r/interesting • u/IshigamiSenku04 • 1d ago

This woman never had a baby bump throughout her pregnancy MISC.

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The baby was totally fine

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u/c32c64c128 1d ago

in one case, literally at the point of delivery.

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u/Serawasneva 1d ago

This was my old manager.

She went out to celebrate her boyfriend’s birthday, got drunk, came home, and then started feeling intense pains.

She went to hospital and was told she was going into labour, and had absolutely no idea she was pregnant.

I still to this day don’t really get how that all works, but I can’t imagine how it would feel to suddenly become a parent overnight.

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u/Exportxxx 1d ago

Hungover birth dam thats got to suck

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u/ShonenBat88 1d ago

Probably not as much as fetal alcohol syndrome

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u/Lucky_leprechaun 1d ago

As much as it sucks that she did not know she was pregnant, and it probably wasn’t good for her baby to be exposed to alcohol, my understanding is fetal alcohol syndrome is much more likely to occur when the pregnant person drinks alcohol in the earliest stages of fetal development

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u/Brilliant-Mountain57 1d ago

I think if she was pregnant for 9 whole months and didn't know it, that its pretty likely that was she drinking throughout the entirety of their pregnancy. Now the frequency of which we don't know but more than likely this wasn't her first time having a drink in 9 months since to her nothing would be out of the ordinary.

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u/Iputonmyrobeandwiz 1d ago

So alcohol during pregnancy is obviously not great but people falsely assume that a drop of beer is going to destroy a baby. It’s not. Just think about it historically, there were cultures where low abv beer and ale were drunk basically in place of water (which might have actually been more dangerous). Fetal Alcohol Syndrome occurs when a pregnant woman is basically heavily or binge-drinking throughout the pregnancy. In this case, a woman unknowingly pregnant could just be going about normal life, moderately drinking 1-2 beers or glasses of wine a week or so, and would likely pop out a perfectly healthy baby, as many many many women have before. Yes, pregnant women should not drink. But there has been pretty intense messaging, particularly in the US and places with high rates of binge-drinking, which doesn’t really explain the actual medical risks so much as target people who have a tendency to binge drink. It’s a weird issue to discuss, but when it happens that a pregnant woman accidentally drinks (either unknowingly pregnant or an accidental ingestion of alcohol), the reaction shouldn’t be to assume FAS as it’s highly unlikely in those scenarios.

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u/SalamanderFree938 1d ago

FAS is a spectrum so there are likely many people who have been affected by moderate alcohol consumption during pregnancy who don't have strong enough symptoms to be officially diagnosed with FAS, but may have slight delayed development or learning disability, so it's not a good idea to drink even a moderate amount while pregnant

Also, a decent amount of drinks (5-6) at one time at the wrong time during pregnancy is enough to cause a diagnosable level of FAS. For a young woman that's not a crazy amount, and she wouldn't need to be regularly binge drinking to cause that

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u/Junior-Turnover4453 1d ago

reddit is not fucking real 😂😂😂 you mfs needa get a mf grip

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u/BillbertBuzzums 1d ago

No she was actually only pregnant for the last few months of pregnancy. A medical anomaly.

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u/TheCowzgomooz 22h ago

Really depends on the person, I don't really drink that often, but when I do, I often get, well, pretty damn drunk, but it's usually spaced out by like at least 2 to 3 months, if not more. I can't imagine I'm the only person that drinks like this lol.

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u/comaomega15 1d ago edited 1d ago

My mother did the same, she was also a raging alcoholic until they day she died. Alcohol was a major contributing factor. If you did it once you can do it again, and for as many differences that I had with my mother I still wish she was here to tell me she told me so. I wish you the best.

Edit: i can't proofread.

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u/jake_swivel 1d ago

Bukowski?

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u/saintblasphemy 1d ago

I'm gonna say this with nothing but kindness, your post history is mostly about alcohol. Might not be as under control as you're convincing yourself it is.

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u/OG_wanKENOBI 1d ago edited 1d ago

If youre an alcoholic who used to drink to the point of blacking out daily, there is no having your drinking under control. You are constantly posting on r/drunk about drinking moonshine. Don't let it fool you... it still 100% is controlling you not the other way around. Also I just saw a post from not long ago saying you have a tooth infection and have to drink here and there to stay off the shakes.... I'm gonna be totally blunt here if you have to drink to stay off the shakes it's 100% controlling you. You need it to function. Go to rehab. If you drink so much you can't safely detox you are not in control. Get clean or die a painful as fuck early death. Good luck out there it ain't easy.

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u/notlanky070 1d ago

Proud of you đŸ‘đŸŒ

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u/Shadows_47 1d ago

You got this ❀

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u/Financial_Support221 1d ago

This. FAS is most commonly seen with mothers who have a history of alcohol dependence before the pregnancy who continue drinking during it. However, because there’s no way to determine the “cutoff” limit of alcohol that could safely be consumed during a pregnancy, the safest option for baby is to just have mom abstain during the pregnancy. This is why you see higher rates of FAS in Russia, a country where alcoholism is rampant and culturally normalized.

