ABYG if secretly ayaw ko magkatuluyan best friend ko at boyfriend niya?

I (F, 20+) have been friends with my best friend, (let’s call her Saint) (F, 20+ ) for 10 years, and she has been in a relationship with her BF (20+) for five years.

I have been and am very supportive of Saint since nagkakilala kami, may alitan man we always make up, although close na kami nuon, ngayon lang talaga na college na kami naging super inseparably close. Si Saint naman at si BF same year as us lang din magkakilala, but 5 years pa lang sila sa a couple.

Wala naman talaga akong problema kay BF, friends din kasi kami before pa maging sila, okay naman siya, although minsan may pagkahangin lang din talaga. Sobrang supportive din ako sa relationship nila, noong naka crush lang sila sa isa’t-isa, ako ‘yung nagtutulak, noong shaky start parang ako din ‘yung nag bridge, tapos noong gusto mag transfer ng religion si Saint dahil INC si BF, go lang din. Fight for love ‘yung atake ko nuon.

The past year bumaliktad talaga ‘yung world ni Saint. She failed her classes and had to shift to another program. Hindi ko to’ ma admit to myself nuon, pero para sa’kin ‘yung BF kasi yung isang cause, palaging umuuwi si Saint because the BF would always ask for her to go back sa hometown namin, tapos parang magtatampo pag di nasunod ‘yung gusto. Mahirap kasi program ni Saint, and minsan talaga her batchmates really wouldn’t leave for home kasi aral ng aral. Matalino naman si Saint pero ayun distracted lang talaga. Tapos isa na din ‘yung parang because of the palaging uwi and katawag si BF naging aloof si Saint, and mas helpful talaga for her program if sumasama siya sa study group.

Di ko kasi rin ma gets, miss na miss mo girlfriend mo, literal na nag “what are you willing to do” girlfriend mo by transferring to your religion tapos simpleng travel papunta sa kanya di mo magawa? Kahit isa hindi magawa?

Pero kahit parang na “eh” na ako sa relationship nila. Na final na ‘yung judgement ko to wish na sana hindi sila magkatuluyan nung nag laro kami ng “We listen and we don’t judge” tapos nag admit si Saint na minsan nasasakal siya kay BF. Doon ko lang din na realize ‘yung mga red flags kay BF.

Kahit ayaw ni Saint magkaanak, nag compromise siya dahil daw gusto ng limang anak ni BF. Pag umuuwi si Saint di niya man lang dinadala para mag date, he’ll just drag her around to tambay with his friends. Laging pinagbabawalan si Saint na lumabas, at minsan di na lang siya sinsabihan ni Saint. Dami pa di ko na maalala.

‘Yung dilemma ko is parang in love talaga si Saint (first serious boyfriend niya at lahat ng “firsts” niya) tapos si BF naman treats her and provides her well. Pero kasi why am I secretly wishing they don’t end up together because I think my best friend will get treated horribly in the long run, or might resent herself for staying when I was the one who pushed for them to be together? Am I looking out for her? Gago ba ako for thinking like this?

Para kasing ang gago ko naman as a friend for pushing them together, tapos todo supporta ko, and then in the end parang ayoko sila magkatuluyan.

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Hi! To give context, niloko ako.

My now ex-bf, ldr kami nakipaghiwalay dahil sa girl na to na malapit lang sa kanya at nakakasama niya lagi sa inuman. Hinahatid sundo niya and all.

While si ate girl, meron din pala bf, ldr din sila, when I stalked the original bf naka "engaged" status pa with her name.

I messaged the guy, and sent him pictures na magkasama yung ex-bf ko at gf niya in one frame. I don't know how he will take this, kung alam niya ba, kung may kutob na ba siya.

Pero ABYG kung masisira ko sila, pati mental health ni kuya if ever?

EDIT: Hindi nakipaghiwalay, pero he enjoy the ride while I'm begging and asking him to stay, not knowing na may something na pala sa kanila ni GIRL. Ilang beses ko tinanong pero wala ko sagot na nakuha.

EDIT 2: TINANGGAL NA PO NI GUY YUNG “ENGAGE” STATUS NILA NI ATENG AHAS, PATI PIC HIGHLIGHTS NILA HAHAHA SO UT MEANS EX KO PINILI NI ATENG HIGAD, BUT I THINK ITS FOR THE BETTER PARA SAMING DALAWA NA NILOKO, NAGSAMA ANG DALAWANG BASURA! GOOD RIDDANCE!

I own a small business, and things have been slow since the beginning of the ber months. This one employee who's been working for me for 4 months, feeling nya hindi magffunction ang business na wala sya, nagtanong kung meron pa bang bonus and I told him about the financial situation at hindi ko afford magbigay. I did give them christmas baskets though, on top of the 13th month pay out of my own pocket.

So he threatened to quit after December, dahil wala raw kwenta yung policy na iniimplement namin. I let him be, kahit after a few hours nag apologize sya at ayaw raw sya paalisin ng mga kasamahan nya, sabi ko wag na syang bumalik.

Last night naaksidente sya. Nagmotor syang lasing after being told otherwise. Dinala namin sya sa ospital midnight earlier at kami nag asikaso ng mga gamit nya for admission, kasi kami tinawagan kahit sobrang late na.

He suffered a fracture in his femur and needs to undergo surgery. It was out of work premises and work hours. So it is clearly not my responsibility—pero feeling ko umaasa parin sya na icocover ko ang ibang expenses. I gave him a hard no.

ABYG?

Hindi ko alam kung sensitive lang ako. Birthday ng nanay ko, binigyan sya ng kapatid ko ng pera as bday gift. Tinanong ako ng nanay ko kung ako raw magkano bibigay ko sakanya. Sabi ko 500 lang kasi wala akong extra dahil sa nagdaang pasko (for context binigyan ko sila ng regalo worth 5k in total, tapos kalahati ng 13th month ko bigay ko rin) tapos sabi sakin ng nanay ko "ang damot mo naman"

Mejo naOff ako, sabi ko, "madamot na ba un, hindi naman kami magkasing laki ng sahod" tapos parang nawalan ako ng gana. Maya maya sabi ng nanay ko nagalit daw ba ako, nagbibiro lang daw sya.

Ngayon iniisip ko parang ayaw ko na ibigay ung 500 na balak kong ibigay. Isa pa nga pala, nakaSet na kumain kami sa labas at hati kami ng kapatid ko sa gagastusin.

ABYG if di ko na ibibigay o Sensitive lang ba ako? Wag po sana ipost sa labas. Salamat.

For context, we're not that close as friends and I don't trust her since she had a history na ginawan ako ng kwento para siraan. we went separate ways after graduating from highschool and haven't heard from each other since.

