Am I overreacting for getting up at my gf singing the its 95 degrees I ain’t got a beep and a beep ain’t got me? Okay so for context Im 19(f) and she’s also 19(f). We were on the phone doing long distance while the duration of our college summer break. She starts singing the song and I told her I didn’t not like it and she keep singing the song. I told her that people who are singing are single, she was not. She did it again. So I hung up the phone. She called me back right away, so i answered thinking she realized it. But she sang it again, I got upset and started crying. She said that its not that deep it just a song but I told her its about why ppl are singing it. Yk to show people they are single. Then I realized okay it’s just a song whatever but I was upset at the fact that she didn’t care that I was upset and didn’t try to understand why. She brushed it off. Again I was upset because it was something that she could have just not said if it hurt me like it did. I was the one who ended up apologizing for acting the way that I did, which was being upset at one of my feelings. I apologize for it and she laughed about and said it’s okay. Am I overreacting?

(the link if you have no idea what im talking about: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/9ej9VUui15 )

First, i wanna start this off as saying i only left that previous post for confirmation. this might be tmi but i have issues with acknowledging my reactions, bad or good. i tend to overthink to the point where i have no idea what i feel or how i felt. i also tend to disassociate a LOT, especially in stressful situations so i just needed some outside info because i didnt see any research or help on this online.

To the update: i got a lot of replies telling me to leave him, but i didnt wanna just give up on this because of something i felt was pretty fixable so i decided to talk to him once he was awake. we ended up talking it out and making a compromise we both agreed to. we both agreed we can do things alone as long as we tell eachother first so we arent just left in the dark. we explored the benefits and faults of this compromise and figured it was a good start until his mentality around this changes with therapy. im personally happy with this because i can freely do what i want to do, and he can too(not saying he ever couldnt), without much worry on the other person’s end. i think this outcome was pretty good and we ended up having a really civilized conversation that i felt really good about. we both communicated how we felt and how it affected us, we learned, and we adapted. thank you guys for all the insights and support!!

Met her a week ago and we did hit it off at first but then she started getting weird once she got comfortable. She keeps making race jokes and then she confessed that her & her family have history of being racist. Apparently I’m an asshole for not giving her a chance though

