r/LosAngeles Aug 23 '21

Cougar dens/hotspots in LA county? I have a thing for older women lol. Nightlife

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u/proteinaficionado Aug 23 '21

How could I forget this one. Any yoga studio in Beverly Hills.

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u/Some_Dumb_Dude Aug 23 '21

Fit and wealthy!

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

They can pay off my student loans!

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u/pensotroppo Buy a dashcam. NOW. Aug 23 '21

Not that wealthy.

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u/peepjynx Echo Park Aug 23 '21

The only people wealthy enough to pay off student loans are the ones currently going to space.

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u/thedailyrant Aug 23 '21

And often bored with busy husbands.

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u/FinHex Aug 23 '21

Ah yes, adultery!

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Bullpen Redondo Beach.

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u/onaspaceship Aug 23 '21

Oh god. I’ve had some times there.

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u/limache Aug 23 '21

What’s it known for? It looks like a steak restaurant so I’m confused

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u/JohnnyC13 Aug 23 '21

The Bullpen is where bored housewives, divorcées and other assorted rich women from PV and the beach communities gather to get drunk and look for young dudes.

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u/brownhaircurlyhair Aug 23 '21

At one point one of my grandma's friends knew the piano player who performed there, but my grandma refused to ever see him play. I am now starting to understand why.

I knew it was a "pick up" place (grandma's words not mine), but didn't realize the reputation was that strong.

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u/Strict-Square456 Aug 23 '21

Had to laugh at this one. Im a life long south bay resident and back in my day..like 20 yrs ago this place had “mature” cougars. We were talking 50 and 60s. Have fun. Good old school dark leather booth steak place.

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u/MLTatSea Aug 24 '21

What about the seats. Ayoo, I'll see myself out.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

honestly most spots in Redondo beach would fit the bill

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u/Sickle_and_hamburger Aug 23 '21

South bay is prime cougar hunting territory if you are into it....

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u/asieglen Aug 23 '21

Came here to say this

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u/DarkOmen597 Aug 23 '21

Are the food and drinks any good though?

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Go to a 80s rock band concert.

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u/HisPetBrat Aug 23 '21

Went to an AC/DC cover band show and had a gilf proposition me for a threesome. Solid advice right here!

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u/WarsledSonarman Aug 23 '21

TRIBUTE band. These people take themselves very seriously.

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u/Casanova64 Aug 23 '21

Well did you do it?!

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u/Yotsubato Aug 23 '21

Asking the real questions here

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u/voodoo_curse ex-mod Aug 23 '21

Lmao who reported this for "bigotry"

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

HAHAHAHAH. I’m dying

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u/MiloRoast Aug 23 '21

Tommy Lee lol

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

This is the funniest comment. So true

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u/Dcanseco Aug 23 '21

Best advice I never knew I knew. Went to an 80’s bar and had 2 ladies chilling with us by end of the night

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u/Won_Doe Long Beach Aug 23 '21

lol. Went to an 80's bar in OC bar sometime ago. Cool spot for sure, some fun peeps there but ya, def some older folk in the house as well!

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u/1Xecaps1 Aug 23 '21

Why an 80s concert?

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u/lSergiol Aug 23 '21

It’s the same reason why you’ll see millennials in 00s concerts in the future, for nostalgic reasons.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

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u/DynamicHunter Long Beach Aug 23 '21

Think about it..

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u/Yotsubato Aug 23 '21

Because they were in their 20s back in the 80s

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u/TMSXL Aug 23 '21 edited Aug 23 '21

Sagebrush Cantina, Calabasas.

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u/Elysiaa Lawndale Aug 23 '21

Seconded. A friend of mine goes there a lot and it looks like it's wall to wall with ex groupies. But also ex roadies who are now in Van Halen tribute bands.

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u/SupaZT Redondo Beach Aug 23 '21

Also that winery bar in Westlake Village (Bogies)

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u/TMSXL Aug 23 '21

YES! Totally forgot about that one.

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u/Jerkstore3 Aug 23 '21

Came to say the same. This is THE spot for cougar hunting.