Now, fast forward after 12 years, ng reach out sya through a mutual friend na gusto nya mg aya ng dinner saken and the rest of my small circle.

While I understand na baka gusto lg talaga mg reconnect, may gut feeling ako na baka there's more to it.

I don't feel comfortable thinking about this and I am prioritizing peace and privacy na den kaya I respectfully declined sa GC na ginawa nya.

Ako ba yung gago kase dahil ng decline ako, ayaw na rin sumama sa dinner ng other friends ko? Di ko naman sila pinilit.

Context: Ilang years na nagmemessage yung HS friend ko na namamasko daw yung inaanak ko. Gcash na lang daw. Nung unang year, I sent my pamasko since pandemic naman yon. After that, hindi ko na sineen. But I keep in touch from time to time para mangumusta. G na G naman magkwento. Kapag turn ko na magkwento, dedma na sa kwento ko. Either seen or react lang so tinamad na ako. As I reflect on things, she did not make any effort na maging part ako ng buhay ng anak nya. We live a few towns away but with digital age, wala na imposible. I'm close with my pamangkins in the US kahit na once pa lang naman kami nagkita ever. Pero the constant communication is there.

Pero dito sa friend ko, wala. Maalala lang ako kapag magrarant about sa life nya. Kapag happy na ulit, dedma na.

Fast forward to Christmas 2024: Hindi ko siniseen ang ilang messages na namamasko at nangungumusta. And I'm lowkey cutting her off. ABYG?

EDIT: Magarbo ang noche buena, with matching staycation. May pa-travel pa bukod don.

Humiram siya sakin last August ng 12k for her sister’s schooling daw. Sabi niya babalik niya rin the next month. Dahil nakakaluwag naman ako and friend ko siya since highschool, pinahiram ko.

Came September sinisingil ko siya kasi may out of town trip ako and balak ko sana yun ipangdagdag sa budget ko. Dito na nagsimula. Unang singil ko ang excuse niya kakalipat niya palang sa current work niya and di pa nabibigay nung prev. company niya yung backpay, kesyo may issue raw kasi sakanya yung company. Then nagsabi siya next cutoff niya raw babayaran.

Dumating yung date na sinabi niya, siningil ko siya, at puro nanaman excuses natanggap ko so sabi ko hulugan nalang niya every cutoff then pinasign ko siya ng agreement.

Dumating na ulit yung date kung kelan yung unang hulog, excuses na naman natanggap ko. Nagsabi siya na sa susunod na cutoff nalang daw niya bibigay yung buong bayad para sa month na yun. Naghintay nanaman ako. Pagdating nung sumunod na cutoff, 1k lang sinend at syempre sandamakmak na excuses nanaman natanggap ko. Dito na ko nagsimulang mabadtrip.

Ngayon, sabi ko sakanya bayaran na niya ng buo yung kulang niya at ayoko na ng hulugan dahil hindi rin naman niya sinunod. Imagine, September ko pa hinihintay yung pera ko, binigyan ko na siya ng option na hulugan kahit hindi naman yun yung napagusapan noong una, pero hindi niya sinunod.

Nagmamakaawa siya ngayon na baka pwede daw hatiin niya yung bayad at sa susunod na sweldo niya bayaran yung kalahati dahil nagbayad pa daw siya ng piyansa para sa mommy niya. Hindi ako pumayag at binigyan ko ng ultimatum na pag hindi niya binayaran ngayon ng buo e hahanapin ko siya ultimo sa local nila ng INC. Bwisit na bwisit na ko e. Ako pa na hassle ngayon. ABYG?

ABYG dahil nainis na ako and nasermonan ko ng light mama ko. Kwento is that I bought a SUV years back dahil request ni mom since magreretire na sya, so I’m still paying for it monthly dhil installment sya roughly 20K+ now mind you OFW ako and I send her, her allowance plus for the monthly ng car, sometimes may mga extra etc and may anak din ako na almost HS na kaya I have separate responsibilities din, tho I’m earning well naman nasa 6digits sahod ko pero madami ding binabayaran and etc. Soo ang rant ko is di naman ako gumagamit ng kotse ksi to the point gnawa na tlg syang family service, everyday hatid sundo sa siblings and nieces kaya pagdating oil change ako pa hihingan, and also annual car insurance and mind you may parentahan kame and the profit sa mama ko naman nappnta plus allowance and pension. Kaya napagsbhan ko na if kaya magipon monthly khit konti lang for that insurance dhil ako na lagi nagbabayad di ko naman ginagamit, atleast a little I can pay the the rest because pag ber-months magastos ako coz holiday season, soo ABYG?

Natapos na yung 6 month contract ko sa condo unit na kasama si partner. Maayos kami nagmove out, on the said date umalis kami. Iniwan naming malinis ang unit (kahit noong paglipat namin, naglinis pa kami. Ang baho ng ref may nabulok na juice, ang CR may mga buhok pa lol. Naiwan na bills from previous tenant).

Sa kontrata, within 30 days supposedly mabalik ang deposit namin which is due tomorrow naman minus ang utilities at renovations if applicable. 2 weeks ago, nakapagsend na siya ng bill na expect namin. Pero nagfollow up ako sa kanya this week regarding sa computation. May adhesive kaming nilagay kasi di namin akalain na manipis ang pintura (yes, pwede magdikit sa unit as per contract & owner). Nagkaroon tuloy ng repaint na about 3 inches. Yes, may picture kami nito lahat. Kung ano itsura ng unit niya noong umalis kami a month ago at nasend sa kanya kaagad.

Expect namin hindi naman aabot more than 1k ang pagpaayos ng repaint. 2 days ago nagsend na siya computation. Laking gulat ko 3000 ang singil sa repaint job. Tinanong ko bakit, may resibo ba etc.? Yun pala hindi pa napaayos ang unit at ibabawas 'tong 3000 sa deposit namin para isabay sa repaint buong unit. Yung excess daw, ibabalik naman niya. Pero tingin masyado yata nung owner na naive kami parehas kasi bakit ka magbibigay presyo wala kang proof man lang? In the end, materials na 1.8k na lang ang sinend namin pero pumayag kami kasi manipis na ang pintura sa kitchen at may mga adhesive pa na naiwan na baka kailangang tapalan pa.