Me “32F” and my boyfriend “42M” have been together for almost 4 years. We live together and have been serious for just about as long as we have been together. It felt like love at first sight we just fit together and I do love him so much and he says the same things about me. We have talked seriously about marriage and are definitely going to get married eventually. We haven’t been in a rush because It already feels like we’re married anyway and financially lately we’re struggling to even take a vacation so a marriage and wedding right now isn’t the top priority. I have been married once and divorced and he’s never been married. He says he knows I’m the one he wants to marry me and I love him and want to spend my life with him and marry him too. He hasn’t gave me a reason to not trust him in the past or I haven’t found anything to worry about as far as I know and same goes for him, I am faithful to him. We do have our share of our arguments and disagreements but we always work it out and have stayed together. Which leads me to the situation I come here to ask about. I work with a girl, my coworker “23F” for about 3 months me and her have hung out together a couple times outside of work and gotten close working together. She’s a sweet girl and seems to have a good head on her shoulders. She seems mature for her age, I even asked why she wants to hang with me I’m 10 years older basically and old and lame lol . She says she is used to hanging out with older people and has more in common with them. She also has a boyfriend who is I believe “24M” and they live together with his mother. She and her boyfriend are not doing that great though. She tells me all about how they all live together with all his siblings, his mom and they all fight constantly it’s just a toxic environment. The boyfriend is unemployed on top of all that so it’s all her money shes spending on thier relationship. She’s complained to me and told me that she considering leaving him. My boyfriend and her have met through passing like him coming to visit me at work a couple times while she’s been working there. I remember the last time he was there at my job I was hugging on him and kissing on his neck and I happened to look behind his neck and locked eyes with her staring right at me, umm? My boyfriend and I had had been standing there visiting alone for a moment after she had already made a point to speak to him like she does any other time he’s been there. Like she had plenty of time to walk away and give us some time. Once me and her went out to dinner and out to a couple bars after. She was going to be the DD for us. I drank more than I should probably and was buzzed at most but I was far from drunk. I still have memory of everything. She made a comment to these other people at the bar as I walking away like apologizing for me as if I had been bothering them. One guy had bought me a couple drinks already not flirting to my knowledge just being nice he covered my rounds with the bartender and I was just minding my business and having fun with everyone that night. I really don’t think I was bothering anyone it just seemed snarky or like jealousy. I think she thought I was drunker than I was and maybe thought I wouldn’t remember or hear. I just ignored her and went to hang with other people for a while because she was starting to get on my nerves and I was just ready to go home. So eventually I find her again and we’re sitting next to each other at the bar. I called my boyfriend to check on him because I rarely ever go out so when I do I miss him and my fur babies! She starts talking to him too and trying to join the conversation so I turn on speaker so we could all talk together because no big deal that’s fine. This girl takes the phone out of my hand and turns it off speaker and puts it to her ear!! Like what!! I yanked it right back from her and I told my boyfriend I’ll talk to you later. I’m ready to go after that. It made me mad but I kept my cool with her I tell her it’s time to go home. She drives me home and comes inside with me. I think she said she needed to use the bathroom .My boyfriend had work the next morning so he was about to get ready and said he was about to take his clothes off for bed and said we came in and she walked down the hall to our bedroom and was kind of lingering after we had both told her goodnight. Maybe she thought I would pass out or something? Idk it’s strange or maybe I am overthinking on everything and it’s just harmless. Maybe I’m being crazy. I will add multiple times now when we have been at work she has answered my phone when my boyfriend calls me and I have been busy and couldn’t get to my phone she answered it! One time very recently she didn’t even bring the phone to me to tell me he was on the phone like she could very easily come find me instead she just told him I wasn’t available. I would never touch someone else’s phone unless they asked me to answer it or bring it to them, I would never flirt with someone’s significant other especially if you say you’re someone’s friend! Not everyone is like me though, I have to remind myself of that. I want to have a friend and for us all get along but I feel like there’s boundaries and some things cross a line then I feel sometimes like I’m overreacting. What do you all think? Do you think I need to worry about this girl trying to steal my man? What’s your opinions? AIO?

I (35F) have been with my BF (30M) for around 7 months. There have been a few issues, not all smooth sailing from the beginning. His communication can be up and down, mostly down during his just work season spring/summer. There were times during the work season that I was lucky to get a handful of messages. To the point where I wouldn't even get a goodnight from him.

Moving on. We both have kids from previous relationships (mine are 13 &5 and his 7), I am 50/50 whereas he is a primary parent with only one day off. I respect this and for the most part try to make it work, I always go over to spend time with him and his daughter since he doesn't get days away. I did have to recently cut back because I don't get the sleep I need at his house due to his daughter coming into the room throughout the night and either talking throughout times she wakes up (which he doesn't wake up to) or just waking me up from coming in. He is on off time from his seasonal job so this doesn't bother him. However I work a stressful job Mon-Fri and then do have kids sports on the weekends even when it's not my weekends with them so I rarely get to sleep in and rest.

I will admit he did make an effort in introducing me to his daughter relatively early on so we could spend more time together, if not it would have been every other Friday and during his work season not even that because he would work from 7am-9pm and not want to visit and barely message those days. So he does make effort. However we are having a serious disagreement over NYE.

I had asked him if he wanted to do something awhile ago and he said yes but we had no plans and everything was vague. Anyway I followed up and he said we could take his daughter to the fireworks. This was not the date night NYE I wanted so I mentioned that was a nice idea and he could do that but I didn't want to. He asked me what I wanted to do and I mentioned that last year I went out for a nice dinner and it was fun, he said he wasn't sure if he could do that but maybe we could bring his daughter and make it happen. I again said no but he could go do the fireworks and I would see if my friends were busy. They are so that sucks.

