Other people not drinking. I have a few friends who for their own reasons dont drink and every time we are out they have so many people astounded that they dont drink and trying to get them to drink.
I appreciate this. If someone does not drink, I find it weird when people don't just let it go. They can't just trust that I have my reasons. Write out a list of the pros and cons of consuming alcohol. Why do I need an "excuse?"
Me and my girlfriend both don't drink by choice. She likes that I don't because she doesn't like being around drunk people, which is why she won't drink. I just don't enjoy being drunk so I don't do it, but I'm around my drink friends at parties and I don't care. But people bother us about it all the time. I almost punched a kid in the face before he stopped offering. It's not that I'm against it he was just so annoying.
Yea, we have the same thing. I cant even count the amount of times I have been offered that someone will "teach me how to drink" cause obviously I dont know that if I'm not a borderline alcoholic.
I know exactly how you both feel and its annoying as fuck. Next time you're out one of you tells the person you're allergic, and the other has Alcohol Flush Syndrome. And that's what drew you to each other, that should get them off your back.
I like being honest. Sometimes I think people attach a stigma to alcohol and they feel that if I'm not drinking then that must mean that everyone else who is drunk is doing something wrong. People don't like being wrong but I wish they understood it's okay to drink and it's also okay not to.
I understand that. She doesn't mind buzzed people but she has bad anxiety. I don't like being buzzed either. I've never been DRUNK but I've never had a positive experience with alcohol either. Nothing terrible I just don't enjoy myself.
This! Both my parents are alcoholics (both sober for 10+ years before I was born) but like no way am I gonna drink because I'm genetically predisposed to being an alcoholic. Still awkward as hell at parties though.
I don't know, I mean between the two it means he's very sedentary, and he looks like an alcoholic with a beer gut and a meth addict with no teeth because they rotted out from his habit. He's 34. All that sugar might be a big problem down the road.
Still probably better than alcoholism, but definitely dangerous.
I don't drink. Every time I am at a party my friends ask if I want some alcohol, and when I resfuse, they usually shout something like "more for us!" and keep on drinking them down.
I agree. This infuriates me. I like drinking, but some nights I just don't feel like it. Also, I have several friends who have struggled with alcoholism or who just don't like being drunk, and they have every right not to drink but to still come out and be sociable. It's a huge sign of immaturity and insensitivity when people can't respect that.
People who try to get people to drink who are not drinking for ANY reason, be it partied hard the night before or swore it off for the rest of my life so I don't drink myself to death, are horrible people straight up. It's a really heated topic, leave it the fuck alone.
Yes! Wish people would stop hounding me. I have AIH (autoimmune hepatitis) so I can't really drink. Still do on the odd celebration, though. But even AFTER I tell someone that and they're like "yeah naaaaah come on have a drink, I'll buy you one" I'm just like... seriously? You 'buying' makes no difference. You're seriously an idiot. End conversation here and don't make friends with this person.
On the other hand, I'm usually the designated driver which is awesome and my good friends really appreciate it.
I also have AIH, and I didn't drink before i knew I even had it. People would never stop telling me "com on have a drink". Or "Don't be a pussy and drink". Then I got AIH and it all stoped. Really I need to have a condition for you to stop?
The why question should be taboo, It can be a really personal thing.
Yeah, I know what you mean! However, for me, even after I tell people I have AIH (not just that, but actually explain what it means) they're like "...soooooo you sure you don't want a drink?". Mate, what on earth do you think? With the exception of my closest friends who completely understand and then have my back when I'm dealing with said idiots haha.
Sometimes I wish there wasn't such a big drinking culture in Australia. It's seriously a massive problem but not many people 'get' that.
Drunk people are fucking hilarious as long as they're not in a place that I am responsible for cleaning.
Although if someone is drunk at my drive-thru window, I get mad. I've had several family members hit or killed by drunk drivers, and I'll tell my manager to call the damn cops if the driver isn't sober. Stupid fucking college brats.
Not him but can give you my perspective.
Sometimes you just wanna let loose and drink and have fun.
Sometimes (maybe even often) you do some stupid stuff, and what you least want is someone who was sober and watched to rub it in your face the days after.
I respect people who don't drink, whatever they want is fine to me, but i probably wouldn't invite them to a party if the intention was to drink.
I work in a bar, and it's really frustrating how sometimes people just don't understand when a staff member doesn't drink. For whatever reasons - they're on medication, they're hungover, they quit drinking, they don't like drinking. It doesn't matter. While I love the people I work with, there is a real big culture of binge drinking and as someone who is trying to cut back on drinking for my mental and physical health, it makes it really hard to stay on track when people are shoving tequila shots in your face and giving you shit for turning down a drink.
I'm a recovering alcoholic and I appreciate the normies like you who don't act aghast at my non-drinking habits. The thing is, I don't abstain from drinking because drinking was a ton of fun and I hate good times. I don't drink because drinking for me is terrible suffering. It's a bad experience for me and everyone around me. I don't get offended by people drinking around me. I think it's great that others can enjoy drinking. I can't and that's fine with me. I'm a happy sober person and a miserable drunk.
I have a friend like this. I usually drive because buses turn to shit past 11PM, Uber surge pricing occasionally gets out of hand, and riding in a normal taxi around here usually has me making deals with God just in case.
When I go out, I tend to keep the alcohol to a minimum for the above reason. Even after explaining that, he insists on buying me drinks (including hard liquor).
Damn, this as annoying. I drink now and then, but I've never been drunk. I had friends who told me that they don't feel like they know me because they've never seen me drunk. Haven't talked to them in years.
I also feel bad when people I'm with decline to drink and everyone grills them about it, and offers to buy them drinks. People have their own reasons, and we should respect that.