Kahapon nagusap kami about dito at sabi niya "later or tom send ko na". Ako naman si bait sige hintayin ko na. Matatapos na ang araw, nanghingi ako update. Biglang sabi na lang niya na "exceed na transfer ko, bukas after lunch send ko na". BPI ang bank ko at kanya, pagkacheck ko nagrerefresh na 10pm ang limits kaya ang sabi ko pwede bang i-send na niya around that time? Nasa bakasyon daw kasi sila hanggang January 1. At luluwas na madaling araw. Di naman ako tanga, alam kong excuses lang yun pero iniintindi ko kasi may pamilya pero siya napakaayos naming tenant pero mukha akong tanga maghabol.

Nastalk ko na din siya laging nasa labas kasama pamilya. If nageexceed pala ang transfer, wala ba ibang paraan? Alam ko meron eh. Alam ko din na magbagong taon at gusto ko umintindi, pero hindi. Ayoko na maging masaya siya magbakasyon hangga't sa di niya maibalik ang pera namin.

ABYG kung gusto kong i-report ang owner sa admin office ng condo unit at ipabaranggay?

ABYG Siningil ko rin agad 'yung utang sa akin kasi may dumating na parcel kanina ang kuya ko and umabot sa 2k ang inabono ko since may iniwan naman siyang 1k. Simot ang wallet ko and ayaw ko rin talagang nawawalan ng pera sa wallet. Hindi naman ako madamot, nagpapahiram talaga agad ako kapag meron pero gusto ko rin agad bumabalik. Saka 'yung mga pera na 'yon nakalaan na sa ibang bagay so ayaw kong nagagalaw talaga. Alam ni kuya 'yon, wala naman siyang problema. Hindi ko lang nagustuhan 'yung sinabi sa akin ng pinsan ko na mas matanda, ''pera lang 'yan, hayaan mo na parang 'yan lang'' pabulong pero rinig ko. Kasi hindi naman 'yon ang point ko, hindi naman talaga namin hahayaan magkakapatid masira kami sa pera jusko. Pero parang napaisip din ako kung tama lang ba na naningil ako haha. ABYG?

ABYG? Nagaway kami kasi pinagsabihan ko siya na sana kumilos-kilos naman siya pagdating sa paghanap ng trabaho. Sa totoo lang, hindi naman siya nagkukulang pagdating sa pagmamahal niya sakin, and ginagawa niya nga naman talaga lahat ng makakaya niya para mapasaya ako and makatulong kapag kailangan ko.

Problema lang, batugan siya sa bahay. Dito rin namumunga yung mga problema niya sa bahay kasama ng nanay niya, kasi palagi raw siyang pinepressure at minimicromanage sa bawat desisyon. Inamin niya rin sakin na parte rin daw kung bakit hindi pa niya sobrang sineseryoso yung job hunting, kasi naiisip niya na kagad yung responsibilidad ng pagtulong sa mga bayarin.

Nagalit ako recently kasi may kaibigan kaming nagoffer na pwede niya raw i-refer si jowa sa connection niya from an org, and need lang daw niyang ibigay yung resume niya. Ilang beses ko pinaalalahanan na i-forward niya yung resume niya dun sa friend namin, pero hindi pala niya ginawa. Ang rason, naiinsecure daw siya sa resume niya. Fresh grad palang siya at wala pang actual solid experience, hindi rin siya sobrang sigurado kung ano ba talaga gusto niyang gawin sa buhay.

Nagagalit talaga ako. Alam kong parte ng rason kung bakit hindi niya alam kung anong gagawin sa buhay niya ay yung upbringing niya sa bahay—nasanay siyang walang mabigat na expectations sa kanya. That is, until maghiwalay yung mga magulang niya. Ngayon, grabe yung biglang change na he has to be the man of the house all of a sudden.

Girlfriend niya ako at alam kong dapat sakin niya nakukuha yung lakas at suportang kailangan niya, pero nakakapagod din kasi ilang beses ko na siya tinulungan at ilang opportunities na rin yung pinaparating ko sa kanya, kaso wala pa rin.

I'm 25(F) na nag-aask sa jowa ko 25(M) na ipost o i-my day man lang ako. Going 8 years na kami next year, 5 years live in with his siblings since ulila na sila last 2022.

Every since bago palang kami I've always asked him why kako hindi mo man lang ako pinopost o mina-my day unlike dun sa nauna nyang relationship why back HS na prinoprofile pa nya. I know ang childish ng problema ko pero hindi lang nagsimula dito ang lahat. When I asked him dati ang sinasabi nya lang sakin is "hindi na kasi ako ganun, nagmatured nako and hindi lahat need ipost o imyday sa socmed. Naiinggit ka lang dyan sa mga nakikita mo, hindi lahat ng nasa socmed e masaya kadalasan sila pa yun may problema" which is I know naman. Eversince our relationship I always do the super effort. Hindi ko naman sinasabi na wala syang ambag pero kunbaga parang ako yun lalaki or nagmamahal ng sobra I guess? I always makes suprises, letters, my days until napagod nalang siguro ako as years past by kasi baka hindi talaga sya ganun. He even did not interact with me on socmed, bihirang bihira. Liking my post, commented on my post, sharing my post. Bilang na bilang sa kamay. As I was saying ang childish diba. Even before I always post our photos on IG, naka featured photos pa yan both FB and IG sa kanya wala. Naka featured din In a relationship status ko sa FB pero ayun nga as time goes by nagsawa ako feel ko bat laging ako nalang yun ganito so I decided to remove it on my featured photos and profile both IG and FB but nandun pa din naman hindi lang agad yun ang bubungad once you stalk me on my profile.

Recently, I've notice masyado sya close and active sa fb dun sa mga new coworkers nya na mga babae. Hindi sa pinagseselosan ko silang lahat kasi madami naman pero napapatanong nalang ako why sakin hindi sya ganun? Pag kasama nya friends nya todo my day sya, react sa mga shared post, etc. I tried to open up sa kanya and nasa akin yun blame. Keso bat daw ako din ganito ganyan, hindi ko rin daw sya pinopost or my day sa fb so bakit din daw nya gagawin yun sakin? And sabi ko ganyan ako dati pero nagsawa ako kasi ganito reason mo etc.

Then, christmas came. We celebrate together with my family sa province and I'm still waiting na mag my day sya with me pero wala. Nung tinanong ko sya, e kasi di ka rin naman nag my day. Bakit ganun? Kailangan ako lagi mauna? Bakit wala talaga syang kusa? Nung dati naman tinanggap ko reason nya pero bat ngayon parang ako yun may kasalanan. Ayoko kasi na lagi ako magpaparinig o magsasabi para lang maflex ako kung talagang kaflex flex bako kasi useless yun feeling na akala mo proud sila sayo pero hindi pala.