But anyway he called me today and attempted to sandwich our plans around the fireworks idea. We could go out for dinner then come back do the fireworks thing and then go out again. I reiterated that I did not want to do this. I was looking forward to a potential date night, childless day. He mentioned that I knew he had his kid and he's not wrong, I did. But I didn't think it would be a big deal to get a sitter for NYE and have a date night?

He then said all holidays are important and I knew how important family is to him and he's a primary parent. We stopped the phonecall as I was in tears trying to explain alone nights are important to me with him just repeating the above at me. I did text him and let him know I understand however it was sad I was never going to get any holiday alone. That him being a primary parent is part of my point, I've asked for two days in seven months and he's never planned a date night.

AIO for being upset that he will only make plans around the hour it takes to take her to the fireworks?

thanks everyone for the consensus. I am a-hole and will break it off with him asap

KEY: Red: Cat (Lea) Black: My good friend (Georgia) Violet: unnecessary information

I (mid-20s F) recently agreed to cat-sit for my friend’s roommate (also mid-20s F, let’s call her Hannah) as a last-minute favor during the holidays. My friend (we’ll refer to her as Georgia) recently broke her foot so she’s out of state with family for a few months while she recovers. I don’t know her roommate very well, but I felt bad for her cat and said yes. Georgia said that Hannah leaves things messy before she leaves and was curious about the condition of the space. When I arrived at her place, it was a complete mess: there were dirty dishes piled up in the sink and there was rotting food left out. This started an argument between my friend and her roommate because Georgia is a clean person. Fast forward a couple days : I ended up staying overnight to give her cat extra attention because I felt bad for her being alone.

The roommate messaged me while she was away, saying she was upset I didn’t ask permission to bring my kitten over when I stayed the night which I completely understand but I kept my kitten in a separate room in a play tent for the night. I’ve volunteered to raise dozens of kittens ranging from 10 days old to infected with a ringworm and recently brought one back from the brink of death after a raccoon attack so what I’m trying to say is I kinda know what I’m doing and would’ve left at the sign of any stress from either pet. She also brought up that her sink was full because the garbage disposal was broken (which is true but the left side of the sink works perfectly fine and to prove my point I took a 10 minute video, about how long it would’ve taken to wash the dishes, of water running with no leakage) and accused me of being disrespectful for commenting on the condition of her apartment. She said she didn’t ask me to scoop the litter because she didn’t want to “ask too much.”

I told her that not scooping the litter for two weeks was neglectful and that the condition of her apartment was unacceptable. She replied that I’m being disrespectful and told me to leave the key and stop watching her cat, saying she’ll have her neighbor check on it instead.

I feel like I’ve gone above and beyond to care for her cat in this situation. Am I overreacting by being upset about the condition of her apartment and her reaction to me bringing my kitten over?

For context, me and my dad have had an extremely rocky relationship for many years. In July 2020, I decided I needed a break from living there. My plan wasn’t to live full time with my mom, but it ended up happening. I started seeing him again in October 2021, and the first thing I noticed was that EVERYTHING in my room was gone. Every sentimental item from my childhood, all of my clothes, everything. Flash forward, I haven’t seen him in person since December 2021. I think mainly nerves and resentment for all of the many things that have happened over the years. Now this, we were texting regarding my birthday, and I even mentioned hanging out with HIS sister. My aunt and I have a closer age gap than him. He never responded, never said happy thanksgiving, just radio silence. Since then, I thought I should bring up that I have been in contact with my step mom frequently. She has never missed a holiday text, and always texts me throughout the week asking me about my life and updating about hers and my little brothers (which I feel incredibly guilty about not seeing in so long). And then I saw he texted me on Christmas. It just upset me so much considering the fact that he hadn’t text me for almost 5 months. I’m his first child, and only daughter. How can you go almost half a year without contacting your child? So AIO about this whole situation? I’ve gotten mixed answers from people I’m close with.