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u/BioMan998 1d ago

there’s no way to determine the “cutoff”

Oh there's an experimental methodology to figure out the limits and contributing factors, but the ethics are a crap shoot for a number of reasons. Certainly easier to just tell expectant mothers to abstain from consuming alcohol while pregnant.

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u/free_terrible-advice 1d ago

I imagine that the quantities are known, but exist on a statistical curve due to variations in genetics and all that shit.

ie (statistics are made for example, not real) people who drink an average of 1 drink a day might have a 1% result of FAS, people who average 3 a day might result in a 10% result of FAS, and 5+ drinks result in a 25% chance of FAS.

This is the sort of issue that gets solved by asking a few questions after the birth and using some statistical analysis.

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u/QuitRelevant6085 13h ago

Fetal Alcohol Syndrome isn't always that obvious though. Like a lot of disorders, it is thought of as a spectrum now (it's apparently been renamed to Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder-- FASD). Some people have more obvious signs-- facial features such as "railroad" ears and flat upper lip-- and symptoms are generally more severe in folks that have those features. But lots of babies may have milder cases and not be diagnosed, plus sometimes other factors can cause FAS-like signs/symptoms.

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u/ResponsiblePumpkin60 1d ago

That’s right. It’s early on in embryonic development before most women know they are pregnant. I have even heard that it might be down to a few hours when very specific developmental processes are taking place.

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u/princessflubcorm 1d ago

Sort of right. Basically in the first 10 weeks of pregnancy things are developing at an extremely fast rate, nervous system, brain, organs etc. These processes can be disrupted and some biologists suggest that there may be windows as small as a few hours which dictate certain features of FAS. So if the mother were to drink at say, hour 350 the fetus could have a different pathology to one that was exposed at hour 355.

I read somewhere that there's somewhere around 200 conditions related to or connected to FAS. Many of these will be decided during the earlier weeks but it's likely that even later in pregnancy alcohol can have permanent effects particularly those of a psychological nature, such as sensory issues, ADHD and mood disorders, as the brain continues to go through fairly major changes up to weeks 30+

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u/xellentboildpot8oes 1d ago

Yes, and I very much doubt that a woman who didn't know she was pregnant abstained from alcohol in the early stages of pregnancy.

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u/MRSAMinor 1d ago

Yeah, this is why my mommy stuck to LSD.

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u/strugglebusses 1d ago

Chances are she drank during all of it lol

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u/Mysterious_Crab_7622 1d ago

So you are assuming she didn’t drink prior to then?

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u/Lucky_leprechaun 1d ago

No, not making any assumptions at all just saying that as an isolated incident, this isn’t gonna be what creates fetal alcohol syndrome

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u/yamaz97 1d ago

Tru. But don't forget to clarify that one still shouldn't drink. You can still birth a baby with cerebral palsy. The fetus is still absorbing the alcohol, which could cause nerve/brain damage.

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u/nycKasey 1d ago

Yeah and I know from experience that it is REALLY hard to drink alcohol during that first trimester. Throwing up after 1 drink was literally why I went and tested myself for pregnancy. I got sick WAY too easily!

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u/Smooth_Scarcity7952 1d ago

Are we acting like this person didn’t know? She literally was posting that she was aware


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u/boytoy421 1d ago

Also i think it's unknown like how much it takes but occasional alcohol use is unlikely to cause problems. Otherwise there like wouldn't be any boomers

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u/Kind-Lime3905 6h ago

It also depends on nutrition and the amount of alcohol that is consumed.

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u/yipgerplezinkie 1d ago edited 1d ago

True. It’s kind of interesting how many baby boomers have fetal alcohol syndrome and don’t know it though. Very few become profoundly disabled, but it’s a risk no one takes anymore now that we know better

Edit: Fewer people take the risk and most people are aware of the risk. My bad people

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u/amy000206 1d ago

You think it's just boomers? No one takes that risk anymore? About 1% to 5% of 1st graders in the US are affected by fetal alcohol syndrome today. We know better now as a whole but knowledge doesn't cure addiction.

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u/yipgerplezinkie 1d ago edited 1d ago

I’m saying it was more prevalent when there was a lack of awareness and that a lot of people live their lives not even aware that they have it to some degree.

I don’t see it in other cohorts as frequently. If you work in education, I’m sure you see it all the time.

Edit: I see what you mean now. The generalization was not intended. Of course there is exception for addicted people

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u/Yosoy666 1d ago

We've known about the effects of alcohol consumption during pregnancy for a long time. Gone With the Wind has a part about Scarlett's doctor not mentioning drinking because he assumed she wasn't a drinker. The baby was described as ugly and not very bright

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u/yipgerplezinkie 1d ago edited 1d ago

That’s fair. I just figure it wasn’t widely believed or thought of. Asbestos and silica dust was known to cause disease for a long time, but older folks were often lulled into a state of complacency because no institution publicized the scientific connection between exposure and disease sufficiently to raise significant awareness

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u/Quitbeingobtuse 1d ago

The baby was described as ugly and not very bright

A Republican is born!