Naiiyak ako. Hindi lang to yun problema ko, I know mababaw pero hindi ko ba deserve mafeel na maganda ako, na kaflex flex ako? Why I always feel na nanlilimos ako lagi ng mga bagay na deserve ko naman? Why in 8 years na pagbebeg sa ganitong kasimpleng bagay e hindi ko pa din makuha.

ABYG Mag ask na i-my day o ipost man lang ako

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Title: ABYG kasi napagdesisyunan ko na tanggalan ng mana ang aking anak?

Content: Should not be a rant post, hindi dapat sobrang ikli. Hindi kami facebook, twitter and instagram, ikwento ng maayos ang sitwasyon.

Sa dulo ng post, ilagay ang dahilan kung bakit mo naisipan na ikaw ang gago.

For context meron akong HS friend na naging close friend ko. May sari-sarili na kaming pamilya. Usually kapag naggeget together kaming tatlo ng isa pa naming close friend, lagi akong nagdadala ng something para may aabot ako sa kanila. Usually food or para sa anak.

So eto na nga. Last year, dahil mejo broke and tagtipid ako, bumili lang ako ng kaya lang ng budget ko para may mabigay pa rin sa kanila. Hindi kamahalan yung gift na binili ko. Mga b1t1 lang sa S&R. Wala akong problema dun sa isang kaibigan ko e kasi tinanggap niya ng maayos yung gift at nagthank you naman. Itong isang hs friend ko na ito na kalalaking tao at kumikita naman ng maayos, pagkaabot ko sa kanya ng gift na para sa buong pamilya niya (take note, tag-iisa silang family of 4), imbis na magthank you e sasabihan ka ng "Wow. Sana pinera mo na lang!" Same din kapag papalapit na birthday ng mga anak niya. Usually magpaparamdam na yun sa gc tapos sasabihin "pwede niyo naman bank transfer." Minsan naggreet ako nung birthday niya, na pwede daw kami magsend sa Gcash niya. Mejo nakaka-off. I mean maganda naman work nilang mag-asawa pero may ganung ugali yung lalaki. For all I know kaya lang ako kinuhang Ninang ng anak niya para sa pera.

ABYG na hindi ko na lang sila binigyan ng regalo this year kesa makarinig na naman ako ng "sana pinera mo na lang"? ABYG na binara ko rin siya sa gc nung bday niya na next time hindi na lang ako maggreet sa kanya?

For context, the house we live in kasi is ipinamana sa partner ko ng lola nya. Hindi sila related by blood pero si Lola ang nagpalaki sa kanya and all. Kasi if mama nya nagpalaki sa kanya to be honest, baka nasa kang-kungan ang partner ko ngayon. Yes, that’s right.

Now, naghahabol yung “mother” ng partner ko kasi “credit grabber” sya samantalang nung inalagaan nya si Lola (nung bedridden), paid and all naman sya kahit di kalakihan. Maluwag naman ang bahay pero “gusto ko nang bumukod” knowing naman paparating na yung baby namin as we start our family. Imagine, mom, pops, including unmarried siblings e kasama namin e may bahay naman sila. Wala nmang problema sa mga siblings nya dko lang gusto yung mama nya sa totoo lang. Kung maka-askta kala mo sa kanya yung bahay. I can’t do shit in this house kasi “masyadong pakialamera.” Pag may aayusin ako sa kusina ibabalik nya the way she liked things. Ayoko pa naman ng ganun so di na ko kumikilos sa bahay bahala ka dyan. Tangina.

Ayoko talaga sa mom nya kasi during the first trimester ng pagbbuntis ko ultimo apelyido ng bata gusto nya pakialaman kasi “DI NGA DAW KAMI KASAL” so dapat apelyido ko not the dad. Sobrang triggered ako, then she even told me jokingly na totoo na ibenta nya daw tong bahay ng di alam ng partner ko. Nung kami lang nag-uusap. Then, in another instance lagi nyang sinasabi na “mama ko daw dapat mag-alaga ng baby ko” like bakit ko papa-alaga sa mom ko? Eh, nakaleave lang naman ako and all at ako ang nanay. Siraulo ba sya? Anyway, kupal ng mama nya. Grabe yung stress ko this whole pregnancy…

ABYG? For wanting them out of the fucking house o ako nalang aalis lol! Iwan ko nalang yung tatay kasama ng buong angkan nya magsama-sama nalang sila.

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I feel like ang OA ko and I feel so bad for feeling/reacting this way. I have asked a close friend about this, but I want unbiased opinion as well.

ABYG for asking for "extra" reassurance after my BF told me naheal ko daw sya sa previous situationship niya from years ago? Biglaan lang like sabi nya meron syang na realize about our relationship, then nasabi nya yun. I played it cool and then thought about it for a while then asked if we can talk about it later because I was feeling uneasy.

He mentioned that he had a situationship with a girl he was crazy about and di sila nag work out. He said he would usually think about her or miss her kahit in a relationship pa siya (2 ex-relationships before he met me). His last relationship before me was 5 years ago. We've been dating for almost a year. I feel very secure in our relationship, but I felt a bit of threat/fear after he told me about it.

I honestly don't know how to feel about it? I know he has no bad intentions and I should be happy knowing that he's healed, but I can't stop this weird feeling. Dati ko to na overthink, but I never brought it up kse they're only assumptions I had in the back of my mind and possibly retroactive jealousy, so I brushed it off. There were subtle signs kse, but I believe my retroactive jealousy was causing it so inignore ko rin. Yes, at some point in the relationship I have felt like parang meron syang past he thinks about and I felt like my assumptions became reality after he told me that, so now I feel this way.

We're very direct when we communicate, so we have no problems with communication. I love and trust him, but iba talaga if rinireassure ka minsan diba especially when you're feeling uneasy hahaha

Yes I talked to him about it after thinking about it for several hours, how I felt and I felt like he brushed off my feelings. After he said why would I ask for extra reassurance, it got me thinking if OA talaga ung reaction ko and nagdrama ako for nothing and gave him a headache 😂 then told me I have nothing to worry about

More background about my experience with relationships: My current partner is my 3rd (had 2 exes that both lasted about 2 years), but I have never felt this kind of feeling before. So it's new to me and I'm not sure how to react to it and if it's something I should work on

Here’s a quick recap: Since it was Christmas, we decided to go out with all my friends from our area. My house is a little farther away but still within a fair walking distance. Before that, I visited my relatives on my mother’s side (my Titos and Titas) to greet them because my mother wanted me to. Our house is usually somber; my papa has been bedridden and very sick for four years, so we haven’t been able to enjoy a normal Christmas. We don’t even get to eat special food for the occasion.