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u/mandiefavor Aug 23 '21

Yup! There are always drunk cougars stumbling around the patio. I’ve been one of them on a couple occasions, haha.

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u/DarthHM Aug 23 '21

RIP your Inbox.

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u/El_Beasg Aug 23 '21

Really how do you go cougar hunting in that restaurant?

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u/TMSXL Aug 23 '21

It basically turns into a club at night (during weekends) There’s a huge dance area, live bands, everything.

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u/El_Beasg Aug 23 '21

That's very dope

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u/doozle Aug 23 '21

I was going to suggest hiking in the Santa Monica mountains when I realized exactly what kind of cougars you were talking about.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Bonus: they approach you first!

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u/grannysmithcrabapple Aug 23 '21

To be fair I think a lot of cougars do like to go hiking in the Santa Monicas.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

lmaoo

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u/specialduckie8 Aug 23 '21

Lmfao! My first thought, as well. I interpreted OP’s question a little too literally.

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u/Leikster West Hollywood Aug 23 '21

This is the kind of content I’m here for.

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u/Mountainman1980 Northridge Aug 23 '21

Conversely, I don't come here for this content. But I certainly stay for it. I love this town hahaha...

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u/PlasticGirl Mid-Wilshire Aug 23 '21

Select an age range. Calculate how many years ago they were 18-20. Find musicians popular around that time. Go to those concerts. Like start with Bon Jovi.

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u/213man Aug 23 '21

👏 wow

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u/PlasticGirl Mid-Wilshire Aug 23 '21

Lol thanks

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u/SoUpInYa Aug 23 '21

But Bing Crosby doesnt tour anymore

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u/PlasticGirl Mid-Wilshire Aug 23 '21

Wait for his hologram to tour.

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u/Arsene3000 Aug 23 '21

This reminds me… has anyone else noticed how college educated white chicks have an encyclopedic knowledge of classic rock? Doesn’t matter when they were born either—they could be enrolled right now and they’ll somehow know of Steely Dan’s greatest hits.

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u/SR3116 Highland Park Aug 23 '21 edited Aug 23 '21

Their dads are likely all the target audience age for classic rock.

The great irony is that Steely Dan were always singing about how college age girls didn't know good music, like in Hey Nineteen.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

This is a strange observation but I’m going to keep thinking about it

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u/PostMerryDM Aug 24 '21

Dashboard Confessional.

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u/A_Punchbowl_Turd Aug 23 '21

Paoli’s in Woodland Hills for sure. Salt Creek in Santa Clarita also has a cougie reputation

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u/DecentLiterature3366 Aug 23 '21

Classic Ventura Blvd

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u/PotatoFro Aug 23 '21

Bonus points if you can sing… Karaoke night at Paoli’s is no joke. They won’t tolerate sloppy drunken Third Eye Blind… but if you can pull off some 70’s/80’s jams, you’re gonna turn some heads.

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u/appleavocado Santa Clarita Aug 23 '21

Mabel's, too.

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u/213man Aug 23 '21

Cougie 🤣

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u/glass_boxofemotion Aug 23 '21

Beach cities bars (Redondo, Hermosa, Manhattan) and Rockin' Brews.

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u/213man Aug 23 '21

Rockin brews is a beacon

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u/TheTimDavis Aug 23 '21

My landlord lives in palm springs. In 1960 she was a snack.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Oh come on now! She's still a cupcake.

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u/TheTimDavis Aug 23 '21

How I pay my rent is none of your business.

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u/Background-Buddy-234 Aug 23 '21

Lmao I forgot about that scene.

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u/Loonatooona Aug 23 '21

Why did I think OP was looking for actual cougar dens at first

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u/dr_g89 West Los Angeles Aug 23 '21

If your wallet is full and you drive something nice, the bar at mastros is definitely a hot spot.

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u/A70MU Aug 23 '21

out of curiosity, what is considered nice?

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u/Bitter-Air7772 Aug 23 '21

2008 Nissan Sentra 2.0s

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u/davis_unoxx Aug 23 '21

A Buick from 2002

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u/CreepyConspiracyCat Aug 23 '21

1996 Saturn S Series

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u/oysterpirate Aug 23 '21

With one door a different color than the rest of the car.

