Yes, the situation is awful and you need to process that before you will be able to do much else. It sounds like you are doing that since you made this post. Of course you already know that stress only makes mental issues worse so please try to take care of yourself as best as you can. You said the letter came on the 10th so half of the time has already passed and I'm sure that has you all even more stressed. I know everyone has been saying get a job and of course that would help tremendously but no one knows what your mental issues are and if that is just not going to happen now, then it's not and move forward in whatever ways you all can.
I wish I could say I hear you and know would you like advice because sometimes a rant is just that, but a little advice. You all have a short time. Don't feel you need to find another residence that is comparable to the house you were renting. You are in a crisis situation and you just need a place that you can afford for now. That might be something very small and not in a great area. It might be an apartment. I know everything is more expensive but unless you are already in the cheapest part of your area, there is likely to be a cheaper area that you hadn't ever thought about before. Remember it's temporary and you all can take the time to find something else once you aren't in crisis anymore.
It sounds like there is money coming in so worse comes to worse, you can stay in a hotel. It's not ideal at all but it's better than the streets, although it will eat up money you could be saving so make that the last option.
If you have a car, drive around and look for for rent signs. Those landlords tend to only have a few rentals and can make quick decisions (not the signs from rental companies or real estate companies).
Get on the housing lists for Section 8 when it opens. It may take years to actually get it but that's OK. I don't know about your state but there are actually quite a few apartments being built that are restricted to lower incomes. They run lower than regular rates, but they are much more than public housing or subsidized housing.
Last suggestion. If you can't work for whatever reason right now, take steps to get there. Are you getting consistent treatment for your mental issues. Agressively work on stabilizing your condition as much as you can. Sometimes we know we have a problem and accept it and stop there. Don't stop at saying you have mental issues. Make it your job to improve that situation. Perhaps find a program that can help with treatment and work training, or join a counseling group and make that your goal, or see your therapist more often and find a part time job with a few hours a week just to start and take on more hours later,, or whatever steps you think you can take to improve your situation and lower your dependence on your parents.
Also do whatever you can to help prepare for the move. It is so hard when you are in this situation but avoiding it will not make it go away and only make you feel even less in control. Get packed up. If possible, get rid of whatever you can. I moved quite a few times and always got a big storage with up to a big payment every month. The last time, I moved out of town and roomed with a friend for a while. I got rid of all my furniture and packed almost everything else in bins. It made it so much easier. I had the smallest unit with a very small monthly payment. I didn't miss the furniture at all and moved everything in my car. You may not need a storage unit and may not want to get rid of all your furniture but keep it in mind.
If you need money for a security deposit, consider selling the furniture and anything else you can. It can be replace d and as long as you have a roof over your head, you won't mind sitting on the floor.
Finally reach out and find out if there is any money available for moving out on time. Some banks and property companies pay to make sure that tenants move out in a timely manner. They may be willing to do so but don't offer it unless they see a need to. If it's just a private buyer, then maybe not but I would still ask and probably on both ends, the current landlord and if you have information on the buying party. Per online search "politely explain that you are aware the property has been sold and inquiring about the possibility of receiving a relocation assistance fee or "cash for keys" to help cover your moving costs". Check your state laws first because even with a month to month lease some states still require longer than 30 days notice, especially if the sale was due to foreclosure. Also, although I am not giving any specific advice on this, the notice to vacate is not an eviction. An eviction, would have to go through the courts before a legally assisted forced move, would take place. I am not saying stick around until the last minute for that to happen or to use it as a threat, simply that it's in everyone's interest to offer a "cash for keys" to ensure a timely move out.
Vent, stress, grieve, whatever you need to do and then sit down with your parents, research your rights, and make a plan. Hopefully things will work out OK.
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u/Broad-Shoe7092 17h ago edited 17h ago
Yes, the situation is awful and you need to process that before you will be able to do much else. It sounds like you are doing that since you made this post. Of course you already know that stress only makes mental issues worse so please try to take care of yourself as best as you can. You said the letter came on the 10th so half of the time has already passed and I'm sure that has you all even more stressed. I know everyone has been saying get a job and of course that would help tremendously but no one knows what your mental issues are and if that is just not going to happen now, then it's not and move forward in whatever ways you all can.
I wish I could say I hear you and know would you like advice because sometimes a rant is just that, but a little advice. You all have a short time. Don't feel you need to find another residence that is comparable to the house you were renting. You are in a crisis situation and you just need a place that you can afford for now. That might be something very small and not in a great area. It might be an apartment. I know everything is more expensive but unless you are already in the cheapest part of your area, there is likely to be a cheaper area that you hadn't ever thought about before. Remember it's temporary and you all can take the time to find something else once you aren't in crisis anymore.
It sounds like there is money coming in so worse comes to worse, you can stay in a hotel. It's not ideal at all but it's better than the streets, although it will eat up money you could be saving so make that the last option.
If you have a car, drive around and look for for rent signs. Those landlords tend to only have a few rentals and can make quick decisions (not the signs from rental companies or real estate companies).
Get on the housing lists for Section 8 when it opens. It may take years to actually get it but that's OK. I don't know about your state but there are actually quite a few apartments being built that are restricted to lower incomes. They run lower than regular rates, but they are much more than public housing or subsidized housing.
Last suggestion. If you can't work for whatever reason right now, take steps to get there. Are you getting consistent treatment for your mental issues. Agressively work on stabilizing your condition as much as you can. Sometimes we know we have a problem and accept it and stop there. Don't stop at saying you have mental issues. Make it your job to improve that situation. Perhaps find a program that can help with treatment and work training, or join a counseling group and make that your goal, or see your therapist more often and find a part time job with a few hours a week just to start and take on more hours later,, or whatever steps you think you can take to improve your situation and lower your dependence on your parents.
Also do whatever you can to help prepare for the move. It is so hard when you are in this situation but avoiding it will not make it go away and only make you feel even less in control. Get packed up. If possible, get rid of whatever you can. I moved quite a few times and always got a big storage with up to a big payment every month. The last time, I moved out of town and roomed with a friend for a while. I got rid of all my furniture and packed almost everything else in bins. It made it so much easier. I had the smallest unit with a very small monthly payment. I didn't miss the furniture at all and moved everything in my car. You may not need a storage unit and may not want to get rid of all your furniture but keep it in mind.
If you need money for a security deposit, consider selling the furniture and anything else you can. It can be replace d and as long as you have a roof over your head, you won't mind sitting on the floor.
Finally reach out and find out if there is any money available for moving out on time. Some banks and property companies pay to make sure that tenants move out in a timely manner. They may be willing to do so but don't offer it unless they see a need to. If it's just a private buyer, then maybe not but I would still ask and probably on both ends, the current landlord and if you have information on the buying party. Per online search "politely explain that you are aware the property has been sold and inquiring about the possibility of receiving a relocation assistance fee or "cash for keys" to help cover your moving costs". Check your state laws first because even with a month to month lease some states still require longer than 30 days notice, especially if the sale was due to foreclosure. Also, although I am not giving any specific advice on this, the notice to vacate is not an eviction. An eviction, would have to go through the courts before a legally assisted forced move, would take place. I am not saying stick around until the last minute for that to happen or to use it as a threat, simply that it's in everyone's interest to offer a "cash for keys" to ensure a timely move out.
Vent, stress, grieve, whatever you need to do and then sit down with your parents, research your rights, and make a plan. Hopefully things will work out OK.