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u/redwoods81 1d ago

Also the schools can't just expell a student because they can't read anymore.

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u/desertdweller2011 1d ago

totally agree with you and also we didn’t have home pregnancy tests in the US until the late 70s and weren’t widespread until after that. and they weren’t as good at detecting early pregnancy. people found out a lot later!

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u/Calypsosin 1d ago

I work at a drive thru daiquiri place and it’s really informed me on how many people either don’t give a fuck or don’t know any better. Tons of people roll up with babies in their laps, no car seat in sight. In my two years I’ve definitely served more than 5 pregnant women.

Aside from that, you spend enough time in the country and you will start noticing the physical traits a lot. Big foreheads, small eyes, thin upper lips. It’s frighteningly more common than you’d think.

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u/FunSushi-638 1d ago

I worked with a pregnant woman who would vape at her desk and still went out for smoke breaks. I wouldn't be surprised if she was also drinking. She was 22yo and was pregnant with her 4th kid!

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u/NighthawkCP 1d ago

Yea a place I work at has an OB/GYN office next door. Frequently see women who are obviously quite pregnant going out front to smoke before and after their appointments. Pretty disappointing as it isn't like there hasn't been messaging to make people aware you shouldn't smoke or drink while pregnant.

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u/FunSushi-638 1d ago

Right?!? I never said anything because I figure she HAS to know better, she just either didn't care or was too addicted to quit. Either way, me casting judgment was not going to help anything.

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u/DarkflowNZ 1d ago

Nice, my mum was likely just doing heroin so I'm away laughing (partial /s)

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u/peridotdragonflies 1d ago

Hang out in any pregnancy space online and you would not say nobody takes that risk anymore lol

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u/Emm_withoutha_L-88 1d ago

I think much of human society had it, drinking alcohol was just part of daily life. Even if it was weaker and used mostly to disinfect drinks

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u/Relevant_Winter1952 1d ago

Sure but that’s less fun than taking shots at those boomers amirite?

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u/CreamySmegma 1d ago

Taking shots with the boomers ;)

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u/yipgerplezinkie 1d ago

It’s not intended to be a shot at them. Maybe I should have said people over 55 because that’s when people were warned about it.

You can see it in peoples faces especially where I’m from (Wisconsin). Most people with it are unaware they have it kinda like having webbed fingers or toes. The two I know who have it for certain are leading much cooler lives than me. They’re kind, funny, and smart. Their mothers just took a risk they weren’t aware of.

I should point out that millennials don’t have it at anywhere near similar rates because boomers chose to break the cycle so that’s pretty cash money of them

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u/Relevant_Winter1952 1d ago

For the two you are certain about, can you sometimes tell they are not cognitively at 100%. Probably hard to know is less severe cases since an otherwise bright person with it might be less noticeable than a below average performer who doesn’t have it

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u/Lighthouseamour 1d ago

My mom is an alcoholic. She definitely drank whole pregnanct. I think I was probably going to be a genius.

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u/jmac94wp 1d ago

Aren’t aware of it? I can’t see how that would be the case. FAS has certain markers that are pretty noticeable.

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u/yipgerplezinkie 1d ago

Not unless you’re looking for it. Like they’ll have a thin upper lip and no philtrum with subtle folds in the eyes but otherwise they look great, hold steady jobs etc. It can look like they just have unique facial variation like everyone else

Like if you google it, you’ll see the most profoundly affected individuals for the most part because the results are trying to show you undeniable examples.

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u/jmac94wp 1d ago

We may be talking about slightly different things. It sounds like you’re referencing the fetal alcohol spectrum, and as that name suggests, there’s a spectrum from mild impairment to severe. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is at the “severe” end of the spectrum. It’s a leading cause of intellectual disability and physical problems.

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u/Illustrious-Life-671 1d ago

Yeah
idk if anyone caught the part where she said she was “still going out because she didn’t look pregnant” and it looked like she was at a club and didn’t look very sober


I’d like to think maybe it was just the videoing that caught her off guard, because if she was using not having a baby bump as an excuse to drink, this person is a class a POS

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u/Darkranger23 1d ago

My adopted brother had fetal alcohol effects, the milder form, and boy is he fuck up. Lying, stealing, abusing his girlfriends. He’s in prison now for defrauding people of over $5 million.

From my understanding though it’s more of the cumulative effect of substances over time than any single event. Especially during brain formation.

His birth mother was an addict her entire pregnancy and he only got the effect version. Not the syndrome.

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u/Deep-Needleworker-16 1d ago

Yeah you can be arrested for this now

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u/amogusdestroyer666 1d ago

Imagine how it must feel to BE BORN while hungover. Comin out the womb with Sunglasses and a Gatorade in hand like, "Yo somebody, anybody, PLEASE turn those lights down."

