I’m expecting my first child, due in February. This is the first grandchild on both sides, so everyone is very excited about it.

My father’s girlfriend “Lena” (fake name) and I have an okay relationship, but we’re very different people. I don’t like most of the things she likes and vice versa. There’s no bad blood between us, but she can be a bit pushy sometimes, so we’re not exactly close.

One of the biggest differences between me and Lena is our stance on influencer culture: she loves it, I don’t. Since I got pregnant, she’s been sending me posts on Instagram of random influencers talking about their experiences with childbirth, motherhood, etc. 

A few months ago, one of her favorite influencers gave birth and filmed the whole thing. She posted a cutesy, poorly edited video of the baby being born and her entire family watching from outside the delivery room, with country music playing in the background. Lena sent me that video, and I remember telling her I’d never do something like that.

My husband and I celebrated Christmas at my cousin’s place with the rest of my family. When it was time for us to exchange and open our gifts, Lena gave me an envelope. 

Inside was a videographer’s business card. She told me she was hiring him to film my birth.

I seriously cannot imagine being filmed while going through a medical procedure, and I don’t want anyone besides my husband at the hospital with me. I’ve been clear about that since I announced my pregnancy.

I didn’t want to embarrass Lena, so I thanked her when she gave me the card. Yesterday, my husband and I had lunch with her and my father, and I told her that while I appreciated the gesture, I didn’t feel comfortable with a videographer. I said she didn’t have to get me anything else for Christmas, but I’d appreciate it if she didn’t hire him. 

Both she and my father got offended, and we ended up having an argument. At one point, Lena started crying and said she couldn’t understand why I’d pass up on the opportunity of creating such a “beautiful memento” of my child’s birth. I replied that I found the idea of having someone film me during such a vulnerable moment to be creepy and invasive, and that this wasn’t the first time I expressed I was uncomfortable with it.

My father said that it was rude of me to say that and refuse the gift, and he’s “very disappointed” in me. My husband agrees with me, as does pretty much my whole family. I don’t really think I did anything wrong, but my father’s reaction is freaking me out.

AITA?

I (28F) have been busting my butt for years to save for my own house. I work in software, so I make decent money, but it still takes forever to build up a good down payment. Meanwhile, my younger sister (25F) is in grad school with barely any credit. Our parents (both mid-50s) found a house near them and decided she needs it. They made an offer—without telling me—and now the deal only goes through if I co-sign.

The problem? I had no clue they’d do this. My parents basically dropped a bomb: “You have the best credit score—co-sign so your sister can get the house!” They also hinted I should chip in for the down payment because “you’ve got the money.”

If I co-sign, I’ll be on the hook if my sister can’t pay. She’s still in school, has debt, and zero backup plan. The bank might also reject my future mortgage application since they’ll see I’m already tied to another loan. But my parents say I’m “selfish” and “forgetting family values.” My sister’s calling me a monster for leaving her “stranded,” and my mom threatened to cut off any future financial help (like wedding money) if I don’t help right now.

Some relatives think it’s insane my parents tried to rope me into this after they already made the offer. Others say I should just do it for “the family’s sake.” I feel guilty, but also mad they put me in this spot. AITA for protecting my own finances, or are they wrong for strong-arming me into co-signing a mortgage I never wanted in the first place?

EDIT: I’m actually adopted lmao forgot to mention in my confused and angry state. My parents adopted me when I was very young because they’d been struggling to conceive. A few years later, they had my younger sister naturally, which was a huge deal to them—she was their “miracle baby.” Ever since, it’s felt like my role in the family became “the older, adopted one,” while she was the golden child who could do no wrong. Growing up, I was expected to pitch in more, be more responsible, and generally look out for my sister.

I worked my butt off in school, snagged scholarships, and eventually landed a good job in software. All the while, I felt like my family mostly saw me as the “fallback option” in case anyone needed financial or emotional support. Now that I’m actually building my own life—saving for a house, focusing on my career—I’m realizing how my success just makes me look like a bigger piggy bank to my parents. The more independent I become, the clearer it is that I need to separate myself from the constant guilt trips and the unspoken expectation that I’ll always bail them (or my sister) out. I love them, but I can’t keep sacrificing my own future to maintain a dynamic where I’m never the priority.

So thank you all for the wake up call. Update to come

I (30M) have been seeing my partner (29MTF) for the last six months. We met on a dating app and surprisingly enough we hit it off and actually had a pretty good relationship going. A few days ago she came to me and told me that she had been working through some stuff and was finally comfortable to come out as MTF transgender and intended to start making changes in how she lived his life.

For the record, I support all members of the LGBT community since I am one lol but, I am 100% gay and prefer masculinity over femininity when it comes to guys.

I told her I was so happy for her but that we wouldn’t really be able to continue dating seeing as I wouldn’t be attracted to her if she got a sex change, or even just began dressing as a woman. She immediately freaked out and called me transphobic since I clearly only liked her for her physical appearance and not her as a person. I tried to have a civil conversation but she left and hasn’t talked to me since.

I know I’m not wrong for believing the relationship would have to end but I feel like maybe the way I handled the situation poorly and deserved the anger that was directed at me. AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend of six months after he came out as MTF transgender?

Edit: I did not mean to misgender her. It was just a force of habit from how I’d been referring to her up to this point before she came out.

Edit 2: I should also mention that when we met, she identified and presented as a 100% gay, masculine, cisgendered, man. So her coming out to me was a shock but I am still incredibly happy for her.

Small Update: I woke up this morning and attempted to call her, since it’s been a few days I thought maybe we could talk this out. It went immediately to voicemail so she either has her phone off or I’ve been blocked. Not really sure what to do now.

So my (26F) boyfriend (28M) and I have been dating for about three years. Things have been good, but I’ve been clear that I’m not ready for marriage just yet. I’ve told him I need more time to feel comfortable with such a big step.

Well, a few weeks ago, we went to a big party hosted by his family for his dad's 60th. I noticed that he was acting a little nervous but didn’t think much of it. Then, during the event, he got everyone’s attention, got down on one knee, and proposed to me in front of all his friends and family. I was completely caught off guard and panicked.

Now, I’ve heard stories about how rejecting someone in public can humiliate them, and I really didn’t want to do that to him, especially in front of everyone he cares about. So, I said yes in the moment. Everyone cheered, and he looked so happy. I felt horrible for misleading him, but I didn’t know what else to do.

After the party, on the car ride home I told him privately and explained that while I love him, I’m not ready to get married yet and that I only said yes to avoid embarrassing him in front of everyone. I thought being honest in private was the best thing to do.

