r/AskReddit Jul 13 '15

What socially unacceptable things are you OK with?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

I have a friend who opens her mouth all the way every time she chews. Bits of food fly out of her mouth with every smack smack smack smack smack of her lips. Its the worst fucking thing ever. And she gets super offended and calls you a piece of shit asshole if you ask her to eat more quietly.

I stopped inviting her over for dinner when we hang out. Now when she comes over, she orders delivery because she never cooks/eats by herself. I can't get away from it.

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u/AvatarWaang Jul 13 '15

The worst part is that she's indignant about it. If something I do is gross and offensive, damn right I'm going to thank the person and do something about it

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u/iSancty Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

The worst part is that u/UzanameFoLyfe is still friends with her

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u/AvatarWaang Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

I don't think that's enough to break contact with someone, but it's certainly enough to limit my time with them

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u/iSancty Jul 14 '15

I swear if I have to hear anyone slosh a gooey banana in their mouth for more than 5 minutes I'd blow my brains out. My dad does this every time and I just have to leave the room.

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u/ImMufasa Jul 14 '15

Hell if I can even hear people smacking their gum it drives me crazy.

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u/throwaway0109 Jul 14 '15

I dunno, calling someone (a friend) a piece of shit asshole for asking you to do something is a pretty big reason to not want to deal with skmeone. Maybe it's just me.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

She's part of my main social group, and unfortunately I cannot unilaterally decide for my group that she's out. :/

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u/FrancisKey Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

There is one guy in my group that tries to make those unilateral decisions on who is out. What makes me sick is that we let him pull it off.

Now I'm honestly scared of him, it's like he can take all of my friends away.

It's not like we all went zero contact with the guy he wanted out. It's more that now, he's not invited on group vacations, has to buy his own tickets individually to concerts, and doesn't feel welcome at some parties.

It's basically because they have the same taste in women and both NEED to be the center of attention when they are drunk.

edit: I guess I need to elaborate that many of us still tried to include him but eventually he just stopped wanting to come around when certain people would be there. I feel for him because he's actually my best friend and room mate. I understand that he doesn't want to go somewhere he doesn't feel welcome.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Um, so include him then.

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u/RedBuffalo1427 Jul 14 '15

First it's making decisions about who the group hangs out with.

Next he's a cult leader. Seriously. Watch out.

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u/misteryin Jul 14 '15

I had an ex who did that, yet she would get upset that I kept telling her to close her mouth when she chewed. It was fucking annoying hearing the crunch a few inches from my ear.

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u/omar1993 Jul 14 '15

It's almost as if one's eating habits aren't the entire basis for friendship!

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u/Kfrr Jul 14 '15

What if they told you that thanking someone when they tell you that you're being gross and offensive is gross and offensive?

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

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u/AvatarWaang Jul 14 '15

Words hard talk speak

Buy I don't see what's grammatically wrong with my comment, can you provide a revision?

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

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u/AvatarWaang Jul 14 '15

I don't think the United States is one of them, which is where I'm from, and I believe the other poster and get gross friend are as well. Otherwise it wouldn't be an issue.

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u/catsandcake Jul 14 '15

Oh dear god. I have misophonia and just the idea of watching/hearing/being around somebody who eats like that actually makes me anxious. I don't know how you put up with it!

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u/thisisrediculou Jul 14 '15

My mom has TMJ that makes her jaw pop with every chew. She eats with her mouth closed and all but I can't stand the pop pop pop pop pop when she eats, she also chews gum a lot. She can't help it and I feel bad that it angers me. I have TMJ too that makes my jaw lock if I open my mouth too far but thankfully doesn't pop.

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u/catsandcake Jul 14 '15

That's so funny! I'm in the exact same situation with my dad. His jaw pops with every chew due to TMJ, and mine pops and locks (but doesn't drop it) when I open it too wide as well. I wonder how common that is, and if there's a genetic aspect to it?

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u/thisisrediculou Jul 14 '15

Do you have a hard time eating tall hamburgers? Sometimes I go to take a bite, my jaw locks, and I have to unlock it and try again. Sometimes I give up after the third or so try and flatten the burger as best I can.

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u/CodeJack Jul 14 '15

How have you not glued her lips together yet?

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u/sir_mrej Jul 14 '15

Now when she comes over, she orders delivery because she never cooks/eats by herself. I can't get away from it.

I've never had a guest order delivery food for themselves while at my house. That's weird.

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u/zoraluigi Jul 14 '15

Yeah, that seems like a social faux pas.

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u/gundams_are_on_earth Jul 14 '15

I have an aunt staying with us from Nigeria (we're in USA). OH MY GOD. When she chews gum I want to stick a pencil in my ears. And she clangs her teeth on the spoon when eating, especially soup. My grandmother would have beat me red for eating like this.

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u/Aurora_Septentrio Jul 14 '15

I even have difficulty breathing through just my nose, but I still stop chewing if I need to breathe. Or at least cover my mouth.

It's not that hard.

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u/everyonecallsmekev Jul 14 '15

That person would be banned from my house.

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u/Darkleptomaniac Jul 14 '15

It's fucking worse when you ask someone to try eat quieter and they go out of their way to eat even louder, like grow the fuck up you disgusting piece of shit.

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u/RamboNinjaJesus Jul 14 '15

My brother does the same thing. I've politely asked him if he could eat more quietly, but he just yells at me for mentioning it. Rage has been slowly building inside of me not only because it is disgusting, but it seems to just piss me off.