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u/Quothhernevermore 1d ago

FAS isn't a guarantee even with multiple instances of drinking. My mom had one beer a week (yet stopped smoking?) when she was pregnant and I don't have FAS. Obviously...do not do that, but many women drink right before finding out they're pregnant and the baby is totally fine.

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u/jld2k6 1d ago

"I'm gonna get so drunk tonight, hopefully I won't do anything I'll regret"

"Just like nine months ago?"

"Huh?"

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u/Deeliciousness 1d ago

Especially for the kid

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u/Current-Roll6332 1d ago

No, you just take a couple advil and drink some water and the baby will go away.

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u/Lady_night_shade 1d ago

I bet she sobered up pretty quick with the pain of it all.

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u/Secret_Asparagus_783 1d ago

Until the discovery of chemical-based anesthesia in the 1800s, many if not most deliveries involved a mother who was "under the influence." Midwives included home-brewed alcohol-based potions in their supply-bags so as to calm down their patients. Please note that the temperance movement in the USA did not gain traction with many influential women until the replacement of booze with "ether" meant that they would not be sacrificing their own comfort in the interest of promoting the "cause."

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u/ummmwhaaa 1d ago

In the 70s they use to give an alcohol drip to women in premature labor. Well, they did that to my mom when she was 7 months along with me. It didn't work, and I think we were both hungover when I was born. đŸ€Ł

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u/DilligentlyAwkward 1d ago

A woman I served with in the Navy was almost 7 months pregnant when she fell off the wing of an aircraft. When she went to the hospital to be checked out they ran a routine pregnancy test and she found out she was pregnant.

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u/PossibilityBorn3697 1d ago

Similar story to my sister. She was about 8 months, went to the bathroom and passed out at work. Went to the hospital to be checked out, discovered she was full-blown pregnant. The baby was born prematurely, had to stay in the NICU for quite some time.

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u/Imaginary_Recipe9967 1d ago

What was her excuse for the missed periods?

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u/Beznia 1d ago

Some women just really don't get them often. My ex was never on birth control, but in 5 years together she had maybe a dozen periods. Spent a fortune on pregnancy tests when we were 17-18 but then just got over it.

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u/traffician 1d ago

that's fkn wild

is there a medical term for that?

nm i looked it up

Oligomenorrhea (pronounced uh-li-gu-meh-nr-ee-uh) is the medical term for having infrequent menstrual periods. ClevelandClinic.org

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u/Money_Engineer_3183 1d ago

Can also be PCOS

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u/sadArtax 1d ago

Oligomenorrhea is potentially a symptom of pcos.

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u/Bangchucker 1d ago

Apparently some women still get a pseudo period while pregnant.

There is also a lot of variation with period timing and intensity for women. Some women bleed very little some a lot, some always have it the same time every month some it's less predictable.

If it's a case of failed hormonal birth control they might also not be getting a period and not realize or think to test for pregnancy.

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u/GildedLily16 1d ago

Yeah, I typically test at least 3 times a year just to make sure. I have a hormonal IUD lol

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u/boring_person13 1d ago

Also, you have increased blood flow while pregnant and sometimes you'll have spotting after sex because the cervix becomes softer. I had something called a subchorionic hematoma and bled for 4 straight. Including clots. I'm sure women sometimes get a lesser version of what I had and will have what they think is a period. So even if you're pregnant, you can still have bleeding for multiple reasons.

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u/PossibilityBorn3697 1d ago

She didn't have "missed periods" (so she thought). She stated that she experienced intermittent bleeding and spotting throughout her pregnancy, and since she doesn't have lengthy or heavy periods, she assumed it was her standard light flow.

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u/According-Ad-6484 1d ago

I mean I rarely ever get mine. My last one was literally in July. So some women just barely get them and guess what some women get them during pregnancy. So theres a few reasons. Could also just be straight out denial.

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u/princessflubcorm 1d ago

No, no women have periods during pregnancy, but they can get bleeding for other reasons which may be mistaken for a period.

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u/Just-Diamond-1938 1d ago

Many people are not regular especially in young age..

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u/blinky84 1d ago

My aunt had had a procedure a few months prior, and was in her 40s - she thought it was either related to the procedure she'd had, or the beginnings of the menopause. She was nearly 7 months before she discovered there was a baby in there. I'd seen her a few weeks before and was gobsmacked when I heard. Would've never guessed she was pregnant.

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u/alexlp 1d ago

I don’t get my period anymore but I always have tests on hand because of this stuff. I got pregnant once on BC and only found out when I miscarried. Don’t wanna risk a toilet baby!

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u/sunburnedaz 1d ago

My sister had a history of missing periods during stressful times, SATs, Finals, crunch time at work. So when she missed a few during a really stressful time at work she didnt worry about it. Then she felt like she was laying on a pillow when she was face down on the bed rolled over and there was no pillow. Yeh she was like 4 months pregnant with no symptoms.

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u/This-Helicopter5912 1d ago

I have a friend who period-like bleeding for the first three months of her pregnancy.