I made the dutiful rounds to my mother's relatives—my Titos and Titas—because tradition demands it, even when tradition feels like a luxury we can no longer afford. Three, maybe four hours away from papa's bedside, counting minutes like rosary beads. They fed us, these relatives of ours, and pressed money into my hands with eyes that held more pity than love. When I told papa about the money, his pride flared hot and angry—"You're 18," he said, as if age alone could shield me from the weight of our circumstances.

I wanted to tell him that I didn't ask for their help, that their money felt like coins tossed into a wishing well of our misfortune. But I swallowed those words like we swallow so much these days. Instead, I forced a laugh—"maybe they took pity on me, haha"—as if making light of it could make it hurt less (thinking it on my mind). Papa's anger is just another symptom of our situation, I suppose. Behind his harsh words lies a good man crushed beneath life's relentless wheel. I tell myself he means well, because sometimes understanding is all we have left to give each other.

He’s 79 years old, if you’re wondering. I was born when he was older because, well, I was a late-born child. My papa has had other children outside our family, but only one of his daughters helps us in this difficult situation. I’m also sickly and have a fragile body. I’ve read that there’s scientific evidence suggesting that when older men produce children, their sperm quality can decline, potentially leading to weaker offspring. I guess I’m living proof of that.

Now, onto the main story:

So it started like this: My friends (let's call them A and B) notified me that they were going to visit my house and that we would be drinking. (I don’t drink much; I only drink on special occasions. I’m usually a shut-in, though I work as a freelance manga translator.)

My friends view my life through the lens of wasted potential—I see it in their eyes, hear it in their carefully chosen words. "You have so much potential," they say, the phrase heavy with unspoken frustration. They don't understand that potential is a luxury that withers in the shadow of necessity. But that day, their words found purchase in my loneliness. One night of pretending to be normal—was that too much to ask?

A and B came to my house, and we decided to visit another friend, C. When we arrived, C was still sleeping, so we decided to go to the market while waiting for him. They wanted to buy some gifts. I didn’t buy any, even though I had money at the moment, because I’m saving for another surgery for my eyes, which have developing cataracts. The procedure requires ₱7,500, and I’m dependent on my papa’s PhilHealth card. Right now, I only have ₱900 saved.

When I spotted the earrings, I remembered my friend who sells them. A small connection, a thread between worlds—I offered to make the introduction, playing at being useful, at being normal. C's message arrived then, breaking the illusion, reminding us all that we were just killing time in a market where I couldn't afford to shop, hahaha.

So we went to our usual spot, waiting for all our friends to arrive so we could gather the money they could contribute to buying alcohol and pulutan (snacks or side dishes). A suggested that it would be better to eat first because alcohol doesn’t taste good and is more acidic when consumed on an empty stomach.

At that point, I started worrying because I’d have to spend another ₱100 again. I should’ve thought about eating at home instead and coming back later. However, my parents wouldn’t have let me leave again since I have a curfew. So it would be a bad idea, so I just go along my friends too eat in a nearby mall.

After we ate, we went to the third floor of the mall, but A didn’t come with us because the mall was about to close. So, we decided to play a trick on him and leave him behind. We took the elevator down to the ground floor, and it felt exciting—it’s not often I experience moments like this.

Once we reached the ground floor, B suggested that I should look for A since we needed to gather all our friends if possible. I agreed to B’s idea and decided to search for A, but in the end, they tricked me. When I went back to our usual spot, that’s where I found them.

They decided to gaslight me, claiming they had been looking for me too and all sorts of other nonsense. I just chose to sit in my usual spot and wait.

We ended up waiting for a long time because not everyone had arrived yet. After what felt like forever, we were finally complete. Everyone contributed money, and I pitched in ₱50 which I'm hesating to give out and just go home directly but at the same time, I want to experience happiness. We bought four bottles of gin and juice, and one of our friends mixed them for us. Then, we started drinking.

C noticed that my goofy and silly vibe was fading and said, "Oh, he suddenly remembered he has problems at home."

How could I explain to them what it means to watch your father fade away breath by breath? To count his remaining heartbeats like spare change, never knowing which will be the last? They live in a world where parents are inconveniences to be avoided or obstacles to be overcome. They don't understand that some of us live in the spaces between breaths, between moments, between the person we need to be and the person we wish we could become.

Ik the gin couldn't wash away these thoughts, but maybe, just maybe, it could blur them enough to make them bearable for one night.

So, I drank more and more to keep the euphoria going and to ignore what everyone else was saying. I was the only one who kept eating our side snacks to stay active because I needed to keep up the act. I didn’t want them to think I was sad.

One of my friends started getting angry, saying that I shouldn’t eat so fast or too much since we were on a tight budget. But I ignored him and instead forced another friend to let me drink half of a gin in a pitsin (container).

He facepalmed at my behavior. So my frieind make another alcohol with juice again. So it's gonna leave us short by two gins. (For context, most of my friends are 20 years old or older, while only a few of us are 18+.)

We continued drinking, and at one point, B offered me a full drink in a small cup. Another friend got mad again, saying I shouldn’t drink so much, but B reassured them, saying, “Don’t worry, I filled the cup because there’s only a little gin left in the container.”

We kept drinking and drinking. When it came to the last gin, the friend who had been angry earlier offered me a small amount of gin in a container—but it was still too much to fit into a cup.

Another friend of mine went out to buy three more bottles of gin, so we kept drinking and drinking until most of us were drunk. By then, I was still somewhat clear-headed. I asked my friend to hand me my phone (I had asked another friend to charge it earlier because my battery was low, and I didn’t want my parents to worry). However, that friend refused to give it back, saying I was going to leave. Later, during the second-to-last gin, they finally gave my phone back.

Most of my friends tried convincing me not to leave, saying I shouldn’t let this moment pass. They kept telling me it would be a memorable experience and that moments like these don’t come often because, you know, YOLO.

One friend even shared that he had it worse because his father used to beat him. But after he proved to his father that he was old enough to take care of himself, the beatings stopped. They said they’d help me persuade my parents after we are done drinking.

But my situation was different. My papa is much older, fragile, and bedridden. If he found out I stayed out late drinking, he could have a heart attack. One friend—perhaps the only one truly seeing me—voiced what my clouding mind already knew: I needed to leave. But his suggestion of a motorcycle ride home felt like gambling with what little control I had left. The world was already tilting, my consciousness threading like a needle I couldn't quite grasp. I needed five friends to get me home safely, I said—a desperate bid for security in numbers.

B then said, “We’ll take you home once we finish the last gin.”

Time slipped away like water through cupped hands. By the time we reached that "last gin," I was already lost to myself. The rational part of my brain—the part that remembered a bedridden father and responsibilities waiting at home—was drowning in alcohol and misplaced bravado. In that moment of crystalline stupidity that only the truly drunk can achieve, I made my declaration: I would finish the container in one go.

