What a boomer thinks of his marriage

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Why do they even get married?

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u/Decent-Flatworm4425 Apr 10 '24

So that they can make comic strips about it

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u/Bendodge13 Apr 12 '24

It makes sense now

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u/memecrusader_ Apr 10 '24

Because it was expected of them.

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u/anythingMuchShorter Apr 10 '24

And then they criticize younger generations for waiting a long time to get married. Because many of us wait till we find someone we actually are happy to be with, actually care deeply about, and really can't imagine ever wanting to be without, instead of just picking the best option we can find by our mid 20's.

"You might get too old and be single forever" they'll warn, even while demonstrating that being with the wrong person is worse than being single. And you can meet someone at any age anyway, especially if you don't have hangups about being their first.

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u/FaygoMakesMeGo Apr 11 '24

Same with having kids. It should be a personal choice when and if.

I guess people with regrets build houses of copium, and other people having options are walking wrecking balls.

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u/anythingMuchShorter Apr 11 '24

I agree. I am very happy I have my kids. But the costs and benefits are so huge and personal no one can say if it’s worth it to someone else.

But the thing is, I’m happy with my life. I definitely feel like I’ve seen a pattern where the ones who push it the hardest are the most miserable. If they can get someone else to agree with their choice they feel reassured.

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u/This-Perspective-865 Apr 10 '24

Many boomers and earlier generations got married because “that was you were supposed to do.” Fast forward to today, these people are coming out as LGBTQIA+ and hate their marriages.

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u/RoughSpeaker4772 Apr 10 '24

Why is everybody suddenly gay today?22?2??2?2?

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u/EremiticFerret Apr 10 '24

I think it's become clear many got married "because they were supposed to".

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u/BlokeAlarm1234 Apr 10 '24

I’m speaking only about men here, but:

Your parents want you to

Society wants you to

You don’t want people to think you’re gay

You want someone to do your chores

You want cheaper health insurance and taxes

You’ve been brainwashed into thinking you must have children

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

Because life is about survival and not happiness. That used to be a well known thing. Not so much now.

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u/TOPSIturvy Apr 10 '24

Ah yes, my favorite doctrine from the founding fathers:

"None are endowed with rights. They must seek to earn the privileges of: Life, ...and that's it."

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

You're referring to the PURSUIT of happiness.

Life is about survival. Once you've figured that out and you have the want and time then sure pursue happiness.

Modern generations think it's priority one because things are a lot easier now. They don't realize that we're 1 significant world war or natural disaster from having to find fresh water and hunt.

Let the Internet, water supply, or electricity go out nationwide for a week or two and see if happiness is still the first priority.

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u/TOPSIturvy Apr 10 '24

You do know what a right is, ye? It means something you are permitted by default? The right to the pursuit of happiness doesn't mean "Eh, once you're 65 and all your best labor years are behind you, maybe you can try and be happy in life." The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that it should be the goal of a nation that your right to try to live in a way that makes you happy be as universally permitted as your right to live at all. To say otherwise is thinking in reverse.

But I'm getting the feeling I'm talking to this sub's subject, not its intended audience.

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

I never said that you don't have the right.

I'm just telling you what life is about. Survival.

Also the founding fathers aren't the end all be all. Just 7 old white dudes that would have thought I was a slave. That's also in a document written for one country on the planet.

My advice works for ANYONE ANYWHERE. Not just Americans.

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u/Former-Bet6170 Apr 10 '24

Life is about very different things for very different people, you don't get a say on what life is about for anyone other than yourself

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

No it's not.

We all need food, water, and shelter to (wait for it...) SURVIVE.

You can not live off of happiness. It is secondary. Once you have figured out how to survive then and only then do you get a chance at pursuing happiness.

Lol this is why depression, anxiety, and suicide rates are so high. You all think life is about happiness so when you find out that it's not you don't know how to move forward.

You need a significant other, you need children, you need to work, you need to be a productive member of society. Happiness is optional.

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u/Common_Problem404 Apr 10 '24

See I thought you were on a point about Maslow's hierarchy of needs and that... Kinda, made sense, afterall, you're right, you can't live off happiness but you also aren't going to be happy if your basic needs aren't met. On the flip side, once you obtain a basic need (example, buying a house and having a stable living situation) you're going to be happy. Survival and happiness are linked because success releases dopamine. What you're talking about is satisfaction and contentment, living up to your full potential, a life well lived, well fought, and one you worked hard for, THAT is optional. And THAT doesn't (nessicarily) come from any of this:

You need a significant other, you need children, you need to work, you need to be a productive member of society. Happiness is optional.

