AIO on her reaction to seeing her ex

[u/Prestigious_Monk007]

Hi, I m(22) and my gf(24), we are dating each other for past six months and know each other for 2 years. We liked each other and kept flirting but were never serious, now we’re a bit serious.

So, the other day, she was having a bit of lazy day and I went to her place and I mentioned I want to get something and convinced her to go to mall with me. We went there, everything was going so great, she was happy, bubbling. I got her 2 dresses as small gift.

But as we stepped out of a store, she saw her ex and said she wants to use washroom. So, for me all normal. But when she came out, I saw her being totally off right away and asked about it, she said it was something personal but decided to share with me if I don’t judge.

So, she said she saw someone and it completely ruined her mood, she has mentioned before that past was bad and he’s kinda psychopath. So, i was completely with her and tried to distract or convince her to not think about it, but at one point she mentioned “he’s not gonna be able to sleep for nights now” and that’s when I was a little backed up.

I didn’t say anything bad or anything hurtful to her, but yes she saw it all over me how it affected me to see her being like that. So, I cancelled the dinner plan and took her back to her place.

But she was totally out space, talked to me about how she only want serious relationship, the she said he called her a couple days back with no caller ID but she totally mentioned she doesn’t wanna talk.

Then we didn’t talk much, had food and I came back. Recently she called and said she wants us to go slow and have some space,

She went through alot this year and I completely trust her, I adore her but I just can’t shake off the feeling that we might be together just out of convenience.

[u/ElisseBliss]

Seeing an ex can definitely throw anyone for a loop, but it sounds like you handled it pretty well by being supportive. The whole ‘he’s not gonna be able to sleep for nights’ comment is a bit cryptic though—like, is this a superhero movie? Just keep the communication open and genuine, my dude. Space might actually help you both figure out if this is convenience or something more epic. Good luck!

[u/Chance-Foundation-46]

You’re overreacting bro

[u/Lahotep]

NOR. So her ex called her and she didn’t tell you about it for days and she said that stuff about him not sleeping and then tells you she wants space?