I (28F) have been busting my butt for years to save for my own house. I work in software, so I make decent money, but it still takes forever to build up a good down payment. Meanwhile, my younger sister (25F) is in grad school with barely any credit. Our parents (both mid-50s) found a house near them and decided she needs it. They made an offer—without telling me—and now the deal only goes through if I co-sign.

The problem? I had no clue they’d do this. My parents basically dropped a bomb: “You have the best credit score—co-sign so your sister can get the house!” They also hinted I should chip in for the down payment because “you’ve got the money.”

If I co-sign, I’ll be on the hook if my sister can’t pay. She’s still in school, has debt, and zero backup plan. The bank might also reject my future mortgage application since they’ll see I’m already tied to another loan. But my parents say I’m “selfish” and “forgetting family values.” My sister’s calling me a monster for leaving her “stranded,” and my mom threatened to cut off any future financial help (like wedding money) if I don’t help right now.

Some relatives think it’s insane my parents tried to rope me into this after they already made the offer. Others say I should just do it for “the family’s sake.” I feel guilty, but also mad they put me in this spot. AITA for protecting my own finances, or are they wrong for strong-arming me into co-signing a mortgage I never wanted in the first place?

EDIT: I’m actually adopted lmao forgot to mention in my confused and angry state. My parents adopted me when I was very young because they’d been struggling to conceive. A few years later, they had my younger sister naturally, which was a huge deal to them—she was their “miracle baby.” Ever since, it’s felt like my role in the family became “the older, adopted one,” while she was the golden child who could do no wrong. Growing up, I was expected to pitch in more, be more responsible, and generally look out for my sister.

I worked my butt off in school, snagged scholarships, and eventually landed a good job in software. All the while, I felt like my family mostly saw me as the “fallback option” in case anyone needed financial or emotional support. Now that I’m actually building my own life—saving for a house, focusing on my career—I’m realizing how my success just makes me look like a bigger piggy bank to my parents. The more independent I become, the clearer it is that I need to separate myself from the constant guilt trips and the unspoken expectation that I’ll always bail them (or my sister) out. I love them, but I can’t keep sacrificing my own future to maintain a dynamic where I’m never the priority.

So thank you all for the wake up call. Update to come

I've noticed California has kind of become the easy target of ideological attacks about what is wrong with the US politically. Sort of a geographic hotspot of what is the antithesis of all that is good and holy in right wing political groups.

I wonder though. How many of the people claiming this have actually either been to or met anyone from California. What is informing your opinion on the matter?

I know podcasters like Joe Rogan left the State in a public way, but to be fair his takes are more about places like Los Angeles... And anyone who has been to the state knows that's there is a lot more going on there besides LA.

Thankfully, it still sits together (pic 2) so I'll need to get some steel rod to reinforce it and some concrete glue for bonding it all together.

The game was "Feed the Kraken" with the deluxe components.

This video presents something I've always thought, it's not a crime for a martial art or martial arts academy to sell the idea that you'll be able to easily beat people twice your size or even people armed with knives or firearms? Especially if they don't spar, this creates a false sense of confidence that can be deadly for the person in real life

Matt smith & claire foy. These two are so adorable together!! That video of them playing who am I had me convinced they were in love. Then again matt smith seems to have chemistry with anyone he works with

Bradley cooper & lady gaga. That Oscar performance 👀 their chemistry was electric. The smile she gave him at the end nearly shattered me 🤣 I thought they were going to kiss ! (I know a lot of people are convinced they were PR)

I also have some $820 in acorns and <$1500 in a rollover IRA I have yet to move to a ROTH but putting it off for tax/wuss reasons. However, I have $772 in CC debt. But a win is a win, I can pay it off with time 😁

Gonna try to save $10k next year