Sure. It's a situation that would be somewhat funny in a rom-com if it wasn't my real life.
My husband's parents were deeply upset that he was dating a Black lady as opposed to a nice Indian American girl from somewhere on the east coast of the US.
They was so upset that they confronted him when he started dating me.
Their feelings continued when they refuse to meet me for nearly 2 years into our relationship.
After many years of fights and tears, my husband decided to propose to me. My in-laws confronted him again with help of a family friend.
When we decide to move in together while planning the wedding, my husband had to essentially run away from home. He was partially disowned.
The wedding sabotage begins.
They deliberately delayed getting an auspicious date for the wedding, which made booking a venue very difficult.
My mother-in-law stole my wedding sari and only gave it back a month before the wedding.
They threatened to wear white to the wedding, a color of mourning.
They insisted on another reception where an uncle followed me around trying to touch me an entire evening without any help from my in-laws. My husband was very helpful but the uncle leveraged being from the community and used other attendees to keep trying to touch me, ultimately it was a miserable time.
After being married, various attempts to treat me like a servant and attempts at disrespect.
When we had kids, disparagement of Black people and wanting to straighten my kids hair.
Whee. If my spouse wasn't amazing, I would not be as calm about this.
Wow, dear fellow Redditor. I can't believe that in this day and age there are people so unreasonably and consistently bigoted. I'm sorry you had to go through so much.
And yes, that makes your husband all the more of a great husband. I wish your family so many years of happiness! Many blessings from my belief; I am sure they will apply regardless of the recipient's faith.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I can feel it was painful. But I'm also confident that this hard path will be eventually made up to you. Many hugs!
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u/JBWentworth_ 5d ago
I think caste enters the discussion at this point. If Kamala’s father was not of the appropriate caste, Apoorva would never vote for her.