My very boomer relative (where I'm staying; it's just us two) still has "from" scratch Mac n cheese, dressing, greens and sweet potato leftovers in the fridge from Thanksgiving. She's mad because I stopped eating them awhile ago. She made a cauldron of gumbo for Christmas...using rotisserie chicken she bought a week before Christmas and it tastes weird (bad). I found that out after getting sick and won't eat that anymore either. She has a bad attitude and won't listen. She feels ill also but has a very bad attitude and won't listen. I have GI issues and can't afford this shit; no one can.
My mom is Gen X and is also super stubborn and has too much pride to listen to anyone but herself and it's such a difficult and frustrating situation to be in. I understand that a lot of these insane food habits stem from things like food instability in childhood (my mom grew up third world poor), but it still hurts that both she and your relative understand or care that their actions are hurting their family. My parents make pretty damn good money now, but they still won't even attempt to shake their bad habits. I found and cleaned up hundreds of maggots both dead and alive in my parents kitchen just a few months ago and they berated me for being upset about the situation at all. They didn't see a kitchen full of literal maggots as a major issue and actually kicked me out for a little bit for being so upset about it.
I hope that 2025 allows our family members and anyone else who is dealing with a similar situation to finally get the breakthroughs and help that they need.
I hope this as well. I'm an optimist yet it's gotten worse as she's gotten older. I'm just here for the holidays. It upsets and saddens me; I can't wait to go back to my home.
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u/shortiepatortie 12d ago
My very boomer relative (where I'm staying; it's just us two) still has "from" scratch Mac n cheese, dressing, greens and sweet potato leftovers in the fridge from Thanksgiving. She's mad because I stopped eating them awhile ago. She made a cauldron of gumbo for Christmas...using rotisserie chicken she bought a week before Christmas and it tastes weird (bad). I found that out after getting sick and won't eat that anymore either. She has a bad attitude and won't listen. She feels ill also but has a very bad attitude and won't listen. I have GI issues and can't afford this shit; no one can.