My body snapped, and I lost my balance. It felt like my soul had snapped for a moment. I couldn’t even close my eyes, but I could hardly speak. Many of the tambays and my friends came to my spot and helped me, saying, “Hindi magandang biro to, mga pre” ("This isn’t a joke, guys"). I couldn’t see them, even with my eyes open. One of my friends asked, “Where’s the glasses he’s wearing? Bring them out now!”

They asked, “Are you alright? Can you see us now?” I replied, “I can’t see you all, it’s so dark out here, damn. Please take me inside the house so I can think clearly, my head hurts, seems like I bumped my head. Fuckkkk.”

Now, this is the worst part. I started rambling about everything that was happening to me, especially about my dad. I started rambling about Papa, about feeling worthless, about being unable to fix either of our lives. Through tears, I confessed fears I'd never spoken aloud. One of my more reasonable friends comforted me, telling me to calm down and think about what the hell I was saying, or else my papa would see me like this.

But I couldn’t hear him clearly, since my mind was focused on releasing everything I should’ve said before—the things I had kept to myself all this time.

I coughed up, feeling like my stomach was about to burst open. I felt overstimulated and couldn’t handle the environment. The light was hurting my mind, and I felt like I was being tortured. Worst of all, I felt like organ failure was imminent, like it was happening to me right then. I felt everything all at once, and I couldn’t handle the pain I had been seeking—the pain I thought would make me feel alive. One of them is laughing and calling me, "Masamang damo."

All I could think was that I didn’t want to die like this. I didn’t want to die. Why?! Why?! Please, let me live—I want to see my parents. I kept crying. They made me lie down, removed my t-shirt, and used it to clean up all the fluid I had coughed up. I was screaming that they should bring my body in my house because I can't control my body anymoore.

The next hours blurred into a montage of misery—coughing up fluids, friends using my own shirt to clean me up, the endless wait until 3 AM. They said I looked like death when they finally got me standing, my tongue lolling out like a broken puppet's. "Patawa si ____," someone joked, finding humor in my dissolution.

Ten people and a tricycle ride later, I was home—minus my glasses, my shirt, and most of my savings. Only 350 pesos remained from my 900, the rest dissolved in gin and poor decisions. My friends claimed they'd saved my ass and help me persuade my parents but my it got more worst. as if that somehow balanced the scales of the night, hahahaha

Morning found me still coughing at 9 AM, confined to bed like a mirror image of my father—both of us trapped by different kinds of poison, different kinds of choices. One day of sickness seemed a small price for a lesson carved so deep, but some scars don't show on the surface.

I reached for my phone to message them, wondering how to put into words a night that had stripped away more than just my dignity.

https://imgur.com/a/bNEZJpG

Sa tingin ko there's no "Ako" ung "gago." I have my faults too. I wanted one night of escape -- I mean that's completely understandable given my circumstances. Ung problema lng is kung paano ko inapproach ung mga nangyari that night, gumawa ng decision na ikakahamak ng buhay at pamilya ko.

ABYG kung di ako sasama sa Christmas Party dahil kasama yung nanay namin na siniraan ako sa mga kapatid ko nung October 2021?

Nung June 1 2021, natanggap ako sa 2nd job ko at WFH sya so naisip ko na dun na muna tumuloy temporarily sa bahay ng mama namin sa Las Piñas kasama dalawa nya anak (M 11 and F 12)sa bagong asawa (na nasa abroas, US Citizen). Para na din share na lang kami sa house expenses at para di sayang ung binabayad ko na rent bespacer sa Pasig. Unang buwan pa lang problematic na kasi ginagamit ako ng nanay namin para makapuslit ng pera sa asawa nya, ginagamit nya pangalan ko na kesyo ako daw nagsabi na mag create ng passbook at maglagay dun ng 50k para daw may savings dalawa nilang anak sa school. Pero ung 50k na un ay unti unti pinapa withdraw nya para pangsugal at pambayad ng utang. Kasi ang nanay namin ay nagsusugal sa karera, mahilig dn sya magyabang sa ibang tao, mabilis sya mainsecure kahit sa mga anak nya at mannerism nya magsinungaling.

Nung September, dun na nagstart sya lumala kasi natato sa sugal at pansin ko parang nag iiba na aura nya. One time habang nagwowork ako, pumasok sya sa kwarto at sabi nya pupunta daw ngaun sa atm machine para magwithdraw pambayad sa WIFI kahit nagbigay na ko pambayad mas maaga.. magsend daw ako sa kanya pera sa bank nya. Sa umaga naman magugulat n lng ako dami na nya missed calls kasi nasa M Lhuiller daw sya inaabangan padala asawa nya, sabi nya sakin punta daw ako dun kasi sa akin nakapangalan ung remittance. Tapos mga ilang araw, gulat ako nagsisigaw na sya sa sala tas sinisiraan na pala ko sa tatlong kapatid ko sa Bulacan (bunso ako) (nagkaroon kasi kamj ng away nung mga kapatid ko na iyon dati dahil sa refusal ko magbigay monthly ng around 8k monthly sa papa namin sa Bulacan nung 1st job ko) kasi alam nya sa kanya kakampi ung mga kapatid ko. Puro kasinungalingan na puro daw ako aircon tas malaki daw ang bills, di daw ako nagbibigay ng pera, di daw ako nakikisama, tapos nagbibigay daw sya Php 1,500 sa akin every month from 1st yr college to 4th yr college, kahit di naman 😅 In short, kinukwenta nya lahat ng naibigay nya with exaggeration. No wonder, kasi ganun din gnagawa nya sa ibang anak nya, ang difference lang ay di nya kaya sabihin sa kanila harap harapan kasi takot syang wala na tumulong sa kanya financially. Pati mga kapitbahay at kapatid nya eh nakakaaway nya. So umalis ako sa bahay October at solo living ako until now. Di pa natapos dun, bandang February 2022, ginugulo pa rin ako tapos pinapabayaran nya sa akin ung mga binigay nyang pera sa akin kuno tapos may GASLIGHTING pa, pinapalabas nya na kunwari galit sa akin asawa nya na si Marc haha eh di nga alam nun mga nangyayari, sinend sakin ng kapatid ko ung screenshot.

Ang ginawa ko eh chinat ko isa kong kapatid about kay mama, tapos pinagsabihan naman nila.. pero syempre goods pa rin sila ng nanay nila until now nagbabonding sila 😅 parang plastikan.. Tapos ngaung Dec 29 eh ung panganay namin nagplano pa ng xmas party daw..

