored. The current project therefore aims to address the need for a more nuanced understanding of the lived experience of the LGB+ community.

The survey is completely confidential and will take approximately 15-20 minutes. Those who are LGB+, living in the US, and ages 18-65 are eligible to participate. You can also access the survey by clicking this link: https://gccunyep.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_20iIsNv3xjhkVzE

With gratitude and in solidarity!

**The researcher acknowledges that some may perceive the use of LGB+ as excluding trans individuals. However, it's important to note that this is not the intention of the study. In contrast, this differentiation is to honor the reality that TGNB folx experience unique forms and rates of violence. The next phase of this research will be focusing solely on trans and non-binary people.

IRB Approval Number: 2024-0067-JohnJay

IRB Approval Date: 1/30/2024

I am a body without gender, My sex, a truth defined, deep in my soul their labels are unknown

I hear a he And I think why why? can they not just let me be I could speak up but can I come back from the chaos that could erupt Did I just escape when closeted end up back in another

if there is any chance anyone could take a look at my GoFundMe for my wife and I to flee Texas I would really appreciate it. Even if you just share to your own social medias or spare just a little bit I think it could be very helpful. The last time I asked for help was when my mom passed away, it feels very awkward but we are really scared as i know many of you also are. thank you in advance

https://gofund.me/35c2bf60

There's an influx of people coming to cause conflict right now. This is a small community with not much activity and I'm the only moderator here, so i will just be banning anyone that does this.

As a black, bisexual, disabled woman in an interracial relationship in the US…. I am so terrified right now.

I am just still in disbelief on how this countries citizens chose economics(which clearly they know nothing about just like their idiot president who has been bankrupt multiple times and wouldn’t know a tariff if it smacked him in the face) over people….. money over human rights.

It’s all so fucking sad and scary to me and I’m so frustrated.

Hi there,

I am a queer faculty member at John Jay College, currently conducting a study to explore and examine power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics in the LGB+** community.

Power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics among LGB+ individuals are generally assessed via standardized scales, which were developed on and for cis-het populations. Using these existing measures in LGB+ communities does help focus our attention on the issue. However, the use of these scales may narrow our attention to certain types of control and abuse—most common in heterosexual relationships—and we risk reproducing a heteronormative understanding of victimization and perpetration.

This leaves the actual experiences of our community invisible and ignored. The current project therefore aims to address the need for a more nuanced understanding of the lived experience of the LGB+ community.

The survey is completely confidential and will take approximately 15-20 minutes. Those who are LGB+, living in the US, and ages 18-65 are eligible to participate. You can also access the survey by clicking this link: https://gccunyep.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_20iIsNv3xjhkVzE

With gratitude and in solidarity!

**The researcher acknowledges that some may perceive the use of LGB+ as excluding trans individuals. However, it's important to note that this is not the intention of the study. In contrast, this differentiation is to honor the reality that TGNB folx experience unique forms and rates of violence. The next phase of this research will be focusing solely on trans and non-binary people.

IRB Approval Number: 2024-0067-JohnJay

IRB Approval Date: 1/30/2024

Hi there,

I am a queer faculty member at John Jay College, currently conducting a study to explore and examine power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics in the LGB+** community.

Power, control, and unhealthy relationship dynamics among LGB+ individuals are generally assessed via standardized scales, which were developed on and for cis-het populations. Using these existing measures in LGB+ communities does help focus our attention on the issue. However, the use of these scales may narrow our attention to certain types of control and abuse—most common in heterosexual relationships—and we risk reproducing a heteronormative understanding of victimization and perpetration.

This leaves the actual experiences of our community invisible and ignored. The current project therefore aims to address the need for a more nuanced understanding of the lived experience of the LGB+ community.

The survey is completely confidential and will take approximately 15-20 minutes. Those who are LGB+, living in the US, and ages 18-65 are eligible to participate. You can also access the survey by clicking this link: https://gccunyep.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_20iIsNv3xjhkVzE

With gratitude and in solidarity!

**The researcher acknowledges that some may perceive the use of LGB+ as excluding trans individuals. However, it's important to note that this is not the intention of the study. In contrast, this differentiation is to honor the reality that TGNB folx experience unique forms and rates of violence. The next phase of this research will be focusing solely on trans and non-binary people.