It's probably a combination of trying to make sure they're having a good time, and jealousy.
When I was 16, and my best friend started smoking and drinking, he said to me "man, DukeOfDownvotes, we're such good friends. Imagine how much closer we'd be if you weren't straight edge." What a prick. Imagine how close we'd be if you didn't put shit like weed and booze before friendship. We're still friends, but it's never been the same after he said that.
It's a fucking nightmare! As someone who gave up drinking a couple years ago, I can relate. I get all sorts of obnoxious questions, the latest being, "Why? Are you trying to lose weight?" Um, no. I'm clearly snacking on fries right now. Does that mean you're trying to gain weight by drinking?
The other annoying thing is when people apologize for drinking around me, and they do it in a weird way that sounds like they're trying to justify drinking, even though I never mention it.
"Hey, do you mind if I have a drink?"
"What? Of course not. Do whatever you want. "
"I'm sorry. It's just...I just really like to have a drink with dinner."
"Then have a drink with dinner. "
"I hope it's okay...I don't want you to feel uncomfortable. "
"FOR FUCK'S SAKE, I'LL POUR YOUR DRINK MYSELF."
Yea every time I'm with people who drink, they get plastered and say shit they probably shouldn't have said and wouldn't have said if they were sober. I'm sitting here like, awesome, I really didn't need to know that about you, but thanks for that....
as someone who doesn't like drinking(doesn't taste good) i'm trying to be more vocal about not drinking, but it's sometimes difficult cos i don't want to be the buzzkill
I love teetotallers, they sometimes drive me home if I buy them a few soft drinks.
I think people don't like what they can't understand and they don't know it, like I don't fully understand the aversion to drinking, but it's their choice I figure maybe they just saw alcoholics in their family or they do it for health reasons or maybe they just experience it differently to normal people. Either way it's fair enough.
My girlfriend doesn't drink and it's because of a medical issue. It winds me up that she has to tell people that to stop them practically pouring drinks down her throat.
Why the fuck should she have to tell you anything about her medical history? A simple "no thank you" is fine in any other situation but people are so weird about alcohol.
I can only imagine how hard it must be if you are recovering alcoholic. The temptation would be hard enough to resist without people buying them for you even though you said no!
I understand wanting to be polite and generous but there is a point at which you've gone too far and it becomes quite rude imo.
My biggest problem with people who don't drink is that Roose Bolton says he doesn't drink, right before he spoilerspoilerspoilerspoiler
However, if you are a recovering alcoholic and don't plan on spoilerspoilerspoiler then I have no problem with it.
I went from being a pretty big, messy, drinker to stopping last year. I got tired of not being able to stop, losing nights to blacking out, offending people, waking up worried I'd offended people, spending way too much money on alcohol without memory of doing so and the long, day killing hangovers.
Every time I hang out with people, the first question, before "how are you?" is "you still not drinking?" It is fucking irritating. And then someone always starts trying to pressure me to drink. This is why I've more or less stopped going out
I used to drink really heavily and pretty often, but once I got to about 18 I just decided that I didn't like my lack of control when I was drunk etc and so decided to stop getting drunk but will still have a couple drink. Now 4 years later some of my friends still try to convince me to get drunk every single night we go out.
I don't go out to bars unless I'm the designated driver. That way I can use that as an excuse instead of trying to argue with drunk people. My close friends don't have a problem with it thankfully. In fact, when I DD for them, they get drunk and tell me how awesome I am and buy me food.
this was my entire 20s. every time i met new people or went out for a work function, it was a good 5 minute conversation on how i don't drink and don't i want to and they feel bad that i don't drink. and then i feel bad cause they probably think i'm judging them or looking down on them but its not that - my body just doesn't handle alcohol that well.
My friend recently stopped drinking all together, and even though hes a great drinking partner and we have had great times drinking together, I am happy for him I kind of wish I had his discipline but hes still fun and will still go out and see a band with us and we pretty much have a permanent DD, haha!
I have a friend that doesn't drink and I accept that but he does it for the dumbest reason. He said he doesn't because his father is an angry drunk which therefore would make him an angry drunk. That logic... I would be understanding if he knew he becomes violent when drunk but I've know him since like 4th grade so I know he's never been drunk and he's very laid back to begin with.
For many, participation in a culture--especially a drug-culture (like drinking alcohol or smoking weed, etc.)--is a strong litmus test for group solidarity in much the same way that not, say, "smoking the peace pipe around the natives" is around the campfire, literally and figuratively.
A lot of norms are packed into particpating in a drug culture; for many, explicit rejection of the drug offered ("let's get a beer together!") is taken to be an implicit rejection of them, their hobbies, values, etc. It's sad, but there are solid socio-cultural reasons why people are so offended or taken aback when others don't drink. It's like being in the Bible-Belt and saying to a Baptist, "I'll go to church with you, I guess, but I'm an atheist."
My roommate is like this. He doesn't drink or do any drugs but we are friends with many people who do both. It's a constant struggle to remind them that while my roommate is coming to this party with us, he won't be drinking and nothing will convince him to do otherwise. We've had friends cut out of our circle because they've tried tricking him into drinking alcohol more than a few times.
The reason I don't drink, is because I don't like anything I have tasted before. I don't find it annoying when somebody tries to make me drink, only if it is a drink I haven't tasted before. Because I'm willing to try new things, as long as I don't have to pay for it.
I know there are legitimate reasons not to drink, but I can't help but feel paranoid around those people. It's weird when everyone's not at the same level of awareness/sobriety/drunkenness and a select few can remember everything with perfect recall...
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u/ChrisPrattsLoveChild Jul 13 '15
Other people not drinking. I have a few friends who for their own reasons dont drink and every time we are out they have so many people astounded that they dont drink and trying to get them to drink.