All this time wala ako narinig na sorry sa nanay namin at until now ginagaslight pa rin ako sabi ng kapatid kong mas bata (half sister), ABYG ba ako kung di ako pupunta sa xmas party? I feel na I should prioritize my mental health kasi obviously di naman ako mag eenjoy dun.

May bahay at lupa kami sa probinsya. Matagal na walang nakatira don ever since mamatay nanay ko. Yung tatay ko may iba nang pamilya. Yung ate ko, may sarili na din pamilya at sa ibang bansa sya nakatira. Ako naman, Manila-based at kung umuwi man sa probinsya namin, sa tita ko (mom’s side) ako nag-stay.

So dahil matagal na nga walang nakatira sa bahay at lupa, bigla ko na lang nabalitaan na may pinatira ang tatay ko doon, rent-free, without even consulting me and my ate. Hindi rin nya kami sinabihan whatsoever, nalaman pa namin sa ibang tao na may nakatira na pala don. Inis ako kasi (1) bakit di man lang nya kami sinabihan; (2) baka maging problema pa in the future at mahirapan kami paalisin yung mga pinatira nya doon in case ayaw na nila umalis kinatagalan.

Nung malaman ko, tinawagan ko ang tatay ko at tinanong if totoo bang may nakatira sa bahay. Oo daw. Tinanong ko din bakit hindi nya sinabi samin o pinaalam man lang. Hindi na daw kailangan ang sabi nya. Doon na kami nagkasagutan at binabaan ako ng phone.

Context on how we acquired the property: yung lupa galing sa parents ng nanay ko. Yung bahay, afaik, combined efforts ng parents ko.

ABYG kasi I feel guilty na inaway ko sya kasi sabi nya naaawa daw sya dun sa family na pinatira niya. Wala daw kasi matirhan. Nasa isip ko naman, bakit namin naging problema yun. Hay.

Yung pinsan ko na 6 years old, nilagay ba naman yung paa niya sa mukha ko habang nakahiga ako sa upuan sa sala pero binaba ko nalang ng mahinahon kasi ayaw kong magalit pero biglang hinampas ako bigla after kong alisin yung paa niya sa mukha ko kaya pinalo ko siya. Isang beses lang yun at hindi naman malakas pero itong isa pa naming pinsan (20 years old) na nag-aalaga dun sa bata naming pinsan biglang umiyak at nagsumbong sa ate ko.

By the way, bumibisita lang dito yung pinsan kong bata for the holidays at halata namang spoiled siya sakanila. Yung mga katarantatuhan na sinasabi nung bata like "patayin kaya kita", "hoy pulubi layas ka dito", at kung anu-ano pa e tinatawanan lang nila. THEY SEE IT AS SOMETHING FUNNY WHICH PISSES ME OFF. Also, violent makipaglaro yung bata at gaya nga ng sinabi ko, hinampas ako at pati rin yung ibang tao ginaganun niya, naninipa pa yun. Ang nakakainis pa, ang biased nila at kwinentuhan ako na isip bata at mahina daw ang takbo ng utak nung isa kong pinsan (12 years old) kasi daw napapaiyak daw nung pinsan ko na mas bata (6 years old).

Personally, may bata din kami sa bahay at hindi talaga kami namamalo, ig nainis lang talaga ako sa sobrang pagka-brat at spoiled nitong pinsan ko.

AKYG kasi napaiyak ko yung nag-aalaga sa pinsan ko.

For context: Ako (F) is may inaanak iname nalang natin siyang J (F) na grade 7.

Yung nanay ni J nagmessage sakin, na hinahanap nung inaanak ko yung mga ninang nya at namamasko. Sabi ko sa nanay ni J, dahil matagal ko na di nakikita papuntahin nalang sa bahay. Tutal nasa kabilang street lang sila nakatira, konti lang yung lalakarin.

Nagsabi yung nanay ni J na di daw lumalabas yung anak nya at GCASH nalang daw. Sinagot ko siya, sabi ko di ba kasama sa marching band si J. Sinabihan ako na oo pero kapag wala daw tugtog sa bahay lang at ayaw lumabas. Di na ako sumagot, kasi feeling ko inoobliga ko sila.

ABYG kasi pinapapunta ko sa bahay yung inaanak ko para kunin yung pamasko nya?

ABYG dahil nagcomment ako sa shared post ng dati kong kaklase?

Tago nalang natin siya sa pangalang Annie. Katunog din naman. Kaklase ko siya ng 2 years sa shs at mejo naging malapit kami. Nangutang siya sakin nung una, sabi ko sa lola ko kasi nagpapautang talaga yung lola ko pero may tubo dahil dun nalang si lola nakuha ng dagdag panggastos. Sabi niya one week lang daw tas babayaran niya. 1k lang naman tapos nabayaran niya after one week with tubo pa. Di naman masyadong naasa si lola sa tubo kasi saglit lang naman. After ilang days nangutang siya ulit. 1k ulit, ganun ulit, one week lang daw. Pagtapos ng isang linggo kinulit ko na siya sa bayad kasi syempre hindi sakin 'yon. Kay lola 'yon. Una hindi siya nagrereply tapos ang hirap niya ichat kasi kahit magseen ayaw. Kinulit kulit ko siya. Nung nagreply after ilang days, busy daw siya. Ganito, ganiyan. May problema daw siya. Tas nangako siya next week daw. Dumating ulit yung pinangako niya. Ayun ganun ulit. Hanggang sa pangatlo at nag isang buwan. Kinulit kulit ko siya tapos sabi niya pinangutang niya daw yung 500 sa kaibigan niya tas inaway niya na nga daw. Nagkwento siya sakin nung nagcomment na ko sa post niya sa fb. Sabi niya di ko daw kailangan gawin 'yon kasi nababasa niya naman daw mga chat ko. Nagmumukha na kasi akong tanga. Tas ayun nangako na naman siya sa ganitong araw. Dadagdagan niya pa raw yung tubo. Hindi ulit natupad. Kinulit kulit ko ulit siya sa chat hanggang sa nakita naka deac siya ng fb tapos sa mga sumunod na araw naka unfriend na pala ako.

Nagcomment ako sa kanya sa isa ko pang fb na friend niya pa kasi ayaw niya talaga magreply. Kinabukasan ng umaga ayun nagagalit siya. Nakita daw ng mga kaklase niya yung comment ko bakit ko daw yun ginawa. Humingi naman ako sa kanya ng pasensya, sabi ko. Wala e, hindi ko alam kung pano ka kokontakin. Kinontak ko rin dito sa reddit yung amo niya kasi ako nag refer sa kanya don at alam ko don siya nakatira ngayon. Ayun nagbayad siya, sinend nung amo niya.