He got really upset and said I’d humiliated him even more because now he has to go back and tell everyone that we’re not actually engaged. He said I should’ve just said no at the party if that’s how I felt. I feel terrible that I’ve hurt him and put him in this position, but I also feel like he put me on the spot in front of everyone without considering my feelings.

We've yet to tell his family or anyone and they keep calling and texting to give their congrats which is upsetting him even more and I'm seeing videos his friends posted online of him getting on one knee so it's pretty public now .

So, Reddit, AITA? Should I have just said no in public, or was I right to spare him the embarrassment in the moment?

My (45F) son (17M) and his friends pulled a prank at their high school that went way too far. They thought it would be funny to release a bunch of live chickens into the school as a senior prank. Unfortunately, the prank caused a lot of chaos and resulted in some significant property damage, including broken windows and damaged equipment.

My son came home panicking and asked me to help him come up with an alibi so he wouldn't get in trouble. He admitted that he and his friends were the masterminds behind the prank. I was furious and told him that I wouldn't help him lie. I believe he needs to take responsibility for his actions.

He’s now facing potential disciplinary action from the school, and he's really upset with me for not having his back. He says that I'm being too harsh and that it was just a harmless prank that got out of hand. My husband thinks I should have supported our son and helped him avoid trouble.

I feel strongly that this is a valuable lesson in accountability, but I can't shake the feeling that maybe I'm being too hard on him. AITAH?

My (30F) SIL (33F) is currently pregnant. She’s having her baby some time in April or may- she’s been vague about it and sends my hubby ultrasounds anywhere from a day to a month after so we don’t know the actual timeline.

SIL has a condition that makes it so she will 100% NEED a c-section. She’ll need help while she recovers- with the baby, herself, AND her 2 dogs.

She also lives in another state.

The father is in the picture, he lives with her.

She is very insistent that I go to help. Because of the distance as well as a lot of differences, we don’t really talk. We’re not friends, but we’re civil. She keeps throwing “hormonal” fits about me refusing to take off of work for 2 months to go help her.

I have bills to pay- I run my own business and it doesn’t run without me, I don’t get PTO.

On top of shutting down my business, my hubby doesn’t have time with his work schedule to care for my pets (I say MY pets because they all pre-date our marriage) so I’d have to board them for 2 months. Otherwise, the dogs would be left home alone for 12-13 hours a day while he works. He’s also not comfortable feeding some of the other animals. I’ve done the math- at the CHEAPEST boarding facility that isn’t absolute garbage, it’d cost about $300 a day. (So $18,300 total)

The specific things she wants me to help with are: cooking, cleaning, going to the store for anything that’s needed, caring for the baby so she can heal- including all diapers and bottle feeding. There’s also the care of her 2 dogs- walks, feeding, grooming, and an hour training session for each dog daily.

I know the first question will be “where’s baby daddy?” He lives with her. They’re very much together. But his work doesn’t give paid leave. She hasn’t been at her job long enough to have maternity leave either- she’s using sick leave. They used up all their PTO and savings to go to one of the Taylor Swift concerts out of town.

The only reason I’m even questioning if I’m the asshole is because she keeps crying and screaming at my hubby that without help, they won’t be able to afford their car payments or their rent.

I wouldn’t lose my car or house over it and, while it’d drain me, I could afford it. (Hubby and I keep finances separate- I owned my house before we met)

Some prehistory:

Me (f48) met my ex-bestie (f50) 25 years ago when my husband was playing in a band with a guy she was dating, who we’ll call “Chris”.

She has had a rough childhood. She came from a family with 5 kids from 4 dads, and her mother was a meth and heroin user. There was often not enough food in the house for the kids including her severely autistic brother. Still, she persevered, and got a scholarship to a top-tier school.

I was always conscious of this and knew she helped out her brother and family some, so over our friendship and because my husband I do well financially, it became a regular thing that we would always pay for meals and drinks for her and if joint trips, most of the vacation, if not all of it. We never held it over her or expected anything from it.

I did notice some weird behavior. At my 40th birthday, I booked her into a two room suite with a gay friend and she made me rebook her into her own room because she didn’t want to share a bathroom with him. When we flew her out to Hawaii to a 30k a week mansion for my husband's 40th, she complained about the airline and had me change it, then got into a fight with my friends because they wouldn’t drive her to get cigarettes because they were hurrying for the big surprise for my husband- a big luau, which she spent the rest of pouting and pulling my attention away from.

Behind all of this is me and my husband’s open marriage. We have been married for 28 years but encountered some problems in the bedroom. This has been working for us for over 10 years. We don’t have fights about it. I decided to tell my best friend last year that I had been dating a nuclear physicist for 5 years. I even introduced them. She was derogatory towards him and said she didn’t like his shirt. I told her she didn’t have to be involved in that part of my life.

Fast forward to last April. I have planned for a year to take her and another friend to Amsterdam for my birthday. She says she’ll pay me back but I tell her it doesn’t matter. I get a great 4 star hotel in the historic center. 3 days before we fly out she informs me that she has met a French guy at a tiki convention and he will be joining us for 3 days of our trip. I am stuck. This is my bday, and I thought it was a girl’s trip, but I don’t want her being a sourpuss the whole time so I go along with it.

Long story short: she complains about everything, pays for nothing, gets wasted and burns a day of our trip in bed the next day. I take care of her. She flirts with the French guy then acts shocked when he makes a move on her and fake cries. She wants to go home early on a Friday night because the Frenchman is tired. I refuse and go out dancing with a guy I meet in a bar. She wants to stay in again. I ask her twice if she wants to go out and she says no. So I go out with the same guy I met at the bar.

In the end all three of us friends say we had a great trip. I thought we did!!!

Four months later she stops talking to me. I get our mutual friend to break the ice. She will only text me because she says she has a plumber in the apartment. She said she is very upset because I spoke to her like she was a child when our seats on the plane got downgraded because of an aircraft change and I said “Stop complaining”. She said I made her feel unwanted when I went out with the guy when it was supposed to be a girl’s trip. She says she think I should be faithful to my husband. She said she didn’t get any say in picking out the hotel room and that I use my money like a cudgel that way.

I said that we should go on friend hiatus. She immediately then blocked our other friend of 25 years who had not been involved at all for “not backing her up”.

I feel very used and think she is acting very entitled. Am I wrong to end this 25 year friendship?