He mentioned he was talking to other people all of a sudden. When he told me a week ago I was the only one he was talking to now. But he’s lied so many times about weird little things. He also says things like “I wanna get married” “I wanna have babies with you” “I wish you were with me” “I want to hug you, hold you etc” but he never wants to actually see me. He thinks it’s “rushing” and makes other excuses which I think is weird when he says all that shit to me and wants to be in a relationship. I have no feelings towards him at all because I expect this kinda thing but I feel insulted because I was trying to make a connection somewhat.

Should I tell this other girl that she looks like me has the same name as me and this guy has a kid from another relationship and is a weirdo?

An acquaintance of mine chose the same name for her child. I'm annoyed because she used to ask me about how my life is and would "like" my child's photos and I can't help feeling like she was observing my life and copying parts of it.

She even moved to the same country and same state as I did. I thought this was a coincidence and doesn't really bother me...but using the same name is weird and feels too much of a coincidence.

I haven't mentioned anything to our mutual friends because I felt that would seem weird and petty. If she had not known my child's name and that was purely coincidental, I would not mind at all but she's known my child's name for years now.

I've hidden my stories from her and her partner but I actually want to delete them from my social media. Is that petty? Am I overreacting?

https://reddit.com/link/1ho0nbo/video/3s8u60tprj9e1/player

damm are yall ready or should we just let him keep extorting the town for another ten years or so i talked to megen today she assured me they are going to get more properties

All these people in all these properties eucalyptus owns heres an idea stop giving his slum lord ass our money

We Take the rent money every single tenant in every eucalyptus owned complex and put it in an account one with the highest interest rates we can find

There it will be until something changes

Either the city folks or housing or whoever the fuck will enforce the things that should be taken care of by a landlord, like should have happened I don’t know how long ago

Enforce our own rental withholdings until all of the shit is habitable the rent moneys going into that account each month towards investments towards a lawyer from somewhere out there where they aren’t all either part of the lovely little lew arrangement or too pussy to do anything

Or they can go ahead and with their current system and take every single one of us to evictions court and if that somehow still doest get any results since the courts and the landlord are all buddies well they can go ahead and come physically evict every single eucalyptus tenant

Or try to. The Midwest has a whole lotta fight in it lets take just a little time off from fighting each other and work together like theyre so scared we might Topeka Wichita yall always wilding out take that energy and use it

Emporia whats up we can get things started right now if youre scared or weak but you want to fight back don’t worry this is just the kind of thing my sons and soldiers and I were meant for

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my boyfriend and i are managers at taco bell. today, while him and i were sitting on the curb outside of work, a car id never seen before pulled up and honked at him. he went over to see who it was, but i could already tell that it was a girl. he ended up standing outside of her car talking to her for half an hour. i went back inside and watched him talk to her on the cameras in the office. keep in mind i have no idea who the hell he was out there talking to, and it was only pissing me off more that i didn’t know who she was. i didn’t want to intervene, so i stayed sitting in the office until he came back in and found me. he told me it was his ex from college?? they dated back in 05 and he said he hadn’t seen her in 15 years. i didn’t say anything i was too upset in the moment, so i went to the bathroom to collect myself. he knew i was upset so he texted me to come talk to him. we ended up having a conversation about it and turns out she also asked him out to dinner? he says he told her about me and declined the dinner, but that doesn’t make me feel any better. i asked him “so if my ex pulled up flagging me down, you would be okay with me approaching and entertaining him for thirty minutes?” my bf said no he wouldn’t be okay with it. i haven’t talked to him since then, and it’s been a few hours. i just want to know if im overreacting here, is it wrong that im upset by this? im having trouble seeing this from my bfs perspective.

To be clear, I do feel that in this case I was overreacting. But I know in the past I have been gaslit into believing that my needs aren’t as important as other people’s, so I just wanted to double check.

For context, my boyfriend lives in a pretty high crime area of our city, or at least there’s about 4 people sleeping on the streets of each block. It was about 9pm. I was feeling really sad but didn’t communicate that (that’s on me), and I wanted to leave so I got my shoes and coat on and told him I was going home. He did offer to walk me and he did start to get his coat on, but I just gave him a kiss and said I could walk myself and started to head out the door. He asked me if I was sure and I said yes, and he asked me to text him when I got home safe. I am embarrassed to admit that part of me just wanted to prove to myself that if he was too tired/comfortable inside/it was too cold outside, whatever, that he’d find any excuse not to walk me to the bus. I feel bad for “trapping” or “testing” him, but I also feel uncared for. But it is my own doing. Anyway, this particular interaction has been weighing on my mind and I just wanted to get a second opinion.

