also it's not like it's showing anything inappropriate, kids are allowed to know what words mean, and it would be much better if they learn them from a responsible adult (which i imagine should be the parents in most cases) rather than discovering them on their own.
I have taught my toddler the correct word for his private parts etc and Ive seen some people say that that is weird. Which i dont see how? When he is old enough and if he asks me what something like this is etc I'll be honest.... some people use them for pleasure and that's okay and normal. Not a big deal
It's also important for children to know the correct words in case someone is sexually abusing them. One reason some children are unable to tell trusted adults what is going on is because they literally don't have the words to do so.
For example, a child could say "that person hurt my bottom," which would most likely be translated to spanking. People are unlikely to immediately think anal penetration. The majority of the time, the abuser is somebody the child knows. So, when confronted, they are often given the benefit of the doubt and can say, "I won't spank them again" and nobody will ever know until the child learns the correct terms for their body parts.
When I was in nursing school we were taught that we are the front line in figuring out if a child is being abused. We were told one story of a child telling multiple trusted adults that her uncle was abusing her and no one understood because the family taught her the her privates were called a “cookie” and her uncle told her it was okay because what else would you do with a cookie? Supposedly the school nurse figured it out when it occurred with pain, I think a bladder infection but I’m not sure it was too long ago. Kid was telling for months and no one was hearing her because your uncle eating your cookie sounds like a prank.
It's wild to me how so many of these stories from other people are because of the euphemism "cookie" for vulva/vagina. It's such an interesting choice...
It's gross and perverted to teach a five year old that's what her privates are called. It sounds like something lovers would use in a fun way with each other.
There were a bunch of other examples but I only recall that one as it made me change how I would ask questions. I normally worked with dementia and hospice patients so the child aspect wasn’t there but sadly some are still abused.
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u/GreenLightening5 5d ago
also it's not like it's showing anything inappropriate, kids are allowed to know what words mean, and it would be much better if they learn them from a responsible adult (which i imagine should be the parents in most cases) rather than discovering them on their own.