I’m 32 (F) and met Jake (41, M) 10 years ago at a NYE party. My coworker invited me, and Jake was friends with her husband. He was insanely handsome, so I made the first move. He was nice but didn’t seem all that interested. Later, I asked my coworker to set us up, but Jake said no because he thought I was too young for him.

I didn’t give up and ended up texting him directly, convincing him to go on a dinner date with me. He finally agreed, and we hit it off—he was super respectful, and we had a lot in common. A year later, we moved in together. After I graduated from university, he helped me get my first job, and we started traveling and even bought our own place.

Being with Jake felt like a dream. He always put me first, made me feel special, was so thoughtful, and helped out a lot around the house. When I told him I was pregnant and said I’d terminate if he wasn’t ready, he pulled out a ring he’d already bought and proposed on the spot. He said he wanted to be with me forever.

Everything was amazing…until Jake got an email from his ex out of the blue. Turns out, he has a 12-year-old daughter he didn’t know about. His ex never told him she was pregnant and moved away to be closer to her family. Now, she’s getting married, but her fiancé doesn’t get along with Jake’s daughter, so she wanted her to come live with us.

Jake went to pick her up from the airport, and we ended up giving her the baby’s room. The nursery I was decorating ... I said it was fine, the baby could stay in our room for now. When I showed her the room, she looked at me and said, “Great. A crying baby soon, huh? Don’t expect me to babysit, FYI.” I just told her, “Don’t worry, I wasn’t planning to.”

She hates me. Anytime I try to talk to her, she either ignores me or tells me not to. So, I’ve stopped trying. Jake has been bending over backward to connect with her, taking her shopping or to games, but she doesn’t want to hear anything about the baby. If she catches me showing Jake an ultrasound picture, she gets upset. Jake even asked me not to bring up baby stuff around her.

If I try to join them on their outings, she gets mad again. Jake keeps telling me to be patient and that she’s adjusting, but I’m starting to feel like an outsider. Jake is no longer affectionate to me .. maybe he is exhausted or doesn't wanna upset her.. either way, I don't even get a hug or a simple kiss anymore..

The baby’s due soon, and honestly, I’m terrified. It feels like my baby won’t even be allowed to cry because she might get upset. On Christmas, I got her AirPods, and when she opened them, she said nothing. At least she said “thanks” for the watch Jake gave her.

Would I be the asshole if I left Jake and stayed with my parents? I love him so much, and I get that he’s in a tough spot, but I feel so unloved. I’m scared it’s going to get worse once the baby is here.

Added later : Someone DMed me that maybe Jake knew about this kid all these years and was in touch with ex and didn’t tell you that’s why he is confident it’s his kid.. I dunno , he seemed very surprised .. I’m going to clear this up tonight

This is a new account, as multiple people know my main.

So, I (29F) recently got married to my husband (30M) in a beautiful, intimate ceremony. It was a dream come true—we’d been planning everything for over a year, and the big day was just perfect… except for one thing.

My sister (26F) has a 3-year-old daughter, Lily, and while I knew she was planning to bring her to the wedding, I had asked her months in advance if she could consider leaving Lily with a babysitter for the evening. I explained that the ceremony and reception were going to be pretty formal, and I didn’t think it would be the best environment for a toddler. I even offered to help find someone to watch Lily and pay for it, but my sister insisted she’d be fine and that Lily would be on her best behavior. I really didn’t want to cause any tension, so I let it go.

Well, fast forward to the reception, and things started off fine. Lily was a little excited but mostly calm. However, as dinner was served, she started to get fussy and whiny. She wasn’t throwing a tantrum, but she was visibly bored and restless. My sister handed her a tablet to try to calm her down, but it wasn’t working. Lily kept fussing and saying she didn’t want to sit down, and she started wandering around a bit. She was definitely distracting, and it was becoming obvious that people were noticing.

I tried to let it go for a little while, but after 20 minutes, I could tell it was starting to affect the atmosphere. People were whispering about how hard it was to hear the speeches over the background noise, and I started to feel a little embarrassed. I decided to approach my sister and asked if she could take Lily outside or at least try to get her to calm down. I suggested maybe going for a short walk or finding a quiet spot, but my sister just said, “She’s just a kid. She’ll be fine.”

After the speeches, Lily had started walking around the tables, interrupting conversations, and I was really starting to get frustrated. I didn’t want to be the bad guy, but I had put so much effort into making sure this day was special and enjoyable for everyone, and it felt like the mood was being spoiled. So, I told my sister that I loved her, but it might be best if she took Lily home if she couldn’t settle her down. I was trying to be as calm and polite as possible, but I felt like it was necessary to ask.

My sister was not happy about this. She said I was being dramatic and that I should be more understanding—it’s her daughter, and she can’t just leave her at home every time there’s an event. She told me I was being too uptight and “ruining my own day by caring about the little things.”

Eventually, my sister decided to leave with Lily, and we didn’t speak for the rest of the night. Since then, there’s been some tension with the family. My mom and some relatives think I overreacted and should’ve just let it go. They say toddlers get fussy and it’s not a big deal. Others think I had every right to ask her to leave if her daughter was distracting the event. My husband is on my side, but now my sister isn’t speaking to me, and some family members are upset with me for making a big issue out of nothing.

So, AITA for asking my sister to leave my wedding after her toddler wouldn’t settle down?

Backstory: I recently found out that my husband was having an affair with one of his employees. If he is found out he will lose his job as a higher up in the company, and she knows it. He has been trying to end it, making he want to end it with him so that she doesn’t have a reason to turn him in. He doesn’t want to end our marriage and be with her and has asked me to be patient while he lets this die.

Current: She sent him with some presents to give our daughter, and he actually tried to bring them in the house to give to her. He said that I am being unreasonable in saying that no way in hell is he giving our daughter presents from the other woman. For context, he is 53 and she is 31, he had a stupid midlife crisis and has lost his mind.

So AITAH for refusing to let him give her the presents and instead suggesting donating them to Toys for Tots or the hospital or somewhere?

So here I am in the kitchen hugging my fiancé yesterday. He had his new slippers from Christmas on and I said something like “oh sexy” (just being playful). All of a sudden his ex wife’s voice is loud as hell “hello? hellooooo?” He walks over to the child’s Gizmo watch and after she asks for his son my fiancé asked her how the phone picked up and she said it automatically does if nobody answers. I’m telling you the watch did NOT ring. (she is in control bc it’s all on her phone plan and she pays for it while my fiancé is paying for the older child’s phone). I then look online and sure enough the admin can shut ringer off and remotely call in with nobody knowing and listen whenever they want.