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u/Sure-Star4318 1d ago
  1. Some women still get light periods / heavy spotting when pregnant.
  2. Women on hormonal BC often don’t get normal periods if they get them at all.
  3. In reference to the navy girl, the military really crams, BC down female service members throats. They make it seem non-optional and damn near.
  4. Despite BC’s concerning level of ineffectiveness. People don’t really understand how it works and people don’t talk about the side effects and consequences of it and it’s pushed so heavily.

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u/theOTHERdimension 1d ago

Vaginal bleeding ≠ menstruation. Women do not have periods while pregnant.

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u/cott00n68 1d ago

What excuse? Amenorrhea exist. I have it, this year I only had my period twice lol

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u/HelpMe0prah 1d ago

Deployment 2016 on the Ike, girl goes to medical talking about stomach pain- is pregnant gives birth onboard- they tried to keep it quiet but really couldn’t.

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u/DilligentlyAwkward 1d ago

This was about 1996. She fell from a P3 Orion, which Google tells me is about 33.8 feet. Surprisingly, she wasn't injured and she gave birth to a healthy baby a few weeks later.

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u/WarmFreshVomit 1d ago edited 1d ago

33.8ft is the total height from the ground to the tip of the tail. The wing height where you would be servicing the aircraft is about 6ft at the root to maybe 8ft the outboard engines.

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u/weggaan_weggaat 1d ago

Guess Ike isn't exactly known for its maternity ward.

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u/Fit-Particular-2882 1d ago

How did they get the baby off the boat?

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u/HelpMe0prah 1d ago

Incubator and a helicopter Edit: the incubator is what gave everyone the information they had to use the elevators and that’s another department and those guys talk

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u/HOMOPHOBlC 1d ago

lol, I was there too. Didn't she name it America?

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u/HelpMe0prah 1d ago

I don’t know, but that would be funny

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u/KickBallFever 1d ago

There was a woman who had a bad sky diving accident. If I remember correctly the parachute didn’t open and she landed hard, breaking every bone in her body. When they got her to the hospital they found out she was pregnant. Both her and the baby lived. Wild stuff.

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u/daney098 1d ago

Nah, she hit the ground and died in that reality, but due to quantum immortality, and the universe getting her paperwork messed up, she continued life in an alternate timeline where she was pregnant.

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u/ElmwoodWest 1d ago

She landed in a church parking lot too if I remember correctly

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u/KickBallFever 20h ago

Yes, she landed in a parking lot. The show I watched said that might’ve actually saved her. The asphalt was hot and kind of soft, so she bounced on impact.

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u/Rasabk 1d ago

breaking every bone in her body.

All the baby's bones too? Brutal.

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u/Dragonthese92 1d ago

Man that’s one crazy as way to find out!

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u/gohanrice2 1d ago

Why is it routine to do a pregnancy test?

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u/tstiger 1d ago

Hospitals routinely do pregnancy tests on women of childbearing age because some medications and procedures (such as X rays) might adversely affect the fetus and/or the woman's health. As in this case, some women are not even aware they are pregnant; the hospital's position is "better safe than sorry."

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u/Norcalrain3 1d ago

That is WILD I would die. Not time to plan, process, prepare, embrace, situate, gather the masses, talk with the partner. I cannot imagine

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u/radicalpastafarian 1d ago

I honestly think I would prefer it this way. I'm quite good in an emergency and overall do much better when I'm IN a situation than when I have to think about and dwell on the coming situation. If my body just popped out a baby like "No time to think! Just do!" I'd be good to go.

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u/Serawasneva 1d ago

It’s a nice thought, but it just doesn’t work like that. When you’re having a baby, you spend months planning and making sure everything is ready.

A baby just pops out? Where’s it gonna sleep? What’s it gonna wear? What are you going to do about your job?

It’s the sort of stuff you need time to prepare for. It’s less about dwelling, and more about needing to have the supplies ready before hand - and a baby needs a lot of supplies.

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u/rinnakan 23h ago

I guess after having at least one kid already, I think most would do just fine based on their past experience. The "omg omg how do baby work!" phase of the first offspring is life altering though

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u/VectorB 1d ago

That's just standard operating parenting. The thing with birth plans, the baby never gets a copy.

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u/amy000206 1d ago

They don't come with instructions either! I needed instructions! How dare my uterus not give me a printout with each child!

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u/itookanumber5 1d ago

Everyone has a plan until they get babied in the face

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u/FinnSkk93 1d ago

This is so scary! Becoming a parent suddenly, nothing ready, no baby furniture no nothing, and to top it all you’ve just been drinking happily while the pregnancy.

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u/AdGlobal2172 1d ago

Fetal alcohol syndrome? Were the baby okay in the end?

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u/HouseOf42 1d ago

Imagine how much alcohol she had while she was pregnant, no doubt there was some FAS. That definitely wasn't her only time getting drunk while pregnant.