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u/Zerosen_Oni Jul 14 '15

I'm not sure how someone can be so easily angered at you for them being an idiot

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u/prophet-zero Jul 14 '15

That person is not your friend.

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u/xkamikaze Jul 14 '15

Is your friend from China/Taiwan? I noticed they do that and it's gross. Note: my parents are from there.

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u/coding_is_fun Jul 14 '15

Throw her delivery in the toilet?

:)

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u/AdviceWithSalt Jul 14 '15

I... Don't think I could stand that...

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u/kombucket Jul 14 '15

Shes no friend of mine

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

my dog does the same thing

so annoying.

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u/Caneiac Jul 14 '15

Fuck this if one of my friends did this I'd the them to close there fucking mouth when they eat. It's rude, annoying, and just gross. I don't care if I come across as an asshole, if you do this fuck you and the click you claim.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Id drop her or risk a murder charge.

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u/GreetingsNsalutation Jul 14 '15

She would no longer be my friend.

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u/Blacksheepoftheworld Jul 14 '15

How is she still your friend!?

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u/Has_Two_Cents Jul 14 '15

this would cause me to not be friends with a person

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u/Martholomule Jul 14 '15

You should tell her that the entire internet says fuck you, you gross pig

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u/Allimack Jul 14 '15

One thing parents can do if they have a kid (over age 8) who is eating this way is to place a mirror in front of them and have them watch themselves eating. This can be done in a light, fun way and can provide a positive level of self awareness (and wouldn't hurt a few adults to try on their own if they worry they are gross eaters). If she is sensitive but you really want to get some closure on this, film her eating and at a later time show it to her. She may hate you for it, but at least she will see proof of what you are saying and can make an informed decision as to whether she wants to improve herself (or not). And if not, and you are stuck with her, just absent yourself from her presence as much as possible while she is eating.

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u/pagirl Jul 14 '15

have you told her? At that point it seems like it would help her.

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u/slhendrix Jul 14 '15

She sounds lovely.

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u/Austion66 Jul 14 '15

You're a stronger person than I am. Eating that way irks me in a way I don't quite fully understand..

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u/TheCarlton562 Jul 14 '15

I don't know why but suddenly it seems like my whole family does this when I remember my parents always saying not chew with your mouth open. I sit there wondering if I'm the only one who still adheres to this rule

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u/RedCat1529 Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

Ugh, my friend's husband does this. His table manners are appalling - he talks while he has a mouthful of food, chews with his mouth open, makes loud slurping noises, and worst of all mashes every mouthful of food against his front teeth with his tongue. If you don't think thats gross, run to a mirror and try it - remember to keep your mouth open while you do it!

Oh, and he's a greedy pig too. I'm a slow eater, so if it's a help-yourself meal, I'll finish a tiny portion in the time it's taken him to finish the rest of the dish. I've mentioned this behaviour is not polite, and he has thanked me for the insight into Australian culture, but he soon back-slides. It's truly disgusting to sit with him during a meal - I spend most of the time averting my gaze.

I invited his lovely wife over for dinner tonight, she just texted to let me know that he's coming too. :(

Edit: added emphasis to the worst bit.

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u/BiochemGuitarTurtle Jul 14 '15

Yuck, I would video my friend doing it and insist on them watching to be absolutely sure they knew how gross they were.

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u/Conhairs Jul 14 '15

Next time she does it smack her in and the mouth and say "EVERYTIME YOU SMACK I SMACK" and I bet she will stop real quick.

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u/FuzzyD00m0203 Jul 14 '15

Punch her in the throat. She'll quit doing that real fast.

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u/ChipSchafer Jul 14 '15

This is my roommate. I feel like we've given him too much shit though, he often doesn't order food when we go out or eat around other people. :/

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Ever tried jamming something unpleasant in there?

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u/jostler57 Jul 14 '15

God I hate this, too! I have 2 friends that do it, and it drives me nuts.

Is there any tactful way of asking them to stop?

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u/Masuchievo Jul 14 '15

Turn it into a game and start throwing raisins or small nuts into her open cavity.

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u/Karl_Marx_ Jul 14 '15

Who is this bitch? I'll send her an anonymous message telling her to close her fucking mouth.

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u/Cheeseologist Jul 14 '15

Your friends call you a "piece of shit asshole"? Sheesh. You must be either a REALLY big asshole who can only get friends that merely tolerate you, or you have shitty friends.

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u/lose_not_loose_guy Jul 14 '15

I don't think any jury will convict you if you murder this friend.

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u/NoobCanoeWork Jul 14 '15

Why are you friends with that person? ew

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I almost instinctively downvoted you because of how much I was annoyed by that story. Then I realized it wasn't your fault...

Sorry you have to endure that.

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u/FeculentUtopia Jul 14 '15

When you're next forced to eat in her company, mimic her manners and see how she likes having to see it from the other side.

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u/Theyellowk123 Jul 14 '15

Lip smackers are always so fucking defensive about it

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Grow a pair of balls and tell that rude bitch to shut her fat pig mouth. Most of us learned to not chew like a disgusting slob before we could shit in a toilet. God your friend sounds horrible.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

You should stop letting her in.

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u/Abundantjade Jul 14 '15

Was hoping for a happier ending to this tale

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u/pmckizzle Jul 14 '15

tell her to fuck off

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u/Nickisadick1 Jul 14 '15

It's your duty to destroy her.

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u/DasBarenJager Jul 14 '15

Tell her you don't want her eating at your house

"What? Why not?

Because your a fucking animal that's why.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

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