A little background this woman hates me and has no boundaries. She was mad when she came to pick up the kids a few months ago that I was drinking coffee on my porch and asked my fiancé why I was there on my porch like I needed to be inside when she gets the kids.

Last Halloween she walked right past me and him and walked into our house without permission with one of the kids.

The daughter says her mother doesn’t like me and it’s hard when we are all together bc she knows her mother doesn’t like me.

Back to now, he asked his daughter about the watch and daughter says sometimes it rings and sometimes it doesn’t ring, and mom is just there so obviously she uses the feature often.

I told her I don’t appreciate her sending something to our house that allows her to listen in whenever she wants with no warning. She pretty much told me to mind my own business bc it’s between her and “the father of her kids”. I told her the next time this happens we will have a problem and she accused me of “threatening” her.

Fiancé says he understands my point of view, and says he will “ask her about it” and he doesn’t think she uses it. She LITERALLY got caught using and daughter says she uses it. He agreed it needs to be off and put away now unless child is outside or at neighbors etc.

I stay away from her, don’t go near her, try to keep peace but she makes it impossible, plays victim. The issues are infrequent b/c I just avoid her and go on with my life but some things like this are just unavoidable.

I am F50, he is M47.

AITAH for wanting to be included in this? Their business is their business but this one issue involves me and my home. ThanksDrop Audio Feature

Thank you for all the lovely suggestions in my previous post, which is why I am doing an update.

I did go to the party. Honestly, after reading that yes, my ex had in fact lost his mind, I decided not to bother Peter or his gf; my friend, and just go and mind my business. It's not like my ex and his fiancée would come and scream the house down on seeing me. Again, I guess I didn't mention in my last post, and the reason I was more mad at my ex, was because I have a very serious boyfriend. The idea that my ex's fiancée would think I'd go anywhere to spite my ex despite having a boyfriend was really insulting.

We went to the housewarming, and I ignored them. I don't care, we are all adults, and I am not going to fuel drama. And my ex and his fiancée (her especially), made a fool of themselves, and at some point, even I felt bad because I saw how desperate she was for my ex's friends to respect her or take any ONE of her sentences seriously. Whoever, she tried to talk to ignored her or straight up walked away. Again, Peter and my ex's friends are a different group, and I'm not friends with them. But the way my ex let his friends treat his fiancée made my blood boil.

I mostly hung out with my friends (Peter's GF's friend group), and I didn't speak or look at my ex once. One time he said hi, and my boyfriend said hello back, and we didn't see him near us for the rest of the night. His fiancée just asked me if my dress 'wasn't a bit too modest'. And Peter told her, everyone there followed the dress code; casual-elegant, (don't ask me, I didn't make the rules), but she didn't. My boyfriend already loathes my ex, so we did not mingle near them again.

Overall, I had a good time, we even got to leave early and have some more time to ourselves, watched a movie, and had a good time at home.

However, what pissed me off was how much of a shitty fiancé he was, and how much his fiancée was trying to fit in, and failing, and he wouldn't even help her. My boyfriend isn't just a 'bookish' person, and he doesn't fit in with some pretentious people either, and he is very blunt, so some people don't like him. Plus, he loves video games, and comics, and has hobbies (trekking, diving) which scare me. But we compromise and learn to adjust to each other's interests. Plus, if someone treats my bf even a little like how they treat my ex's fiancée, I'd cut them off, no questions asked, and I am already LC with a few friends who judged and made comments about him in the past.

I really hope she leaves him, if she has any dignity, or he gets his shit together. All in all, not my problem.

I (25F) have done everything in my power to have a relationship with my future MIL since my bf and i started dating because I really wanted to have a second mom. I thought it’d be fun. But surprise, surprise, she doesn’t like me for god knows what reason. I have so many instances i can list rn, but I’ll try to contain.

For context; My boyfriend is the eldest of two sons. She has no daughters and we live 8 hours away from her.

The first instance I can think of is when we went to lunch because she had wanted to meet me. My bf and I had been dating for six months and known each other for three years. I get there and my first thought was she is super pretty! Her tone was gentle and she was a hugger. But as soon as we sat down, she never looked at me again. It was 1.5 hours of her catching up with her son. She eventually asked me one question at the end which was “Where are you from?” That’s it. I proceeded to think I did something wrong.

Fast forward six months to my bf’s birthday :D the turning point. I had texted his mom because she wanted to come down for his birthday and visit us. I said I was flying out his best friend to surprise him and he was going to stay with us THE WEEKEND BEFORE MY BF’s BIRTHDAY. (she never responded and didn’t speak to me for three months because she thought in my text I said his friend was coming on his actual birthday and was offended his best friend could spend his birthday with him and not her.) She called my bf and decided on a date-- she would come two weeks before his birthday since February is a busy month for us (4 family birthdays, valentines day and our anniversary). As the day comes, and I’m cleaning the apartment, she calls him and asks him where they will sleep.

We lived in a 1B 1B at the time but had a pull out couch that turned into a bed and he explained this to them. He also said that I would be visiting family while they were here (i decided to remove myself and let her spend time with him because I know that’s what she values most.) After he said i was going to be leaving the next day, his mom proceeded to say they would stay at a hotel tonight and stay at the apartment when i was gone. 😀 I started crying because i was so hurt at the way it was said, and my bf was immediately pissed and called her. He said all he wanted for his birthday was for the four of us to spend time together and it was mean of her to say. She said she didn’t know that’s what he wanted and he should’ve clarified that. The whole weekend was a shit show. I left, his birthday was ruined for him, and he even had a talk with her before they left and he told me it went nowhere.

Fast forward to christmas, she rented an airbnb and actually allowed me to come. It was me, her, my bf and his brother. I unfortunately had to work that weekend and couldn’t do any activities with them (i work remote so i stayed back at the airbnb) but tbh i think she was happy abt that. Later that night after i finished work i passed out. My bf stayed with me while i was sleeping. When i woke up, he told me his mom and brother had walked into town and wanted HIM to come and take family photos. She told him to leave me there while i was sleeping. He said he didn’t want to and chose to stay with me. She got upset.

Now there’s been a lot of other stuff that's happened. I’ve had one-on-one talks about how her actions made me feel about 4 times in the past six months. The first time, she cried and proceeded to tell me her backstory as if it excused her behavior to me. It went nowhere. My bf started to see more signs that weren’t okay with him and said he didn’t want to be involved with someone who acted that way. Didn’t matter who they were. So he called her to tell her he wanted space. She then called me and said she wanted a relationship to get to know each other (2.5 years later wow.) She wanted to call once a week. My dumbass said yes because why not give a second, third chance? Everyone in both of our families told me that he’ll always choose his mother over me, so i wanted to know i put in every effort with her to make sure that didn’t happen.