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u/dr_g89 West Los Angeles Aug 23 '21

Anything the valet keeps out front

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u/Gearjock Aug 23 '21

Steakhouse or Ocean Club? Also, are the drinks any good? I've been looking for a place to cruise my Tbird to.

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u/dr_g89 West Los Angeles Aug 23 '21

I can’t speak to the ocean club but I’ve spent some time at the steakhouse. I’d bet both have comparable crowds. Drinks are ok, wine selection is pretty fantastic if that more your thing. Prices are… inflated. You definitely pay for the location / atmosphere.

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u/NeuroticTendencies Aug 23 '21

Is Steel Panther playing anywhere? Lol

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u/darthjenni Aug 23 '21

I know Yachtley Crew has started playing gigs again. Ladies love the soft rock.

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u/SouperButtz Aug 23 '21

Most of these answers are for senior citizens. If that’s what OP meant by older, more power to them.

If you instead meant like 40ish, please let me know when you get a good answer.

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u/aroundtownbtown Aug 23 '21

60 is the new 30, ask any plastic surgeon

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u/ElectrikDonuts Aug 23 '21

Can confirm. Neighbor is 72+. She looks 50.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Sqrt 69 is the new 8-something.

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u/Sky_King73 Aug 23 '21

Nah 60 is 60 bruh

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u/Yotsubato Aug 23 '21

40 year old women hang out where late 20s and 30s hang out. They don’t act like they’re 40 until they’re 50

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u/nameisdriftwood Aug 23 '21

30s and 40s are pretty much the same

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

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u/Currencymachine Aug 23 '21

Any Erewhon

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u/hamster_ball Aug 23 '21

They’ll be more interested in their $30 health juice than you lol

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u/PinataPower9 Aug 23 '21

Leisure World in Seal Beach!

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u/arvzi Aug 23 '21 edited Sep 18 '21

LOL too bad the front end security is so tight it's pretty much impossible to get in unless you're on the pre-approved list. Just gotta find one cougar who likes to party and then you're good.

Source: Have family with places inside LW

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u/Nervous-Worry6092 Aug 23 '21

Santa Fe Springs Swapmeet on a band night. Come on, these are too easy.

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u/dickspace Aug 23 '21

For old cholas maybe.

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u/Nervous-Worry6092 Aug 23 '21

Is that not what OP is looking for?...

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u/SilverLakeSimon Aug 23 '21

How about one of those buses that take people to the Indian casinos on Tuesday mornings?

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u/PairPearPare Aug 23 '21

Listen to u/SilverLakeSimon, OP! If you're lookin' for a steamy May-December romance, this is your answer!

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u/SilverLakeSimon Aug 23 '21

I also recommend watching Harold and Maude on your first Netflix-and-chill date. Or Netflix and nap.

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u/anjelbaby96 Aug 23 '21

Harold and Maude lmaoooo

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u/DarkOmen597 Aug 23 '21

Beavis and Butthead did it.

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u/CAD007 Aug 23 '21

Etiwanda Roadhouse in Rancho Cucamonga

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

You’re gonna be my regular Saturday night thang. ROAD HOUSE.

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u/Background-Buddy-234 Aug 23 '21

Funny I’d thought you’d be bigger.

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u/BosskHogg Aug 23 '21

Be nice.

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u/405freeway Aug 23 '21

Downtown Fullerton

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u/REVERSEZOOM2 Aug 23 '21

Can confirm. Place is full of milfs

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u/pixiegod Aug 23 '21 edited Aug 23 '21

There’s a bar there that reportedly roofies people…so be wary of that place for the time being…

Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/orangecounty/comments/oywrkl/young_woman_says_someone_drugged_raped_her_during/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

The bar is called JP23 Urban Kitchen and bar…there was a response from the bar that “exonerates” themselves, but multiple people have reported the same story and it seems to growing.

I don’t know what the truth is here, but it doesn’t look good…and until it’s all settled it would be safer to stay away from that bar.

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u/pejasto Aug 23 '21

This is hilariously vague. V into it.