Hey everyone, as a disclaimer, i’d like to say i’m struggling with jealousy and find it very hard to find acceptance in the matter of exes and past relationships, because i myself don’t really have the best experiences sharing stories and etc., so i’d really appreciate u giving me some reality check, if necessary, thank u.

I (F20) started seeing this guy (M27), i really liked him at first, tho we agreed we shouldn’t rush it into something serious right away (i suggested it). After a while, i found out we match pretty well, we started spending more and more time together. When we met first, i basically told him i’m not really comfortable discussing our past, if it’s not absolutely essential for me to know, because i can never process it somehow. He was okay with that, however, over the time, mentioned a few things about his ex girlfriend, like how deep his feelings were for here, how they got back together eventually and how depressed he was when it all ended. Lately i’ve been trying to move on, finally developing feelings for him and i was so ready to build a future with him, but somehow, he holds back.

We both have our own places, so i stay at his and he stays at mine. Once when i slept there, i had to wait for him a few hours alone in his apartment. At the time, i was a little paranoid and suspicioused him to have a girlfriend. Even after several hours and multiple voices drooling into my mind, i left his stuff alone and didn’t dare to touch it… but it didn’t last. I peeked into his wardrobe, didn’t really see anything, except a few “memory items” I was relieved, a little ashamed, but it felt nice.

Well.. and then yesterday, i was left there again.. I battled myself not to do it, but i ended up looking at the stuff i stumbled upon. I was dedicated to find out if there’s the answer to why can’t he take me more seriously.

He has like.. a whole drawer dedicated to his ex, letters, braceletes, notes etc. I felt so bad, i left it alone quickly, but it made me feel so pathetic and kind of sad. Altough, i get that it’s nice to keep practical stuff, like gaming equipment, kitchen accesories, clothes and stuff, i can’t figure out how to feel about this. It’s somehow beautiful that over the time, he still keeps it, but on the other hand, he even had to take the stuff with, as he moved there recently.. I never kept stuff like that, or when it actually meant something for me, i hid it back home, somewhere where it wouldn’t hurt anyone who might find it, when i felt like i don’t want to get rid of it. Now it feels like i can’t let it go, i can’t help but think, the reason he fears commitment is that he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend and values the relationship.

(I also absolutely get that the age gap is kind of what makes us seeing stuff differently.)

Is this normal? Do you keep stuff your exes made you/gave you? Do you hide them? Should i ask about it sometime? How should i feel about this?

Thank you :)

My bf (M19) and I (F20) have been dating for about 6 months. We are long distance and it is hard to hang out a lot because of our conflicting schedules. He knows how I feel about our distance because it affects me more than it does to him. We would make plans and he would forget them but never the plans he made with his friends. A few times before he has made plans on what we agreed was our set hang out day of the week. I have mentioned to him a few times about this. It seems like I am the only person who looks forward to our hangout days and that my excitement is one sided. Am I overreacting?

I have a cooler with snacks and drinks. There’s one driver—let’s call him Dave—who comes to my house when he’s not supposed to since he’s not delivering anything. He has now come back 5xs at least when he’s not supposed to be at my house. Dave just shows up without delivering a package and helps himself to snacks. These snacks aren’t meant for the community; they’re for delivery drivers who actually bring packages to my house. I could just stop leaving snacks out, but since I get so many deliveries, it wouldn’t be fair to the other drivers who appreciate the cooler and respect the system. I think he’s just taking advantage. And I am never home to speak to him.

Today, he finally showed up with a package. When I saw him, I came outside and loudly called out, “Excuse me!” to get his attention a few times and waved at him because I know he wears AirPods. He was less than 3 feet away, so I’m sure he heard me, but he ignored me and walked off. I wanted to calmly ask him not to come to my house unless he’s delivering something, but I didn’t get the chance.