She called me once and it was very fake, clearly wanting to know how my bf was doing and if we had any plans. I felt weird calling her and talking to her when my bf and her weren’t speaking— and decided to ask if she was okay. She acted confused, like she didn't know what i was talking about. When i finally was specific in saying it was about her son, she raised her voice at me, saying they have a great relationship, and she doesn’t know what games I’m playing but she doesn’t want to be apart of it. I took it as a weird threat when she then said “Nothing and nobody is going to keep me from my son.” I just let her get it out of her system and she didn’t even give me a chance to respond, just changed the subject. When i told her we were hanging out with my mom, she went silent and got upset. She never called me again.

I texted her 3 weeks later asking if our weekly calls were done since they were her idea and she had never communicated with me about them since— yet she texted my bf in that time saying she missed him. Atp, I’m so done with the games and am tired from the amount of effort i put into including her, mapping out time to visit her, and getting her gifts when I saw something she liked. For me, I wanted to make sure I had receipts and again, had proof I was communicating with her so she couldn't use anything against me. I took one of her paragraph texts she sent me, threw it into ChatGPT, and asked it to type out a message matching her tone (bc she's passive aggressive af) about ending these “weekly” calls and cutting ties since it didn't seem like it was working out for us. ChatGPT flamed her lol and I was here for it. But to summarize, the message basically said it’s sad she doesn’t understand boundaries and she doesn’t live with her son; I do. I see the pain everyday when his mom contacts him and pressures him into talking to her and it sucks.

She’s not my mom so 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel like I did all I could. My bf eventually cut her off officially too because it was affecting his work when she kept texting him and wasn’t respecting his space (He has extreme ADHD and severe anxiety.) He told me when he cut her off, she admitted she was only talking to me because he told her to. I’ll truly never understand why MIL’s hate their daughter in laws. Anyways, I don’t take it personally as i think she would’ve acted this way with anyone in my shoes. My bf and I both admitted we felt better and lighter after cutting ties. But two weeks later, she sent flowers to him (idek how she got our address) and told him she’s thinking of him. It was creepy to me. He told me to throw them out. It's been two months since, and now that we’re engaged, we still feel the same and don’t want to invite her. The ties remain cut for now and I check in with him often on how he's feeling.

AITA for cutting her off? Should I have put in more effort, or give her another chance?

So, here’s the story: My partner and I are currently traveling in Australia, and her best friend and her partner came to visit us for a 4-week trip. To make things smooth, I planned almost everything— places to stay, a rental car, a suggested route for Christmas in Sydney and New Year’s in Byron Bay, plus interesting stops along the way. My partner and I were also the only registered drivers for the rental.

From the start, things felt a bit off. For example, on our first long drive, we went to see the Penguin Parade on Phillip Island. We arrived early, but the penguins weren’t expected until 9 PM, and our accommodation was 2.5 hours away. I suggested we skip the event because I didn’t want to drive unfamiliar roads at night, but they insisted on staying. I even offered a compromise—a wildlife tour earlier in the day—which they enjoyed. Still, they wanted dinner afterward, which meant I had to drive in the dark, alone, over bad Australian roads until 11 PM.

When we finally arrived at the accommodation, they walked straight into the master bedroom without a word and said goodnight. My partner and I ended up in the kids’ room.

This set the tone for the trip. They didn’t offer to chip in for gas or ask if we needed anything from rest stops unless I explicitly said something. At one point, they wanted to take a 2.5-hour detour on an already 7-hour drive. I pushed back, which led to a tense discussion about “empathy vs. sympathy” (???). Which was ridiculous.

I got sick a few days later but still drove 6 hours while they slept comfortably in the back. At the next place, they again took the master bedroom without asking. I finally said, “Hey, next stop, let’s trade rooms.” The response was snippy, which pushed me over the edge. I was sick, exhausted, and done with being treated like a chauffeur/host without consideration. I booked another accommodation for myself and my partner and left them at the current place. I didn’t explain much beyond, “I need a proper bed to recover.” They were left without a car in a remote area (proper house at the beach 10 min from town airport and car rental, no worries) and later texted, saying what I did was unfair.

They apologized for not being more mindful but also pointed out things like bringing me coffee once and offering to drive (which I don’t recall happening). They also said I should’ve talked things out instead of “abandoning” them.

From my perspective, I tried to accommodate them for days, but I hit my limit. I needed to prioritize myself for once, especially when I was sick.

So, Reddit, AITA?

Edit:

my so is very supportive although a bit torn between the lines understandably

I didn’t leave them at a gas station, more like a Resort and already booked House, 10min to the next city by car. 1min from the beach lol

Edit II:

As people mentioning 2 Bedroom Stays planning etc:

Ive set up a maps months before ,for everyone to put in their POI´s they didnt care much. When they arrived they wanted to plan things out, in starting high season. no shit Stays were hard to get.

Also they paid for 2 for their own as we were in a Motel.

Edit 3:

Thx for the mostly supportive feedback, obviously IATH for keeping a straight face for far too long. Convicted People pleaser

Edit 4:

My GF fell sick couple of days before me, even tho she felt like shit they demanded to take a detour to visit things. I had to repeat more that twice that we are going straight to the Motel so she can get a good Rest and into bed. as i,ofc, caught the same bug now myself....she must have been feeling horrendous. another occacion were i swollowed things. trying to keep everyone happy..typing this i feel like an idiot. i do need to work on this

Edit5:

Why Philpips early:

3rd time in Australia, wanted to show them the penguins as ive seen them couple years back: there wasn't this HUGE tourist center. you could walk down to the penguin hideouts by your own and if you were lucky you´d seen a view. It should have been a short stopover for scenery and wildlife. I unfortunately haven't checked the spot upfront again, so my bad indeed. the route along the coast further on was a great alternative program and was still how I remembered.

Route:

Melborurne-> Syd -> Byron with some detours as they were mostly interested in beaches so we stayed at the Coast including Wilsons National..... we did a 2 month road trip ahead till Western Australia through Nullarbor Uluru etc. was amazing.