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u/quantmajor 1d ago

I am wondering all the alcohol, smoke and booze would affect the baby so much, she will give birth to an island boy

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u/csward53 1d ago

Wouldn't she have missed periods for 9 months though? 

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u/h20poIo 1d ago

Wouldn’t not having a menstrual cycle for 7-8 months be a hint something was up?

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u/Cabel14 1d ago

Had a friend do the same thing. Turns out she had severe abdominal scarring from a car accident

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u/phynn 1d ago

I have a cousin that was born like that. Aunt didn't realize she was pregnant until she was giving birth. Cousin was about 3 months premature but it still happened.

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u/bouncebackability 1d ago

Friend of mine from uni was exactly the same, nobody including her had any idea she was pregnant until the day she went into labour

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u/ZeGuru101 1d ago

It makes me wonder: do people get their period when pregnant? If they don't, don't they wonder what happened and their body is not punishing them for not being pregnant every 27 days?

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u/APointedResponse 1d ago

They do not get their period. You'd have to be a complete moron to not menstruate for almost a year and think nothing is wrong.

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u/lilkittyfish 1d ago

My mom was 5 months pregnant with my younger brother when she found out. She went to the doctor, convinced she had a flu that she just couldn’t get over, but she was still bleeding monthly, so pregnancy didn't occur to her.

A lot of birth control options can also stop periods, so their coworker may not have realized the bc failed if she was on it and was one of those women.

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u/cruisewithus 1d ago

Wouldnt a woman realize not having period for 8 months?

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u/amanwithoutaname001 1d ago

You'd think multiple missed periods might be a clue.

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u/Call_It_What_U_Want2 1d ago

My MIL was a nurse and worked on a maternity ward with a woman who went home from her shift and came back later that night in labour! She had no idea, and she was not only a labour and delivery nurse, she had kids already!

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u/kazetoame 1d ago

Fun fact: there was entire tv show called ‘I didn’t know I was pregnant’ on Discovery Fit& Health and TLC.

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u/rayquazza74 1d ago

Yeah like wouldn’t they have an indication since their flow halts during pregnancy? I get that maybe there’s no physical indication on the exterior but inside not having a period wouldn’t that cue them in? Strange!

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u/oceaniye 1d ago

How do you not notice your period has stopped?

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u/ankira0628 1d ago

Did her periods not stop coming?

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u/CyrusMajin 1d ago

My knee jerk reaction was to ask, how did they not realize that they had missed their normal menstrual cycle. Then I remembered that some women’s cycles are very irregular and some women have very easy periods. These may have been a combination of both.

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u/crimsonslaya 1d ago

I feel like you only see/hear this nonsense on Reddit. Sounds like a load of bs.

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u/Late-Ad-4624 1d ago

I guess the lack of periods didnt clue her in unless she had those very light periods. My wife would be very jealous of that.

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u/chumbawumbacholula 1d ago

I knew someone with 8 kids who didn't know the 9th was coming until she gave birth in her bathroom one day! I wanna know how different the signs were for the other 8.

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u/geraltsthiccass 1d ago

Happened to my mate. Went to hospital thinking her appendix had burst and out it came with arms legs and a head. No bump or symptoms whatsoever and she didn't get visits from uncle Tom due to the implant anyway so nothing unusual there either.

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u/MangoSalsa89 1d ago

Dang I hope the baby is ok since it sounds like she was binge drinking at the end of her pregnancy.

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u/arcangelsthunderbirb 1d ago

this happened to a girl I went to school with, though no one is sure exactly how much she knew about her pregnancy. just she didn't show and no one else knew. she was a partier and never went to the doctor. she gave birth in a bathroom at a house party and dumped the baby in a dumpster. they could determine the baby was born alive so she's in prison forever now.

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u/crespoh69 1d ago

That rumbling? Probably diarrhea...like all the time!

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u/mommak2011 1d ago

I knew someone who found out the day she went into labor. She was heavier as it was and had irregular periods. She had absolutely no clue. Within one work shift, her brother had the notifications of, "Your sister is pregnant!", "Your sister is in labor!" and "You're an uncle!" She had absolutely nothing for a baby because she hadn't planned on kids for at least 5+ years. I ended up giving her a ton of my kids' baby-toddler things that were barely touched, if at all, because they grew so quickly. Her garage was practically a hoarder situation of newborn to 3yr supplies by the time everything was in her possession (others donated to her as well). It was one of those heartwarming moments of how people can come together to support someone in need, shining through all the negativity of the world.

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u/Outrageous_octopussy 1d ago

I don't like it. Now I feel like I need to take a pregnancy test every month instead of relying on my period to tell me I'm not pregnant. I get one monthly and it's not spotting but still.

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u/Big_Butterscotch_791 1d ago

If I went into labor not knowing I was pregnant, I would absolutely think I was dying. Unexpectedly going through that pain, quite possibly with no knowledge of coping techniques? How could you think anything else?

