Japanese girl told me she loved me

[u/Educational_Exam1791]

So I've very recently started seeing this Japanese girl, and when we were getting a bit frisky this one time, she said that she loved me in English. I kind of let it go in the moment, but she could tell that that kind of startled me. Later, I brought the moment up with her and asked if she really meant it and she said that she did, but that "I love you" was commonly used more casually and platonically in Japanese culture. She then said she would say "aishiteru" instead going forward.

I'm wondering if her claims are true, or if she's just attempting to backtrack, because I remember hearing that Japanese people do not often say "I love you" to one another, much less "aishiteru", which had very intense connotations.

[u/Yoonmin]

Bro the real question is do you love her back? If so, go for it!! Stop wasting around the bush to still think if she still likes you or not. What you gotta lose! 😁

[u/Educational_Exam1791 → u/Yoonmin]

I think you may be misunderstanding the situation. Basically, I think when she told me that she loved me, she really did mean it romantically, but once she saw that I was taken aback by how quickly she was moving, she attempted to retract the statement by downplaying its significance in Japanese culture. I am trying to figure out if I am justified in this belief, and if "aishiteru" is really as casual as she presents it to be.

[u/Yoonmin → u/Educational_Exam1791]

No I knew your statement. I’d just got for it bro. Not gonna hurt. If she says it’s real well there’s your answer. 🤟

[u/Shiranui42 → u/Educational_Exam1791]

Not really casual for the older generation but maybe younger people are more relaxed. Or hormonal? Lol