Will I be wrong if I report him to Amazon? I don’t want him to loose his job but I also don’t want him at my house when he shouldn’t be here that’s my main issue.

Hi, I m(22) and my gf(24), we are dating each other for past six months and know each other for 2 years. We liked each other and kept flirting but were never serious, now we’re a bit serious.

So, the other day, she was having a bit of lazy day and I went to her place and I mentioned I want to get something and convinced her to go to mall with me. We went there, everything was going so great, she was happy, bubbling. I got her 2 dresses as small gift.

But as we stepped out of a store, she saw her ex and said she wants to use washroom. So, for me all normal. But when she came out, I saw her being totally off right away and asked about it, she said it was something personal but decided to share with me if I don’t judge.

So, she said she saw someone and it completely ruined her mood, she has mentioned before that past was bad and he’s kinda psychopath. So, i was completely with her and tried to distract or convince her to not think about it, but at one point she mentioned “he’s not gonna be able to sleep for nights now” and that’s when I was a little backed up.

I didn’t say anything bad or anything hurtful to her, but yes she saw it all over me how it affected me to see her being like that. So, I cancelled the dinner plan and took her back to her place.

But she was totally out space, talked to me about how she only want serious relationship, the she said he called her a couple days back with no caller ID but she totally mentioned she doesn’t wanna talk.

Then we didn’t talk much, had food and I came back. Recently she called and said she wants us to go slow and have some space,

She went through alot this year and I completely trust her, I adore her but I just can’t shake off the feeling that we might be together just out of convenience.

I'm a student in a grad program that involves doing internships. One of those internships was a great experience for me. It was a good match for my skills and interests, and offers a good career path. I would like to apply back there for a post-grad job, and it's likely I would get an offer.

My supervisor and I hit it off. We bonded over shared interests & perspectives with work. We're not that far apart in age and experience level. We have a lot in common outside of work too. For context, they're in a committed relationship.

Here's the thing. It stresses me out. I feel like they're too intense and treat me differently than others. During my internship, they gave me more attention and support than the other intern. In group settings, they'd always be focused on me. They wanted to get to know me and hang out outside of work.

After my internship ended, we kept in touch. They brought me back for a one-off project. We met up once in a while to catch up.

I started a new internship and they started volunteering there. I saw them around a lot on their volunteer days. They'd always want to chat, for a long time, about work and life and anything. Eventually, our boss told them to stop. After that, they'd still come say hi, but briefly.

Sometimes I wonder if they do things with a hidden purpose. They got my personal phone number to coordinate a carpool...but we could have used the work messaging app. This one day, they wanted to test some computer stuff, closed the door, had me sit in their chair, got real close to adjust the settings...at the time I didn't think anything, but looking back, I don't see why I had to be there for it. They took me out for drinks and I'm pretty sure they got me a stronger one than what I asked for. With the volunteering thing, they said a few times that they didn't realize I was doing that internship...but I know that they knew, although maybe they forgot. Sometimes the way they text me, I wonder if they're looking for me to ask to meet up.

They've brought up sexual topics a few times. Never in a graphic way or even a sexy way. Just, referencing sex, unnecessarily. They told me something about the relatability of longing for someone you can't have, in reference to a movie they'd seen about someone who has an affair. In the same conversation, they told me that they feel they're too uptight and hold themself to too high a standard.

I think I might be overreacting because they've never done anything inappropriate. I like them. I have a good time talking to them. They're kind and supportive. There's nothing wrong with being friendly or even having attraction. A lot of this is just based on a weird vibe, which isn't very objective. When I asked my friends, some of them think I'm being paranoid. Other people who I know and trust, think they're great.

If it is an inappropriate thing, I don't get what the purpose of any of this is for. They're in a relationship, they can't date me. If they want to have an affair, they're not very good at it.

Even if there is something inappropriate thing going on, maybe it's not a big deal? I don't think they're going to try anything because it's been so long and they had plenty of opportunities.

