r/AskReddit Jul 13 '15

What socially unacceptable things are you OK with?

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u/EarnestQuestion Jul 13 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

It wasn't until I really started dating that I realized how stigmatized women can feel about their bodily functions. My first girlfriend had an irregular period and was hesitant to even tell me at first. Then she looked like I just hit her with a frying pan when I asked about the particulars.

To me it was no different than if she had a skin condition or something - you care about someone, you want to understand what's happening and work with it (so long as you're not intruding about it).

She couldn't believe how comfortable I was with learning about it, but part of being a partner is being cool with knowing and understanding your partner's body as best as you can. I'd expect her to do the same for me

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I have an irregular period and this is so sweet. To be honest I was going to tell any future significant other about that anyway because it's a pretty big part of my health, but it's nice to know that women who were socialized to view menstrual health as a taboo have SO's that inquire about it anyways.

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u/Shaysdays Jul 13 '15

This is for you. :) Keep on keepin' on!

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Hell I did this for a female roommate once. I figured the more relaxed she was around me the nicer it would be to come home.

I was right

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u/spacey_stacy Jul 14 '15

Kudos for you for doing that. A guy friend of mine was looking through my purse to find my phone and hand it to me when I heard a girly scream and looked down to see a tampon on the floor.

It's incredible how uncomfortable men are with feminine products sometimes.