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u/pixiegod Aug 23 '21

I agree and have edited the post with more info. I honestly thought everyone in the area had already heard and this was a well,known thing…

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u/TonyTheTerrible West Hollywood Aug 23 '21

people are saying that about all kinds of places then recanting after the damage is done

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u/pixiegod Aug 23 '21

I did cover that in my post…like I said, right now…with multiple reports from different people over different moments in time doesn’t look good. So I would stay away until things shake out…

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u/peepjynx Echo Park Aug 23 '21

I was just there for coffee. Am 40.

launches self off random mountain.

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u/doyle_brah Santa Clarita Aug 23 '21

Houstons bar on Friday afternoon/evening

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u/grandiloves Silver Lake Aug 23 '21

javier's century city, pace, anywhere in agoura hills, anywhere in calabasas, joan's on third in studio city, hot 8 yoga (any location)

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u/stcwhirled Venice Aug 23 '21

Javiers in Newport is the OG Cougar Den!

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u/Happy_face_cellar Aug 23 '21

They aren’t older, you are apparently young

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u/Nick_on_Faya Aug 23 '21

BullPen, Redondo Beach

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u/stefstars93 LA Native Aug 23 '21

Any local Ralph’s

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u/proteinaficionado Aug 23 '21

*Whole Foods, my man.

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u/stefstars93 LA Native Aug 23 '21

Lmao I considered putting that one but there’s a lot of young women that shop there, I feel, more than the older ones.

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u/proteinaficionado Aug 23 '21

Gotta say Ralph's is good too. Costco in Los Feliz ain't that bad either 🤣.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Bristol Farms or Gelson's*

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u/tooful Aug 23 '21

During senior shopping hour

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u/SupaZT Redondo Beach Aug 23 '21

TJs too... But usually everyone is in a rush there

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Just hang out in the cuke section

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u/somedudeinlosangeles Altadena Aug 23 '21

Yoooo. There’s a spot in Calabasas. I can’t think of the name right now. Stand by.

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u/Onepercentlessworse_ Aug 23 '21

Sagebrush?

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u/somedudeinlosangeles Altadena Aug 23 '21

I think that might be it. MILF vibes were heavy there. They even lived closed by. Take that for whatever it’s worth.

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u/busterbluth21 Aug 23 '21

Probably anywhere in Calabasas TBH

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u/IHateArizona Aug 23 '21

It was called Bogies ;) it’s something else now.

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u/ItsYourMotherDear Flairy godmother Aug 23 '21

Tell me more about this "thing" you have...

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u/fedora_and_a_whip Aug 23 '21

"How you doin'..."

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u/DecentLiterature3366 Aug 23 '21

I like older women basically lol

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u/Sickle_and_hamburger Aug 23 '21

Did you not catch the username there?

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u/BothKindsofMusic Aug 23 '21

How old is old?

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u/Nothing_Scared Aug 23 '21

The Starting Gate at Los Alamitos. That’s a Sabertooth den

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u/snortWeezlbum Aug 23 '21

Santa clarita

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Uh.. I’m 32.. wassup? 😅

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u/_its_a_SWEATER_ Pasadena Aug 23 '21

Too young.

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u/Sagebrush23 Sherman Oaks Aug 23 '21

Hi! If you are looking for late 30s to 40s ladies, from my personal experience (40f) I would go to local "dive bars" that are well established. If I feel safe at a local bar, I'm all about hanging out at them and so are all my girlfriends.

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u/patrickstarfish772 Aug 23 '21

Women in their 30s are cougars? Oh sheesh, I didn’t get this memo.

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u/lockness2799 Aug 23 '21

I prefer the term "cougette"

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u/guhhh_raise Aug 23 '21

Gosh, I forget I'm now in my thirties. I feel personally attacked.

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u/limache Aug 23 '21 edited Aug 23 '21

Hm she said late 30s, like 38 or 39.

That’s definitely milf age - I always thought of 37 as the perfect milf age lol.

If a woman has kids in her mid to late 20s, let’s say 28.

By the time she’s in her late 30s, her kids would be 8 to 10 years old.