Planning:

I sent them a maps upfront to share destinations. where I have marked POIS and to add their own, they didn't care. we would have been able to book upfront ehich i recommended, bc high season is starting and good accommodation is scarce. but they wanted to stay "flexible" bc they have been to Bali once and it was go with the flow. ffs they have no clue about travelling, they didn't brought a driving licence hell let alone an international one cause that's the one you need at some rentals to get registered as a driver. Also CASH ONLY....in australia. Guess someone should have told them. oh yeah i did

edit6:

i changed booked accomodation to -> researched places to stay, as they, as previously stated, didnt want to book upfront. Also Rules were very very clear communicated, and also we had numerous discussions until the: "we dont want to be lectured" one

Thats allfor noe, i need some rest, still recovering gn8

My in-laws are staying with us for Christmas, and my husband and I have young kids (3 year old twins). Christmas morning I woke up feeling sick, I made it through presents, but by about 10am I was feeling really horrible. I talked with my MIL and husband and we decided to push Christmas dinner back to the 26th.

I spent most of the day in bed, with brief intervals where I’d pop out, see that our house was an absolute mess and do a little bit of tidying before going back to our bedroom.

The 26th was a repeat. I felt even worse and told my husband that I wasn’t in any shape to spend the whole day cooking. My husband and MIL decided to order a pizza.

They’ve all been very understanding about the fact that I didn’t cook a Christmas dinner, or even spend much time with them, but honestly, I’m kind of pissed! My husband and in-laws spent the last 2 days just sitting on the couch watching movies. There’s a fridge full of food and all anyone’s eaten is the pizza they ordered and the Christmas cookies I baked and the charcuterie I bought. The twins have been a handful because they’re bored and the Christmas dinner that I lovingly planned never happened because I’m the only person out of the 4 adults currently in this house who’s capable of cooking.

So, I’m a vegetarian. My family’s known this for five years, but every Christmas, it’s like they collectively forget. Last year, my mom promised to make me “something vegetarian.” Her solution? Salad with chicken croutons. When I pointed this out, she said, “Just pick them off!” Oh, thanks, love a side of effort.

This year, I offered to host Christmas to ensure there’d be actual vegetarian options. I even said I’d make a turkey for everyone else! My siblings were fine with it, but my mom lost her mind, claiming I was “ruining Christmas” and forcing everyone to eat “rabbit food.”

After weeks of her guilt trips, I snapped and canceled Christmas altogether. Now she’s calling me a Grinch and saying I ruined the holiday for the kids. Meanwhile, I’m at home eating vegetarian lasagna and wondering if I’m the bad guy here.

So, Reddit, AITA for canceling Christmas, or do I deserve more than chicken croutons and broccoli this holiday season?

OP LInk Here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hl5y9l/comment/m3wmwew/

The update with my sister was accurate but my parents were not leaving it alone. They still wanted me to be involved with my sister and her kid more and would not drop it.

So I called a meeting with my family today. When I say my family I mean my siblings, BIL, and parents, not my girlfriend and stepson. Prior to this meeting I had a discussion with my girlfriend last night and she agreed it was ok for me to tell them the parts regarding her personally and our son I am about to describe even if she didn't agree with some of the reasons for it.

I explained to them again my aversion to kids and not liking being around them. They of course questioned why I have a stepson then. I explained to them a whole bunch of background about meeting his mom and later him and how it came to be where I love him like my own, despite me not liking other kids, still that they had never heard before. They asked if the same could happen with my sister's child and I said never say never, but it is very unlikely.

I also explained to them that I am not a social person in general and do not do things socially often. I told them about the fact that I even only see the people I consider my best friends 2-3 times a year because that's all the energy I can muster to be social. I explained that being social and seeing people socially is like work to me and it is mentally and emotionally exhausting and I don't like doing it, but I do it from time to time because I know others want it from me.

They didn't understand why someone can feel like social interaction is work and that I should just grow up and be with people because it's "unnatural" to only want to spend time with my gf and stepson and otherwise be a "hermit". I said their opinion is fine but does not change anything. I apologized that who I am upsets them and that if it hurts them that I am this way.

We then moved on to talk about our individual relationships. I told my parents I have not forgiven them for making me raise my brother and sister when I ws just a kid myself and that I almost certainly never will. I also told my sister I have an issue with her defending them for this. I understand they did their best and that they were gone because they were trying to make ends meet, but if they couldn't afford kids without always working and not being present, they shouldn't have had kids. They all pointed out that would mean my siblings and I likely wouldn't be alive, and I said I understand that, but to it still stands in my opinion. There was a lot of fighting over this that I won't go into detail on. My brother didn't really say much during this, but my BIL actually said when it came to my parents, he may not agree with not forgiving them, but he understands why I feel the way I do.

I told my brother and BIL that on a personal level I have 0 issues with either of them and that if I had a normal social drive, perhaps we could have a closer relationship.

I then reiterated that I am there for all of them if they ever needed me for something before I moved on to the thing that I really wanted to say to them. Some people pointed out me not being as involved with my sister's kid as she is with mine is not fair so I thought about it and those people may be right.

So I told them all that we have two options moving forward. 1) We can have a limited relationship where they see me, my gf, and stepson on birthdays, holidays, and special occasions. I will not do other hangouts and things with them or the future child, they will not do special things with me and my family. We see each other at these things and in emergencies only. I told them when my stepson is older and old enough to make his own decisions, if he wants a further relationship with them, I would not stop him from pursuing it and I would not poison the well. OR 2) We have no relationship at all moving forward and we completely remove each other from each other's lives.

I told them that the decision as to which option they want is up to them and can be taken on an individual basis and is of course open to future changes should all of us want them and that they did not have to have an answer for me right away if they did not want to. Again my parents and sister were upset I gave them an "ultimatum" and said it was completely unfair. My brother and BIL were both silent.

I left and then got a call from my brother shortly thereafter. He said he accepts what I had to say even if he doesn't quite understand my antisocial behaviors and wants option 1 even if the others didn't. I told him I was happy he chose option 1 because if I got to choose any of them to interact with still, he would be my choice, and that we'd be in touch.

I live in an apartment and constantly get mail addressed to a former tenant in my mailbox.

Last week I took a stack of them, crossed out the address and wrote “return to sender” with a black marker and dropped them in the outgoing mail slot.

Today my mail carrier wrote “stop writing on the mail” in black marker on two items addressed to me.

What am I supposed to do?

