If you ask a man to "do the dishes" he will naturally get confused - dishes tend to not have a hole.
So try to be more specific. Like "wash the dishes" or "put the dishes into a dishwasher".
And in case of a dishwasher - if the dishwasher is filled with previous dishes but you didn't specify the expectation to empty out the dishwasher first a man might consider the dishwasher to already be at capacity and stop putting the dishes in.
And sure - some men do this as "weapon used incompetence". But majority are actually incompetent when it comes to housekeeping, and they need learning how things are done. It is absolutely not your obligation to teach them, but if you do want them to learn - remember the importance of feedback. If all they hear is negative feedback, they only learn to avoid those things. If you want them to actually learn something - accept there will be mistakes. A lot of mistakes at first. And you have to show patience.
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u/hilvon1984 21h ago
If you ask a man to "do the dishes" he will naturally get confused - dishes tend to not have a hole.
So try to be more specific. Like "wash the dishes" or "put the dishes into a dishwasher".
And in case of a dishwasher - if the dishwasher is filled with previous dishes but you didn't specify the expectation to empty out the dishwasher first a man might consider the dishwasher to already be at capacity and stop putting the dishes in.
And sure - some men do this as "weapon used incompetence". But majority are actually incompetent when it comes to housekeeping, and they need learning how things are done. It is absolutely not your obligation to teach them, but if you do want them to learn - remember the importance of feedback. If all they hear is negative feedback, they only learn to avoid those things. If you want them to actually learn something - accept there will be mistakes. A lot of mistakes at first. And you have to show patience.