That’s my logic.

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u/patrickstarfish772 Aug 23 '21

And women without kids? What are those? Cougar makes me think late 40s/50s. But to each their own.

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u/peepjynx Echo Park Aug 23 '21

Yeah I didn't think I was a "cougar" age... but maybe I am.

I feel like the Xennials are really in-between what society deems "cougars" vs "young people."

But according to MSM, I'm a "Millennial who is constantly ruining old-timey things."

PICK ONE!!!!!

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u/limache Aug 23 '21

I agree and I think it’s just milf vs cougar. I do also think of 40s and 50s as cougar but milf is technically a lot of variety of ages since some women have kids pretty young and some pretty late.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Your name is literally Sagebrush, another cougar hot-spot in Calabasas

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u/Sagebrush23 Sherman Oaks Aug 23 '21

Lol true, but definitely not my kinda vibe

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u/DecentLiterature3366 Aug 23 '21

I am looking at that age.. I see we are local

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

hit up the bars in hermosa beach

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Victorville

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u/Nervous-Worry6092 Aug 23 '21

If memory serves, Rudy's off of the 60 on Pomona Blvd. (formerly Love Hate/t.quilas) is a beehive for sure. Plenty of old cholas looking for a firme rola to dance up on their vato to, nawm sayin??

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u/scottiethegoonie Aug 23 '21

Hit up Jon's Market in Reseda.

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u/DJfunkyPuddle Aug 23 '21

Pottery Barn

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u/CaliGrades Aug 23 '21

Start posting to LinkedIN; the cougars will come in droves...

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u/throwaway966912 Aug 23 '21

I didn’t realize I was allowed to use this subreddit to get sex advice. 😭

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u/pudding7 San Pedro Aug 23 '21

Technically he's using it for advice about how to get sex.

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u/spiderinside Aug 23 '21

The Subway on Wilshire in SM. Got completely accosted a couple times despite being disinterested and wearing a wedding ring

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u/ChickumNwaffles Aug 23 '21

Moonshadows in Malibu or the bar at Bandera

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u/patrickstarfish772 Aug 23 '21

Brentwood Whole Foods

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u/Nervous-Worry6092 Aug 23 '21

They travel in packs, the other day there was a whole flock of them at my job in dtla

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u/devil_n_i Aug 23 '21

Griffith park at night

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u/NiceSubstance2085 Aug 23 '21

Dollar tree, dog parks fs, Trader Joe’s got all the milfs

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u/wake886 Aug 23 '21

Retirement homes

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u/Service_Plane Aug 23 '21

Panocha's Grill in C asablanca

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

Adultlook etc

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u/IHateArizona Aug 23 '21

If isabelles is still a thing, there. Trust me.

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u/tiffpac Woodland Hills Aug 23 '21

Stonehaus in Westlake Village

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u/wellmadephoto Aug 23 '21

The Magic Lamp in Upland (?)

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u/W8sB4D8s Hollywood Aug 23 '21

On the Thirty in Sherman Oaks.

The first time I went there I was 24 and a 45ish cougar sat next to me and asked if I lived near by.

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u/Monster_Kody_ Aug 23 '21

Bro Delilah in Hollywood, Also the Library bar downtown. Day time hotel pools in BH

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u/Crawfork1982 Aug 23 '21

Bogies in Westlake village- known for Cougarville

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u/Usher_Digital Aug 23 '21

Bumble premium, age range 35-50, spotlight on Wednesday and Thursday nights. Good luck.

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u/bissellpowerforce Aug 24 '21

As a Milf lover, thank you for your contributions everyone

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

The Huntley in SM

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

No need to ask, there are always Hot Milfs I your area

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u/Shot-Ad-624 Aug 24 '21 edited Aug 24 '21

As a Courgar always looking for a cub...thanks for the list of places to go😉❤

Edit: I'm queer and not into straight dudes

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u/Old-Meringue1218 Aug 23 '21

Try some bingo parlors or family dollar stores.

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u/[deleted] Aug 23 '21

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u/Tomehwack420 Aug 23 '21

The library