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u/maq0r 1d ago

Wouldn’t you feel the fetus?! Like I still don’t think how’s that possible. The fetus never moved, kicked, had hiccups, etc? I’m a cis male so I can’t experience pregnancy but I definitely can feel when I have one of those thick slow turds moving down my intestines. I would like to think I would feel a fetus kick me randomly.

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u/Melodic_Anything1743 1d ago

I love that show I didn’t know I was pregnant! Its fascinating!!!

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u/stringdingetje 1d ago

Imagine how disconnected from your own body you must be not to feel a moving baby in your belly...

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u/Low_Effective_6056 1d ago

I tried to explain it to my sister who has never been pregnant. She just can’t understand how someone wouldn’t know.

Imagine you just stand up right now and a baby comes out.

Your period is normal. Your belly doesn’t grow. Everything is normal. BAM! You stand up and have a baby.

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u/Noirhimmel 1d ago

How the hell so you not notice you've not had a period for several months...

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u/nzifnab 1d ago

Happened to my roommates. I was out of the house on vacation and get a text that housemate's wife is going into labor, none of us had any idea she was pregnant; absolutely wild

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u/2muchicescream 1d ago

If she didn’t know she was pregnant and for example isn’t then there a big risk of fetal alcohol syndrome ?

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u/alien-1001 1d ago

This happened to a family friend of ours. Went on a family vacation to Jamaica and ended up giving birth there.

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u/Man_Bear_Beaver 1d ago

I still to this day don’t really get how that all works

You see, when a man and a woman really love each other

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u/Pumpkin1818 1d ago

Could be a cryptic pregnancy. Sometimes the baby “hides” in a place in the uterus and the woman doesn’t feel anything. Check out the show “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant”. Craziest thing to see how some of these woman are just like this woman and had no idea they’re pregnant.

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u/queenswamprat 1d ago

That’s what happened with my friend - her mom partied and even got a tattoo and went to the doctor for whatever reason and found out she was like 7 months pregnant. Baby was just chilling up in her ribs or something like that.

She always likes to make jokes that her mom tried to kill her - she came out perfectly healthy and everything.

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u/OkScheme9867 1d ago

Happened to a girl I knew, went to work like normal and collapsed cause she was suddenly in pain.

However, and I don't say this to criticise her, I don't believe the story, I think she knew and was in denial

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u/Low-Cat4360 23h ago

This happened to my cousin. She started having severe pain and assumed it was kidney stone or something. Went to the hospital and they told her she was in labor, then birthed her first son.

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u/Top_Highway79 17h ago

Nice story but this person said she knew from the start she was pregnant and she would say she was when she started showing. It makes sense that she didn’t show because she looks like she works out a lot the stomach muscles and the baby laying a certain way the weight etc can cause no bump. The fact she was pushing for 55 minutes before giving birth damn. I wish this woman and her family the best life.

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

I had a small bump and the ob insisted he was a non-thriving fetus. While in labor nurse and doctor said “we have a big baby here “ I pushed myself up and growled “I told you we did!!!” 31 years ago today-7 lbs, 11 oz, 20 1/2”.

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u/BaylorOso 1d ago

My mother never showed really showed with me, even though she was a tiny person. She said when she was in labor they brought in an incubator and said I would be lucky to weigh 4-5 pounds.

Yeah, I was right at 7 pounds and she just had really strong ab muscles.

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u/Raventakingnotes 1d ago

My mom apparently didn't show with me. I was smaller though at 5lbs 9oz, and when she went to the bank with me in a carrier after I was born, she had people asking who's baby I was lol

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

lol. I have a long torso and my son stretched out as long as he could and kicked like a mule. I’m glad you both proved the doctors wrong 😊

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u/GildedLily16 1d ago

That's a pretty average sized baby tbh. Not that big.

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

When the nurse checked in the first time she said “this baby is 3.5-4 pounds and I’m never wrong.” I was induced because even though the ultrasound showed a bigger baby the OB was sure it was wrong. 3 babies, never really showed. Funny thing, my sisters all looked like they were having quadruplets.

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u/thymeofmylyfe 1d ago

Wow, it's a shame we have no technology to check if there's a thriving fetus in there.

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

Tell me 🙄 My 6’ non thriving fetus is now a doctor and he gets reminders from me about how he will never treat patients.

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u/sadArtax 1d ago

In what world is less than 8 a 'big baby', that sounds incredibly average to me.

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

The nurse said he was going to be 3.5-4 lbs., the doctor said he was non thriving. 3 weeks early because the doctor insisted I be induced.

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u/sadArtax 1d ago

But you said "we've got a big baby here", 7lbs11oz is a really average sized baby.

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u/ConsistentStop5100 1d ago

The nurse and doctor said that, they thought I was giving birth to a 3ish pounder. I was 9 lbs 13 oz at birth, my oldest was 8 lbs 5 1/2 oz, 21 1/2 inches. I know this didn’t break records but he wasn’t non thriving and as this started, I was someone who never had much of a bump.

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u/sadArtax 1d ago

OK; the circumstances don't change that it was an average-sized baby.

