r/japanese • u/Educational_Exam1791 • 2d ago
Japanese girl told me she loved me
So I've very recently started seeing this Japanese girl, and when we were getting a bit frisky this one time, she said that she loved me in English. I kind of let it go in the moment, but she could tell that that kind of startled me. Later, I brought the moment up with her and asked if she really meant it and she said that she did, but that "I love you" was commonly used more casually and platonically in Japanese culture. She then said she would say "aishiteru" instead going forward.
I'm wondering if her claims are true, or if she's just attempting to backtrack, because I remember hearing that Japanese people do not often say "I love you" to one another, much less "aishiteru", which had very intense connotations.
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u/aBL1NDnoob 2d ago edited 2d ago
Nope, they actually almost never say I love you. You are the 3rd man (1st non-Japanese) in history that it’s been said to. Congrats. Time to celebrate! Step 1: make a cringy post on reddit ✔️ Step 2: marry the woman and watch as she transitions into a monster. Wahey!
EDIT: on a serious note, I can tell you for a fact that literally every nerd that has commented so far has never been in any kind of romantic relationship with a Japanese woman. In true reddit fashion, they’re spewing nonsense while acting like they’re experts on the topic. Your girl didnt take anything back because of your dorky reaction, she literally told you how it is: in Japanese culture, saying I love you is our equivalent to I like you