So to start off with some backstory. I (19M) usually text and/or call with my friend (19F) after her shifts. She is a manager at her place of work, so she works odd hours and that's why we decided to start texting or calling after every shift. At first I didn't mind, but recently after work it seems like whenever I bring up anything theres always SOME argument that happens because of it.

Today, she got out at 5PM. I was pretty busy with helping my brother (11M) with some homework he was supposed to do over break. I told her personally that I wouldnt be able to call until after 5PM, and she left my message on read. At about 5:15 I was able to call, but she wasn't available, and I called my other friend (21M) in the group chat we were in, but she declined the call.

Then she says she was going to take a nap in her car, and while 5PM isn't very late, the sun sets very early where I live, and we live in a very secluded/empty town. That's when the text messages above happened. I was personally just worried about her, and was afraid she would get robbed because there weren't many other people around at that time of day, but she claimed I hurt her and then left the group chat immediately after.

I only wanted to make sure she was safe and felt like sleeping in her car in a dark parking lot was unsafe, and was met with insults and manipulative sentences. AIO or am I right to feel bothered?

My family and I (of 6) recently booked a monthly stay at a 3 bedroom, 2 bath Air BnB listing, hoping to decompress for the holidays. The listing has a pool, and we have 2 kids, so they were really looking forward to it.

Maybe a day after arrival, we noticed two cameras in the backyard that seemed to be pointing directly at the pool. We have two kids, and didn't feel comfortable with that. As well as that, some females in my family have had serious issues with stalking. We called the host straight away and expressed our privacy concerns, and she seemed understanding at the time and agreed to shut them off for the duration of our stay. It was very appreciated.

A week or so passed and the camera lights didn't seem to change. The host said that a green light meant they were recording and a red light was only stand-by mode, but the red light on both that stayed on all the time made it feel like we were still being watched. We were a bit paranoid, I suppose. But, hey, living in the day and age that we do, who wouldn't be? With news stories about interior camera lawsuits against Air BnB, people getting hacked like crazy, and child trafficking stories rampant, it's niavete to not have trust issues.

So we placed a piece of electrical tape lightly over the lens just to give us some piece of mind during the holidays. (I'd read that it wouldn't leave residue and I didn't want to harm the cameras.) Considering the cameras had been turned off via our host, and they seemed understanding about our reasoning, it didn't seem like a "security camera tampering" situation. We were seriously under the impression that it might be a moot point. It was purely for our own peace of mind. Like I said, she assured us that she'd turned them both off.

3 days later, we're awoken at midnight with an angry text from the Air BnB host saying that she noticed we covered the cameras, and we were violating Air BnB policy. She told us to "uncover them immediately or else".

So, our seemingly unjustified paranoia was unfortunately justified. We felt immediately violated and also harassed. Our two kids have been swimming in that pool since we got here, well before we felt sketched out enough to cover the cameras. We went to Air BnB support.

They claimed she was within her rights to video tape the backyard, and that we had to uncover them. We did, but also sent them texts of the hosting saying they'd turn them off for us, and we didn't understand the issue. This was news to AirBnB. All the host told them was that we'd covered the security cameras, so it made us look really sketchy. Then she lied and said she agreed to turn off only one, and only while our kids were swimming. This was not the original statement. It also stands to reason that they would only know exactly when the kids were swimming if A.They are constantly monitoring us or B.They expect us to call them and let them know everytime our kids get in the pool. Which was not the impression that we got on the phone with her, and it does not seem reasonable anyway.

We thought maybe late night surveillance could be justified. Maybe they check in and make sure no one is hopping over the fence or something. Okay. That's fine. It's your property, you want to protect it. But I need to protect my kids. So I covered them back up the next morning (Christmas Eve at this point) because our little girl had been promised she could swim for her holiday.

That's when we got a very hostile text from our host, exclaiming the exact time that we'd covered them back up and if we didn't IMMEDIATELY uncover them then we would be forcibly removed from the premises. On Christmas Eve. With two kids. And no refund. We got back in touch with AirBnB support, who insured us that she could not do that. This was 4 days ago.