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u/dennisthehennis 1d ago

She's just explaining that the nurse and doctor said it was a big baby. Even put it in quotes in her original comment. And she also explained that the "big baby" comment was in comparison to the very small baby they thought she was having. Nowhere in this thread did she argue that a 7lb baby was above average. Not trying to be rude, but your comments seem unnecessarily argumentative or like you're trying to have the last word, rather than trying to understand.

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u/mrminutehand 1d ago

This was my cousin too.

She wasn't obese, not even overweight. But doctor visits were never much of a habit and she mistook her "symptoms" as anxiety.

Until one day, some abdominal pain, and her water breaks. A few confused hours at A&E later and she found herself with a midwife getting ready to give birth.

We personally saw her a month before the birth, and her family swears that nobody knew a pregnancy was there whatsoever. We didn't see any bump at all.

It sounds so hard to believe, but it's absolutely possible for somebody to hit the million to one chance and have virtually no show whatsoever in their abdomen.

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u/Skeptikaa 1d ago

It’s actually much more frequent than that. In my country (France) it’s about 1 in 500 to 3000 pregnancies. My mother who was a midwife saw a few of them during her career.

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u/Pebbi 1d ago

New fear unlocked holy shit.

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u/Legend_HarshK 1d ago

for a sub with not even a million members there are a lot of people who know someone hitting that 'jackpot'

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u/TetraThiaFulvalene 23h ago

And some people get mad when doctors run a pregnancy test after they say there's absolutely no way they're pregnant.

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u/kirby_krackle_78 1d ago

Wake up bae, new baby just dropped.

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u/crisco000 1d ago

“Bc you’s was a toilet baby”

-Baby Billy

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u/FullMetalKaliber 1d ago

“Hey I understand you’re in pain but can you sign these papers
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u/s33n_ 1d ago

That's a whole ass tv show. 

People go to take a dump.and a baby pops out. 

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u/ChunkGnarris 1d ago

Surprise, you're a mom now!

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u/LiogCeartas 1d ago

I heard of women who were at menopausal age assume the symptoms were menopause and didn’t know they were pregnant until they went to the hospital. But also they were overweight and didn’t notice a bump.

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u/Skylam 1d ago

My mother's old boss was like that. But in her case she was so overweight she didn't notice anything. One day she just didn't turn up for work, announced she had a baby and they never saw her again. She was a real bitch anyway so good riddance.

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u/Practical-Primary111 1d ago

Happened to me with my first son. I had no idea I was pregnant until my water broke at the house. Baby is perfectly healthy actually. He just turned four months old today.

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u/0RGASMIK 1d ago

My mom used to work in post delivery as a nurse. She said her most interesting patient, was in the ER for abdominal pain, before they were able to run any tests she ran to the bathroom thinking she needed to shit. She delivered her baby into the ER toilet fortunately the baby was ok.

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u/ThePennedKitten 1d ago

I saw a TikTok with a girl that thought she had appendicitis and had to deliver a baby that night. 😂 There’s a whole show!

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u/Nomi-the-ANOMALY 1d ago

This actually happened to my friend. Went to the E.R. for stomach pain and bam! Baby boy. Totally flipped her life but she made it work.

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u/spez_is_a_spaztic 1d ago

One of my teachers in high school told a small group of us once about how she had to deal with a girl suddenly giving birth on a field trip. Went to the bathroom, came out with a baby.

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u/acheapermousetrap 1d ago

In 12 months at a small emergency department in a regional town we had two women present with abdo pain who were in labour. One woman was obese and his the pregnancy well, and the other looked a little like this video attached. I now work in paediatrics so don’t see these cases anymore


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u/floandthemash 1d ago

Yeah this honestly happens more than you would imagine. I’ve taken care of multiple babies whose moms say they had no idea they were pregnant. I think some truly didn’t know and some were in heavy denial.

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u/KeithMyArthe 1d ago

'I'm applying for pregnancy leave.'

'Oh, you must be MONTHS away...'

Plop

WAAAAH

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u/The-GreyBusch 1d ago

This was my now-wife with our first daughter. We were in college and she was visiting a family member over break. Started having extreme abdominal pain and went to the hospital. Was told then and there that she was pregnant and in labor. Had our daughter. I was several states away and got a phone call from her telling me that I was a dad. Craziest shit in my life and while there are a lot of skeptical people that think she knew she was pregnant, she didn’t and I believe her. Baby was healthy, we’re still together, so I’d say although it wasn’t an ideal situation, it worked out.

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u/Kylynara 1d ago

A classmate in highschool had this. No clue she was pregnant, started getting bad stomach cramps during the graduation ceremony. Went to the hospital after it was over and had a completely unexpected baby. 8 was in AP Physics with her every day that year and she never showed one bit. I had no clue she was pregnant until a friend and I ran into her and her 2 month old son while we were shopping for college stuff.

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u/ClippingTetris 1d ago

Peggy Olson was your patient?!?

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