They are saying they are doing the big thing i.e. risk their life, but will they do the little things i.e clean up after themselves will they do basic chores.
They’re saying it’s not important enough to them that you have or will or would risk their life etc if you aren’t a useful roommate. Honestly I’d just leave her right there.
Well I have different needs out of a partner vs. a bodyguard. Needing basic assistance with minor shared responsibilities is a lot more likely to come up than a need for one of us to sacrifice our life.
And if someone wouldn't share basic daily responsibilities I strongly doubt their claim that they'd die for me, and there's no way to put that claim to the test in a way where both of us are alive to see if it is true.
My problem is that it is their reaction to the moment, that it wasn’t enough. Wouldn’t matter what you are doing or have done if you don’t do the thing they had in mind, you didn’t do enough. Go find a dishwasher I will find someone that appreciates me
The very short verbiage leaves a large question as to what is happening in the moment. The song itself indicates the woman he’s singing to doesn’t have the same commitment to him as he does to her. Using that as a starting point, if her reaction is to ask him to do the dishes, there’s still no commitment on her part.
Pro tip: "Id take a bullet for you" "id rope the moon for you" "I'd crawl across hot coals for you" and similar sentiments long outdate Bruno Mars.
The meme uses a line from his song, I guess, but the sentiment is much broader and my guess is that the person who originally posted doesn't only mean this one singy guy.
I mean I don’t get grenades lobbed at me daily but I definitely use dishes every day. I care a lot more about whether my life partner is willing to help with mundane chores than I do about them proclaiming that they’ll lay down their life for mine. If they’re not willing to help with the dishes why would I want to send my life or even an extended period of time with them?
“Without asking”. One person expressed their love and commitment and the other cuts them off to say they don’t anticipate her needs quickly enough. He needs to let her find that domestic servant.
I mean, yeah, a relationship isn't built off of dying for each other. A relationship that lasts is one built off of caring for each other, taking on the duties equally, and respect.
So often, men in hetero relationships make these huge claims about what they'd do for their partner, but then leave cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, grocery shopping, entertaining, calendar-keeping, etc. solely to their partner. It's about a partnership - I didn't get married to have a bodyguard die for me. I got married to have a husband build a life with me.
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u/MundaneKiwiPerson 1d ago
They are saying they are doing the big thing i.e. risk their life, but will they do the little things i.e clean up after themselves will they do basic chores.