Now, things have changed slightly. We do not feel comfortable going into the backyard, even just to sit and cool down during christmas cooking. Our kids are now driven to the lake to swim, even though we paid for the pool. And everytime I DO reluctantly go outside, this weird thing happens where a motion sensor light kicks on, then almost immediately after the red light on the camera closest to the pool completely shuts off. Are we being irrational? Is she within her rights, and we as guests only come off as "Karens"? Or is this really weird to anyone else?

I live across the country but work remote for my parents.

This happened after i asked my brother to fix his work in the family work group chat ( the only group chat we have). I explained he needed to talk to my mom about how to properly set up a customer file and fix the errors on the one he made. That she HATES mistakes in the file.

My mother starting responding to the chats yelling at me for putting extra work on her and that it's my job to fix mistakes.

My brother has been allowed to say whatever to me in this group chat for months and I'm expected to not say anything rude back.

My mom has always said she loves being a mom yet she has always yelled at me for rules she made up on the spot. I was always grounded and being given extra chores and I still don't know why.

I never back talked ad a kid, I got such good grades I got a full ride scholarship to college, I did theater, student government, literary magazine, and school newspaper in high school and never drinks or did drugs under age.

Hell my first cigarette was my 19th birthday.

I've has enough of being treated like a second rate citizen and decided to stand up for myself.

But something in my brain keeps telling me I was in the wrong. Should I give her another chance? If so how do I get her to hear me?

i’m too upset to give full context rn but this was something that happened a long time ago when i was younger and was it very painful for me, i have lost years of my life to trying to heal from this and deal with complex ptsd. he is on the spectrum and will periodically say things like this to me about it if it ever comes up. i have told him over and over it’s a boundary for me and extremely triggering. he cant understand why i’m upset bc what he’s saying is true? i feel insane. i feel emotionally neglected and insane everyday. it’s been 4-5 years of us being together and i’ve tried to break up with him multiple times. i feel so conflicted all the time. please someone give me a reality check.

Hi' 18M here so I cut off one of my closest friends for years cause he's been a major jerk to me crossing boundaries he knows I'm not comfortable joking about. So I confronted him and he claimed I need to stop being so childish amd learn to toughen up and he would bully me till I do cause I won't go anywhere in life the way I am. I told him if he keeps pushing and not willing to even compromise I would stop being friends with him. After that he started talking really bad about me around others. I've had a history of getting bullied so my closest friend told me and wanted me to cut ties if he was doing that. Am I over thinking it am I to soft or did he overstep his bounds?

Ps. Sorry for the long paragraph for a simple question.

I (37f) have been married to my husband (38m) for 11 years and together for 15 years

So some background I have been SA as a child twice, then three years ago I was SA while out for a walk. I also lost my virginity to my first bf who pushed me into having sex and was basically guilt tripping me.

My husband never forced me or anything. But once I went to therapy I realized he would turn it around on me.

He’s always trying to just ask enough times to get me to agree, or he will get mad at me if I don’t want to saying all he wants is to be close to me and I’m refusing him. We have sex usually multiple times a week. Over the years I give in just to avoid the whole shit show. I’ve sropped allowing that now.

Tonight I am not feeling well. And he fell asleep while watching tv. I got up turned everything odd and went to the washroom. I came back to him awake and pissed off. He asked how i was feeling and if i was good enough to be intimate. I said no not even a little bit sorry! So that set it off. He said what can I do to convince you. So I said that’s not cool, convincing me to agree to sex is not ok and isn’t even consent.

So he tells me I’m not there for him and i disappointed him. I said what you said was not ok. He said it was a joke, so I said it’s not funny. So that set him off again. Basically mocking me and how consent works and I said well fuck me then right and he says yeah I’m fucking trying to be but I’m taking your consent.

So I told him I’m done with rhe topic and if he can’t see how this isn’t right then I’m done as it’s already 11:23pm.

Is he right? Am I being unreasonable?? Am I wrong bringing up consent?