Problems with "man"-spreading

[u/FX114]

I find it hard to keep my legs closed, and it sometimes makes me dysphoric. I don't know if it's something about my hips, my thick thighs, or the fact that I don't tuck, but it's genuinely uncomfortable to not sit with my legs in their natural, splayed position, and I know it doesn't look feminine at all. Plus, it's actually inconvenient in certain situations.

[u/ComplaintOwn9855]

I feel you, deeply.

As a pre-teen, I would naturally cross my legs when sitting because it felt natural. I also had a somewhat feminine gait. Afters years and years of little brats mocking me for it, I "unlearned" it because of peer pressure, and started manspreading and walking like a manly manbro.

And now I feel like an idiot because I have to relearn it all over again.

[u/HannahLemurson → u/ComplaintOwn9855]

Hehe, something similar with me. Don't worry, the instincts will come back if you let them, just let the layers of imposed masculinity gradually peel away. It's a lot easier to do once you can stop worrying about threats to your masculinity.

[u/ComplaintOwn9855 → u/HannahLemurson]

Thanks for the kind words.

I'm still a babytrans filled with doubts and fears and trying her hardest to work on her internalized transphobic prejudice, you have no idea how reassuring this kind of answer is <3