My (19F) Dads gf (29F) was in charge of ordering My siblings and I’s items off the christmas list last year. I asked for Airpod’s and some small things. So last year she got me a 30 pack of earrings and a Lululemon fannypack look alike. I opened the present said thank you and kept it moving. I didn’t necessarily like the present (i wouldn’t normally use a fanny pack unless we are on a a trip with a lot of walking and cheap earrings make my ears infected) so i didn’t use them. This year while hiding presents from my siblings in my closet she discovered the gifts that i didn’t use from last year hidden in my closet. My dad and I had an argument where he said that she was very hurt and that im ungrateful and should have told her i didnt like it. But I explained how i didn’t ask for those gifts but i still politely took them and didn’t want to be called ungrateful or rude for telling them i didn’t like a present that i received. He then went on and said that i should have used the gift infront her to make her happy and i argued that i dont owe her that. Was i the Asshole in this situation?

edit: I would like to mention i did get the AirPods i wanted and still love to this day.

edit #2: since everyone is asking my dad is turning 50 next year so he is currently 49. Weird that all our ages end in 9 lol.

Context…we were making 200k combined. She decided it would be a good idea to refinance our home, which was affordable at our income. I suggested that if one of us lost our job, we’d be in trouble. I gave in and our monthly payment doubled. That was April of 21. She decided to quit her job at the end of 22. This cut our income nearly in half… I make 120k. 2 years later we’re still living off savings. She refuses to go back to work because, I believe, she just doesn’t want to work. We have a 6 and 10 year old that she passes off to our parents at every given moment. She says she quit to be a more involved mom. She’s angry every time I bring it up and I’m at my wits end.

So, I’m back after nearly a whole year. I completely forgot about this post because I’ve been so wrapped up in other things. For anyone who doesn’t want to read the whole post, here’s a summary:

“My husband had been cheating on me with my best friend while I was pregnant. I was close to giving birth and decided not to have my then-husband in the labor room with me. I also chose a name for our baby that he didn’t agree with.”

Like I said, it’s basically been a whole year. My baby turned one today, and after celebrating his birthday and Christmas with my kids, it finally hit me this is my new reality.

First of all, my ex-husband and I finally went through with the divorce proceedings. I had been holding it off during my pregnancy and early postpartum period to avoid added stress and to carefully plan for my children and myself. I was awarded primary physical custody of our children. Their dad visits once a week, and the two older kids (7 and 4) spend every other weekend with him. My youngest will start doing the same in a couple of months, which makes me nervous. He’s especially clingy with me, all my kids are but my youngest has really only known me as the most present parent.

One of the main stipulations in our custody agreement is that my ex’s affair partner is prohibited from seeing the kids. My poor kids have been confused enough by their parents’ sudden split, and I didn’t want them even more confused by seeing their “aunt,” who is supposed to be Mommy’s best friend, with their dad. It was deemed emotionally detrimental in court.

As for the baby name, he’s been so bitter about it; I think he’s still annoyed about it. His side has been trying to convince me to change the name to something we’d both like, especially after the divorce was finalized. But it’s been a year now, and the baby quite literally answers by the name I gave him, so I’m not going to be changing it. He was also unhappy with the child support payments, among other payments, and asked for some revisions. One main thing he asked to change was the cost of our kid's school tuition, he pays for their tuition, which he felt was too much and too harsh. But the court stuck with the original payments.

As for my ex-husband and ex-best friend, they continued dating. I found out that they had started seeing each other a month into my third pregnancy. They had actually slept together during my second pregnancy but didn’t pursue a relationship then because, as they put it, “they weren’t ready to ruin things and didn’t want to hurt anybody.” My exes side have been very supportive of their relationship, even inviting her to holiday gathering like thanksgivings or family holidays. Because of this my kids don’t go very often to these events. I don’t know after this whole fiasco I’m coming to the realisation that perhaps my exes side never really liked me all that much. But that’s okay.

I eventually spoke with my ex-best friend to ask why they did it. She claimed that they were just friends but grew close while she was dealing with issues involving her deadbeat ex-boyfriend. Both of them insisted that my ex-husband just wanted to “protect her,” which supposedly turned into “love.”

Hearing this hurt me a lot, but at the same time, I felt relieved to know the truth. When I sat with this information for a while, it stopped hurting. It made me realize that I didn’t still love my ex-husband and could finally let go of him and their betrayal. They broke up a week ago. Apparently, it’s just a break, though who knows.

Although my kids go to their dad's house every other weekend, it has helped a lot with making time for myself. Obviously, I'm figuring out who I am without being a wife or mom all the time. In many ways, I find what happened to be a true blessing, which is why I’m no longer angry.

As for me, I’ve been seeing someone. It hasn’t been very long, nor is it that serious yet but we get along great. Initially, my ex-husband made the whole situation difficult. He didn’t want me to have any man, specifically, around the kids.

Edit: I don’t know how to do update posts, so my apologies if it’s wrong. This is likely the last update, just wanted to check in to let everyone know I’m okay

A bit of background: when my boyfriend and I moved in together, we split the chores roughly 50-50. This included changing the bedding, where each of us handled our own side of the bed. One time, while I was changing the sheets, I asked my boyfriend to help, and to my utmost surprise, he refused. I didn’t understand the situation because I had asked nicely, and it was clear he didn’t have anything better to do. I asked him again, and once more, he said no, without offering any explanation. At that point, I got upset and decided to just do his side of the bed myself. However, perhaps accidentally or perhaps intentionally, I stuffed his blanket into the cover sideways. A few days later, after he had complained multiple times about how uncomfortable his blanket was, I told him that it was because I had put the cover on sideways. I thought it was a justified prank and pretty funny, but he thinks I was being an a**hole. So Reddit, AITA?

So, I (29F) recently started a new job as a PA at one of the big banks in London. The team is nice enough, but one coworker, let’s call her Karen (mid-50s), has been…a lot. She’s the kind of PA who thinks she runs the place, constantly dropping hints about her “importance” and making snide comments about others’ gifts or choices. You get the picture.

Anyway, our office does a Secret Santa every year, and Karen took it upon herself to “organize” it, which really just meant micromanaging and then passing off the hard work to others (yours truly). She also announced her “wishlist” to everyone, even though the whole point is that it’s anonymous. She made it crystal clear she wanted “nothing below £50,” name-dropping brands like Jo Malone and Fortnum & Mason. Mind you, the official budget was £20.

Fast forward to the Christmas party last week. I got paired with someone else for Secret Santa and didn’t think much about Karen’s gift until someone joked that “Karen’s going to lose her mind if she gets another cheap candle this year.” I casually mentioned that someone had been clever this time and got her a novelty mug with “Queen of Everything” on it (which I saw when I was helping to wrap the gifts). Turns out, Karen overheard me, and chaos ensued.