No. Just, no. Because you don't actually care about the individuals survival, clearly, you care about societies survival as a whole. You DO NOT need children or to be a "productive member of society" to be happy, much less survive. However, for society to continue on, you need to. Personally, I don't give a shit about our society and having kids would make me miserable, so by "surviving" I'd be making my life hell. How many other people feel this way but instead they focus on following the rules of survival? How many end up so miserable that they make fun of random strangers for being scared of the dark?

You talked about how everyone grew up thinking life was about being happy and, when they found out it wasn't, it lead to mass depression and anxiety. I'd argue it's the opposite, I grew up thinking life would only ever be survival and, at 20, when I realized it didn't have to be that way, my depression anxiety cured itself (okay, fine, it was the Adderall for my ADHD). BUT it wasn't until I stopped caring about societies version of survival that I actually started to have some fun.

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u/Safelyignored Apr 12 '24

friendly reminder that people like that guy regularly vote against worker's rights and wage increases. Scum of the earth, honestly.

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

Too much to read, sorry.

I probably disagree though.

Me and the wife are about to clean the chicken coop. Think one of the hens has started brooding.

Good day.

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u/ayetherestherub69 Apr 10 '24

I get the feeling you aren't happy. I'm sorry, and I hope you find your happiness.

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u/Cracka_Chooch Apr 10 '24

This guy's comments scream of "I was forced to live this way so everyone else needs to as well". Probably secretly gets angry when he sees someone younger who's happy with life and living just fine, so the only way he can cope is by doubling down that he's right and they're wrong.

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

I'm very happy lol. I learned how to survive and was taught to. Nobody told me life was about happiness.

In my early 30s and retired because I worked hard after HS. Just chillin on my Ranch while typing this.

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 10 '24

I actually agree with your points, and they remind me of a Schopenhauer quote I thought would be worth sharing:

"There is only one inborn error, and that is the notion that we exist in order to be happy... So long as we persist in this inborn error... the world seems to us full of contradictions. For at every step, in things great and small, we are bound to experience that the world and life are certainly not arranged for the purpose of maintaining a happy existence... hence the countenances of almost all elderly persons wear the expression of what is called disappointment."

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

Great quote and it sums up what I'm saying nicely.

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '24

How old are you? Just out of curiosity.

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

Early 30s

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '24

I would’ve thought you were much older. You seemed really mad at people for not wanting to be married just to be married.

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u/Bright_Appearance390 Apr 10 '24

Really mad? That's a reach. I'm not cursing or anything. Upset maybe and that's only after people commented that I'm wrong. I'm not.

And it's not about marriage itself. It's the concept of life. It's about survival and not being happy. Marriage is just apart of that and happens to be the subject here.

We need someone to spend our lives with and to have children with. That is usually associated with marriage.

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u/New_Ambassador2442 Apr 10 '24

Beleive it or not, this is a comic, not meant to taken srsly

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u/unlockdestiny Apr 10 '24

Thanks, Captain Obvious! 🫡

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u/New_Ambassador2442 Apr 10 '24

Your welcome :)

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u/FlixMage Apr 14 '24

You’re*

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u/New_Ambassador2442 Apr 14 '24

It's just your. As in your spelling and grammar doesn't really matter in an informal setting such as Reddit.

Stay mad

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '24

Given that all three people are literally identical, this reads less like a wedding and more like a psychotic episode.

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u/Intrepid_Hat7359 Apr 10 '24

Just like my marriage! Am I right?

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u/EveryoneTakesMyIdeas Apr 10 '24

laugh track

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u/DangerousEye1235 Apr 10 '24

Ok now that's pretty funny

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u/unlikely-contender Apr 10 '24

Different glasses, different clothes

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '24

Yes, that's why I said that the people are identical, not that their clothes are identical. Identical twins who dress differently are still identical twins.

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u/unlikely-contender Apr 11 '24

Different hair, differently shaped heads

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '24

Same shape of head, and that's clearly a wig.

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u/thisisallterriblesir Apr 10 '24

"My objection is that we're identical twins."