Kinaiinis ko, bakit parang kasalanan ko? Nananahimik ako. Siya nanggulo na mangutang tapos kada sisingilin ko siya ilang mga masasakit na salita natatanggap ko kay lola dahil di siya nagbabayad at ayaw magreply. Pagkabayad niya ayun binlock ko siya. Sakit sa ulo.

Hindi na rin siya nagrereply don sa dati rin naming classmate na pinangakuan niya na siya bahala sa expenses nung pusa na pinaampon niya. Lakas niya magpa impress sa mga post niya, wala naman pala siya pambayad ng utang. Pati sa dati naming kaklase, binigyan niya pa ng sakit sa ulo. Wala na ngang pera 'yon binigyan niya pa ng responsibilidad.

Andami niyang satsat sa dati niyang ka bed space na mejo naging close din namin. Yun pala mas malala ugali niya. Pinagkalat niya pa yung mga panty no'n sa messenger. Vinedeohan niya. Sa inis niya brinush niya daw yung toothbrush sa bowl at sink. Kaya yung amo niya dito sa reddit. Goodluck po mam. Sana wag po kayo magsasalita sa kanya ng di maganda kasi sobra 'yan gumanti.

Ako ba yung gago dahil nagcomment ako sa shared post niya or kasalanan niya rin naman?

This is a recent and a general realization.

every time na magkaroon ako ng konting problema with someone and it's actually my fault, i feel calm?? like hindi na ako nag aanxiety attack unlike the past years.

For example, I said sorry and I know and acknowledged my mistake. There's this part na parang papunta na sa guilt trip, and d*mn I was not really swayed. Nasense ko kaagad.

Ewan ko ba, is this my selfish self taking over?

ako ba tung gago kasi I didn't get swayed? like i feel sorry pero hindi ako gaano nagpaoanic, like i kinda feel calm? did 2023 really fckd me that bad na naging matigas ako when it comes to many things?

So eto may friend ako na may bf na ng 5 years and every time na gagala kami lagi nya kausap bf nya sa phone. Naka earphones sya lagi sa kabila nyang tenga. So ayun ako nag drive pumunta kami sa pupuntahan namin. Panay kwento and tawa namin tapos biglang sabi nya “I love you so much po”. So ayun nagulat ako, tangina ang random neto tas nalaman ko kausap nya pala bf nya while magkasama kami dalawa. Diba parang ang weird nya guys. All the time lagi nya kausap bf nya di ba pwedeng may bff time din muna tayo?

Then ilang beses na ganun talaga lagi ginagawa nya. And I find it really annoying like di ba pwedeng iwan nya muna and kausapin nya after gala? Di ba sila nagsasawa? Lol and btw may age gap kami ng bff ko 40 na sya tapos ako 26 yung bf nya somewhere in his mid-30s. Di ako nagseselos ha, pero gets nyo yung feeling na respeto naman sa time natin dalawa mag bff tapos minsan may sensitive topics pa kaming pinag-uusapan like problem sa family ganun palabas ng sama ng loob.

So sinabihan ko sya one time na di ba pwedeng iwan mo muna saglit bf mo? Like tawagan mo sya after. So ayun. Ako ba yung gago kung sinabi ko yun sa kanya? Anyway di ko na sya gano inaaya gumala. Nakaka badtrip na kase lol. Hahahaha

Palagi ako niyayaya ng kaibigan ko na lumabas kami pero tumatanggi ako in an indirect way hoping na ma gets niya na ayaw ko lumabas kasama siya. Im a people pleaser so its hard for me to say “No” directly. She’s a psych student so im thinking why hindi niya pa ma gets yon na kahit hindi psych student is ma ge gets yung ganong gesture na ayaw lang tlga sumama sakanya.

This december nagyaya siya lumabas kami tapos double date daw eh I dont want to be with her and my boyfriend as well so sabi ko try ko kami nalang tatlo since nasa province BF ko and nahihiya na ako tanggihan pa siya ulit dahil madamjng beses na ako tumanggi sakanya. Maya maya napilay pusa ko so sinabi ko sakanya na kailangan ko ilaan pera ko pampa vet so hindi ako makakasama at sila nlng ng bf niya lumabas. Kinabukasan, umuwi ng city from province bf ko and nagkaron kami ng sponty date tas inistory ko sa soc med then panay reply ng kaibigan ko sa story ko na “keln tayo lalabas?”

Background story: The reason why ayaw ko sakanya sumama its because uncomfy na ako sakanya and i dint enjoy her company, i just fake my energy. My history siya na pasimpleng lumalandi sa ex ko habang kami pa noon. I can also sense na ayaw niyang nasasapawan siya. Against siya samin ng BF ko due to big age gap but i dont like it na dini dictate niya decision ko. She never liked my photos kahit na pretty ako ron and ang ginawa niya is sinend niya yung pinost ko na picture sa gc and she said “Asan bewang teh” kahit na mas mataba siya sakin. Hindi ba dapat pag friend mo is supportive? Only girls will understand this.

I remember niyaya niya ako mag sm 3 months ago tapos sabi ko is “pass” then pinilit niya ako tas she said “mag roadtrip nalang tayo, samahan mo ko” kay pumayag na ako pero diniretso niya sa SM kaya d ako prepared kasi sinabi ko na sakanya na wala tlga ako budget. Tapos nung nasa SM kami nagtingin tingin siya ng gamit tas ako nakasunod lng tas she asked me “magkano dala mo?” I said “300” then she said “lalabas ka 300 lang dala mo?” Like wtf? Niloko mo ko eh

Nung bday din ng isa naming kaibigan nagkita kita kami highschool friends. Ang usapan is kakain lang then bigla siya nag aya mag bar, may iba nag agree tas iba naman nag disagree pero pinilit niya parin na mag bar so ayon stuck kami sa traffic. Nakapunta nga kami bar pero d naman siya uminom kaya nagalit mga lalaki naming kaibigan pero tinago nlng nila. Umuwi kaming lahat ng late tas marami napagalitan kasama na siya.

Kinabukasan, nagyaya ulit siya lumabas then sineen nlng siya ng lahat ng member sa gc.

Ako ba yung gago na indirect ako tumatanggi sakanya PALAGI coz im expecting her na ma gets niya na ayaw ko sumama sakanya pero onay yaya niya parin? Hindi ba madaling ma gets na pag palagi ka tinatanggihan that means ayaw ka kasama? Ang hirap maging people pleaser coz parang respunsabilidad ko pa feelings niya na mukhang nagtatampo na namimilit dahil panay reply sa story ko na kelan kami magkikita.