Karen was LIVID, saying it was “disrespectful” and “offensive” to her position. She immediately started trying to guess who her Secret Santa was, which led to her storming around the party grilling people. One of the directors (who everyone knows hates Karen) found the whole thing hilarious and teased her about needing to “lighten up.” Cue Karen snapping back, “At least I don’t sleep with my team members.” Yep. She said that. Out loud. At a party.

This set off a chain reaction because apparently, the director has been rumored to have a thing with a senior manager—something I didn’t even know until Karen brought it up. The room went silent, and then Karen doubled down, saying, “Oh, come on, we all know about the ‘business trips.’”

Meanwhile, another coworker (let’s call her Emily) stormed out crying because she’s married to the senior manager in question. Turns out Emily also suspected something, but hearing it in front of the whole office was the breaking point.

By the end of the night, Karen’s “Queen of Everything” mug was the least of anyone’s concerns. HR had to step in to diffuse things, and Karen was called into a meeting the next morning. Apparently, her behavior at the party was the final straw, and she’s now been reassigned to a less prominent department.

Here’s where I might be the AH. I genuinely didn’t know the mug thing was a secret or that it would lead to this massive blow-up. But a couple of people said I should’ve known better and kept my mouth shut. Another colleague joked that I “lit the match that burned down Karen’s kingdom.”

So, Reddit, AITAH for accidentally setting off the office drama of the year? And how do I recover from this without looking like the new girl who stirs the pot?

This year as a family we decided that I (30M) would host NYE for my family which includes my mom, dad, sister (35F) and my other sister (33F), both of their husbands and 5 kids ages 5,6,8,9,11. And my sister who is 33 would host Christmas.

Well this year Christmas was a disaster imo. We arrive at her house around 2pm on Wednesday and for the most part everything is normal, we sona second round of presents, play some board games, and start to get ready for dinner. Now my sister is an actress (community theater, she is actually a barista) and apparently she is trying to let her children 8/9/11 act to their heart desire. Apparently, their favorite show is that out of control Netflix show "I Think You Should Leave with Tim Robinson".

So right before dinner time the three kids start loudly acting out the sketches from the show. First they do the one with the two guys who do the pranks on the toilets. So these three kids are jumping and screaming and pulling out toilet water from the bathroom and splashing it on the floor. I think this is insane and so do my parents. But my sister is encouraging it.

Next it gets even worse, one of them starts to shovel food into their mouths just screaming "WHERE IS ALL THE FOOD GOING! WHO IS EATING ALL THE FOOD!" at this point there is food everywhere and dinner is ruined. The only people laughing are my sister and the kids.

Since all the food is thrown about and their is toilet water on the rest of it, we end up having to order pizza. The holiday was ruined. She says this is hilarious. And she is trying to get them to act like this more and more to make a career out of comedy.

I tell my sister at this point NYE is going to be adults only, or she and her "comedy troupe" can't come. She freaks out and says I'm being insane.

I truly just don't want my house ruined. AITAH for making this couch for Nye?

Throwaway cause my brother know my main. I 20F had a threesome with my bestfriend 20F and her boyfriend 24M. I think i've ruined my relationship with her?

I 20F have known my bestie, (Lara) for the past 10 years. I've been quite close with Lara and her bf Jay, ever since they started a year ago. We regularly hang out together with our group of friends, so we've developed quite a strong bond.

This happened last week, when I was at Lara and Jay's house for a party. We had gotten wasted and the three of us stayed up while the rest of our friends had either crashed or left.

It started when Lara and Jay started making jokes about the threesomes they've had. They were joking around and talking to me about their previous experiences, when they let slip that they roleplay me in the bedroom. (This came up because they asked me if there was anyone in our friend group, I would like to sleep with)

I was a little flattered. I'm bi and I've always been attracted to Lara (to the point where I've had to distance myself from her because I would get sad when she would date other people) I think Jay is incredibly handsome as well. So I was a little taken aback and flattered nonetheless.

We were quite drunk by this point, and as we kept joking around, we started getting quite hands with each other. It got to the point where Jay suggested we all go and lie down in his bedroom.

It was then that Lara began furiously making out with me. I was really into it, and when Jay asked if he could join, I agreed. He asked me to keep my bra on because he liked the lace on it.

It was then that things got really weird. At first, he just touched himself while me and Lara sixty nined. Then he fucked Lara for about 2 minutes before he switched over to me. After this, he basically ignored Lara for the rest of the time. I tried stopping and asking if I could eat her out again or touch her. But Lara insisted that she just wanted to watch us and touch herself, even though she did look uncomfortable. I stopped in the middle of giving him head as well to ask if she was okay and it would be totally acceptable if we stopped. But she said that she was enjoying herself watching us, so we should continue, even though something felt off about the way she said it.

So like the inebriated idiot i was, i continued having sex. During sex, he kept moaning about how huge my boobs were, and that I was every man's fantasy. I was in cowgirl and he finished as soon as I removed my bra. (which was 2 mins into sex)

He then proceeded to tell me that ever since Lara first introduced me to him, he couldn't stop thinking about my massive tits and how he would make Lara wear my bra (that she apparently stole from me, during a sleepover? WTF ) during sex so that he could simulate "the experience" of my H cup titties. That he's apparently jerked off after the first time he met me, because he had never seen a "rack so big on such a small girl." And a bunch of other bullshit about how Lara's small boobs don't compare to mine.

I was severely disgusted after this, and left (even though he offered to have sex with me again, he said to "make up for bussing so soon")

Lara phoned me yesterday to say that I should have stopped him when he said all those things about her boobs compared to mine. I told her that it was a cruel thing to say but I was honestly too shocked to even respond. She said that he only wants to have sex with her, if she roleplays me or puts on porn with huge tits. And that he's been pestering her to get a boob job. She's pissed at me for saying yes to the threesome. She also said "I know it's not technically your fault, but it's always been this way since we were teenagers." I asked her what she meant by that. And she said that boys end up liking me more than her (her ex bf during high school admitted to her he had a crush on me) and she can't take it anymore and that trying to please one man, has obliterated her self esteem and she no longer wants to be friends with me.

I have been crying this entire day. I have not only lost my best friend but maybe my entire friend group. To be honest I've always had feelings for Lara, and I just feel like I've been thrown into the deepest darkest, pit imaginable. I can't stand the thought of her not being in my life, it kind of tears me apart to think of it.