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u/CailenBelmont Apr 10 '24

I always see those guys on their stag night wearing t-shirts saying something along the lines of "Game over" or "My life is about to end". My guys, literally nobody forces you to marry. If this is how you start your marriage, why would you commit to it in the first place?

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u/ihaveananecdote4u Apr 10 '24

And also, there’s like a 99% chance that they’re the one that proposed soooo….

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u/ingoding Apr 10 '24

TBF, I'd give a 30% chance she ordered that shirt for him, and his friends a larger percentage.

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u/adameofthrones Apr 10 '24

A lot of these guys expect a woman to work full time, watch the kids, do all the chores, cook, blow him every day, and never complain. Anything other than that is literal torture. 🙄

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u/IrisYelter Apr 10 '24

I also wouldn't want to marry my sister

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u/-The-Reviewer- Apr 10 '24

Those glasses annoy me so much

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u/Nova_Badger Apr 10 '24

I've honestly started looking at comics like this as boomers admitting they're not mentally sound enough to make their own decisions, otherwise it's just a comic of a boomer man who presumably dated a woman he hated, just to propose to this woman he hates, plan a wedding with her, put on his suit and go to the wedding, only to object at the last minute because only now does he decide it's an appropriate time to declare he hates her and doesn't want to marry her, or that he just doesn't wanna get married, in which case I still ask, why would you not just say no or not propose?

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u/Vivi_Pallas Apr 10 '24

Bro you asked if she would marry you.

Why would ask if you don't want to be married?

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u/xkind Apr 13 '24

He was educated about incest a few minutes ago

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u/Hightonedloidy Apr 10 '24

Why did he agree to go through with the wedding then?

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u/thatHecklerOverThere Apr 10 '24

I'll object to him marrying his twin sister as a well.

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u/Pink_Monolith Apr 10 '24

Hey I would oppose too if my wife looked identical to me.

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u/BustedAnomaly Apr 10 '24

Humor is when hate woman

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u/RyuuDraco69 Apr 10 '24

Like I generally don't understand this joke. Why the f are you getting married if you don't actually want to be with that person? What's more these are the same people saying you should settle down and get married before your 30. Like you're constantly complaining about how "marriage bad" "wife = ball and chain" "wife nag" "no freedom" yeah no thanks, if you're going to complain and talk bad about it I'm not going to immediately make the same mistake and either not get married or find someone I'd actually want to be with

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u/Less_Somewhere7953 Apr 10 '24

Im so sick of seeing men complaining about their wives in comments on this site. If you tell them to stop complaining or leave, they get so offended lol. Maybe I’m being naïve, but you’d think you would only have nice things to say about the person you supposedly love

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u/Temporary-Purpose431 Apr 10 '24

"Ha! Heh Heh."

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u/SillyEmoMan Apr 11 '24

I WANTED TO MARRY A MAAN, SIR! I OBJECT!

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u/birdmanne Apr 11 '24

Why do boomer men hate the women THEY ASKED to marry??

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u/MountainPhoenix13 Apr 11 '24

He’s marrying his twin sister so of course he objects 🤭 silly boomer

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u/Elixershortage Apr 11 '24

This one was a little funny

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u/Delgrango17 Apr 11 '24

Who gets married in a pink dress?

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u/xkind Apr 13 '24

a 74 year old who doesn't give a shit anymore

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u/fuggilis_quastillo Apr 12 '24

I don't understand what the months are supposed to be

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u/[deleted] Apr 12 '24

i fucking hate these 2

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u/Jack-Alope420 Apr 12 '24

Hurhur I hate having meaningful relationships that have a bare minimum requirement of not being a selfish troglodyte.

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u/xkind Apr 13 '24 edited Apr 13 '24

At least marry someone with square glasses.

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 10 '24

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u/Stickz99 Apr 10 '24

I think the edit redeems you lol. We all laugh at weird things when we’re cooked at 2 am. As long as you’re aware that this is unfunny and shitty, you good

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u/Dew_Chop Apr 10 '24

Mate how old are you

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u/ingoding Apr 10 '24

Just the way the people look is worth a chuckle

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u/Evil__Overlord Apr 10 '24

If we ignore the cultural context of "wife bad" boomer jokes, I think it's kind of funny from the absurdity of it

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u/FillTheHoleInMyLife Apr 10 '24

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