IRB Approval Number: 2024-0067-JohnJay

IRB Approval Date: 1/30/2024

Hi all, I recently took around 35 hours to prepare for a talk that I had with my very conservative and Christian parents about:

• the conservative movement in America and the Republican Party in particular
• why it concerns, frustrates, upsets, scares, and angers me and my siblings
• how hard it is for us to see them being increasingly taken in by it, and by Trump, over the last 8 years
• how there is a better, more ethical, more compassionate, more fiscally responsible, and more Christian way (something they care about)

The talk covered 13 topics, with data, charts, graphs, quotes, videos, articles, research, bible quotes, you name it. Crucially, I took very, very little of this from any source that is actually left-leaning, even a little bit. That was part of the key; I took nearly all of it from centrist / objective sources (like the government itself), and from conservatives and conservative sources.

All told it took about 10.5 hours a few weekends ago. 3 hours in, my mom told me she would be voting Democrat, and didn't think she was going to change her mind. My dad never verbally committed to anything, but I think I reached him as well, more than I missed the mark.

Would people be interested in having these slightly-anonymized PDFs to guide similar conversations with their own parents or relatives? If so, can I simply... share a whole slew of PDFs in a topic like this? Are there any particular rules I need to be aware of to make sure I don't break them? I want to reach as many people as possible, but don't really know where to do it.

I'm new to this subreddit and can't remember the last time I actually posted a topic on reddit at all, and I certainly never tried to share files. Please advise!

Pennsylvania needs your support! PA is the heart of the movement, essential on the road to victory, as a swing state PA will be the difference in saving OUR democracy. In cooperation with White Dudes For Harris, we are opening a local Pennsylvania branch, that will reach out to the community and develop dialogue with likeminded people. Funding will go to marketing, website development, meeting costs (zoom/in person), canvassing. $500 is our goal for barebones necessities. And it is in reach! Please join our donors as we reach out to those in PA Our official fundraiser is linked here. $500 until 09/05/2024 for White Men For Harris. Can you help?

I am current college student at a PUBLIC college in East Texas. This is the second professor I have had this year that is using propaganda articles from hard leaning right-wing websites for assignments. I have had many assignments where my professor will assign articles from The Heritage Foundation (the foundation that wrote Project 2025) and then have us list “10 facts you learned from this article” and the whole article is opinion based. I even had a psychology professor this year who quoted the Bible more often than the textbook in lecture and say offensive remarks about the LGBTQ+ community. Has anyone else had similar experiences? If so how did you navigate the situation, if at all?

Growing up, the word "weird" was always used as an attack by mainstream people against those who are different in some way. It was always a very conservative word to me, because it was a narrow-minded slur against anything outside of the ordinary. It assumes that different = bad, without having to explain to think it through. So I feel extremely uncomfortable that democrats/liberals are embracing this word as a slur against the Trump campaign. Not because they don't deserve it, but because this word feels very illiberal to me. What do you all think?

m 40 years old this year, and while I've been politically "involved" for 22 years - showing up to vote, keeping tabs on politics, educating myself - I've been on the bench my whole life. Very very rarely donated, and never volunteered.

But everything is starting to change. As an LGBT man growing up in the South, it was so invigorating seeing us making serious progress over the years. If you aren't old enough to remember, a LOT of us were around for the days when being LGBT was literally illegal in over half of the county - it was 2003 when that changed. And that's just one of the major injustices I've seen overthrown in my lifetime, and I'm only 40 years old.

Now, the left is feeling beaten down. Eight years of Trump fatigue and the supreme court has been rough. But the fact of the matter is this - this election is do or die. The Republicans do not intend to EVER lose power again if they win this time around. They literally - among other things - want to eliminate thousands of federal employees and replace them with Trump loyalists. That's not opinion, that's not my take, that's what they wrote down on paper and proudly showed the world. They plan to get rid of the department of education - again, not my opinion, it's literally what they said.

So where am I going with this? Get involved. We need to get involved NOW. There are SO many ways to volunteer, and thousands have signed up, but we still have a LOT of work to do. Republicans are registering more new voters in several swing states than we are, left leaning voters are more likely to stay home and not show up, young voters especially, and turnout is always the left's biggest weak spot.

So I'm volunteering this year, for the first time in any election ever. And I'm trying to create a ripple effect of bringing people with me. Can I get three people - just three people out of all of Reddit - to commit to:

volunteering with me in some way shape or form

passing it on, seeking three friends to volunteer as well?

There are SO many ways to volunteer, even if you're not in a state that's up for grabs, and helping the presidential ticket also pretty much always helps down ballot and state level candidates (house, Senate, State Congress, governor, etc.) You can call and text individuals in swing states, you can help try to get people to sign up to vote (they target blue areas, don't worry), you can just reach out to people and give them a nudge that helps increase the odds of them showing up, you can do tech work!

The best thing about volunteering? It's not a job, you don't even have to put in a two week notice if you hate it and want to quit! :)

Let's get this chain going. Who's ready to roll our sleeves up and get this shit done?

If so, explain