r/AskReddit Jul 13 '15

What socially unacceptable things are you OK with?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15 edited Feb 13 '19

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

Very true! Being alone is heavenly. Being lonely sucks, and you can do it both alone, or while incessantly surrounded by people that you wish would just leave you alone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Well in my case, it's not just being surrounded by people whom you want to leave you lone. It's being surrounded by people whom you don't fit in with.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams

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u/Forlurn Jul 14 '15

Great quote, but just because a character that Robin Williams played said it doesn't mean it's his quote.

Bobcat Goldthwait is the one who it should be attributed to.

And World's Greatest Dad is an awesome movie.

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u/BlaikeMethazine Jul 14 '15

You're right, and I love that movie too. But somehow just putting

"-- Bobcat Goldthwait"

seems wrong too.

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u/Forlurn Jul 14 '15 edited Jul 14 '15

Yeah, you're right. After looking into it I think that the best way to write it would have been:

"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams as Lance Clayton, World's Greatest Dad

I don't think it's really necessary to say that it was Bobcat who wrote it, but it wouldn't hurt to add it afterwards.

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u/Porthello Jul 14 '15

True. I'm in this situation right now, with friends inviting me sometimes but mostly leaves me out of their plans. Sometimes I think that I would be better off without them, so I could avoid the feeling of being excluded.

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u/skydreamer303 Jul 14 '15

I think thats what thoooper was saying with "people you wish would leave you alone". its a very good way of putting it... you're lonely so you wont leave what little social circle you have but deep down you wish theyd just leave you instead.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I understand, and I did feel that way; moreover, when I was surrounded with these people, I yearned to be better friends with them, but they were such good friends with each other already that I could never hope to get into the circle.

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u/saga999 Jul 14 '15

Nothing makes me feel lonelier than being with a group of people I don't fit in with and don't want to be with. Being alone makes me feel free.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Interesting.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Mind = Blown Wooosh pffffttt

Edit: that's the smoke sounds

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u/krakajacks Jul 14 '15

There are many people in this world who prefer solitude, but none who can withstand it.

-Master Makarov (Fairy Tail anime)

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

This is a beautiful quote

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

of course solitude will impact life

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u/RedRoronoa Jul 14 '15

I love me a good anime quote, which reminds me I should catch up to that series huh..

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u/krakajacks Jul 14 '15

It's a great show. The story is pretty straight forward with a few good twists, but the action is fantastic and the humor is awesome. I highly recommend it (but follow a filler guide because the fillers are terrible and you want to skip them)

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u/thelastNerm Jul 14 '15

Recently divorced, I have found the fine line between 'solitude', which is enjoyable, and 'loneliness' ,which is not

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I'm thinking you nailed it here.

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u/MayonnaiseJones Jul 14 '15

Whenever I feel down or a little lonely, I take a deep breath, and go do WHATEVER the f*ck I want, WHEN I want. Enjoy it while you can!

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u/4seamerdreamer Jul 14 '15

Well. Fucking. Said.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

i love being alone but I'm forever lonely and in fear it will always be like this. sigh.

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u/Blackwood42 Jul 14 '15

If you're lonely for long enough, you get used to it..then it's just normal

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I feel u

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u/poduszkowiec Jul 14 '15

Heh. That's weird. I'm not alone at all, but I feel very lonely. That's weird, Isn't it? ;)

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

makes perfect sense to me, I'm alone and lonely :(

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u/joyyeahhh Jul 14 '15

When I'm alone I feel lonely. Miss my friends

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I feel you brah

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u/sajimo Jul 14 '15

This comment should get more upvotes than the original!

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u/joyyeahhh Jul 14 '15

absolutely

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u/sewingself Jul 14 '15

Exactly!!! If I choose to be alone I'm perfectly happy, but if I'm alone because I have no friends/don't know anyone, I'm lonely.

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u/Snuzzlebumble Jul 14 '15

I agree, I feel more lonely at a party than I do playing Rollercoaster Tycoon in my underwear at 5am.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

I just started my first post college job and just learned this distinction. In all my 22 years, I have never felt home sick or lonely. Back in my apartment, while I was rooming with friend said, I still appreciated vast amounts of alone time.

Now I live by myself in a new city with no friends around, my parents just moved across the country, and my best friend is moving across the country for grad school.

This is the most alone I have ever felt.

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u/Denzos Jul 14 '15

An episode of scrubs made me realize the difference.

Sorry on mobile

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bExo_DpfokI

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u/Jablon15 Jul 14 '15

Also, me as an example, I used to always be out doing stuff with friends. Something was always happening. I used to pray for a couple days to my self to just me alone.Friendships ended, others moved away and we all grew up. Recently I've alone a lot now wish I had friends that I can do something with.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

But both are okay. If you can't handle some loneliness then you'll have problems.

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u/Didymos_Black Jul 14 '15

You don't have to be alone to feel lonely.

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u/FNX--9 Jul 14 '15

I am always lonely, even when I am the center of attention at a party

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u/nutsallover Jul 14 '15

Im rarely alone but constantly feel lonely. Definitely a big difference.

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u/Shaasar Jul 14 '15

Loneliness & Solitude both mean being alone, but are negative and positive sides of the same coin

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u/Top_Wop Jul 14 '15

Robert DiNero's famous line from the movie "Heat".

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

TIL...

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Well lonely is something you feel I'm introverted so it can be irritating when others supposedly get lonely and seem to think they are entitled to my presence.

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u/AlmostButNotQuit Jul 14 '15

If I must be lonely, I think I'd rather be alone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

It's a lot better than being surrounded by people all the time but feeling absolutely no connection to them whatsoever....

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u/jikzpmtt Jul 14 '15

"There's a thing about being alone and there's a thing about being lonely, and they're two different things. I was alone but I was not lonely. My background was as a fighter pilot in the air force, then as a test pilot–and that was mostly in fighter airplanes–so I was very used to being by myself. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I didn't have to talk to Dave and Jim any more ... On the backside of the Moon, I didn't even have to talk to Houston and that was the best part of the flight."

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u/TimV55 Jul 14 '15

Yay :)

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

So lonely but never alone Old modest mouse lyrics

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

That's why the words "solitude" and "loneliness" exist.

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u/Hoihe Jul 14 '15

IIRC one of the Apollo astronauts said the same.

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u/maracusdesu Jul 14 '15

I love being alone, but I hate feeling lonely. This is my biggest reason for wanting to move into a bigger apartment and get a roomie.

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u/DisRuptive1 Jul 14 '15

Being lonely in a crowd is a horrible feeling.

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u/Look_At_That_OMGWTF Jul 14 '15

And being lonely doesn't require being alone, I've found.

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u/Sync0pated Jul 14 '15

Downvoted for your edit, thought you should know buddy

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

Kays.

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u/AFewStupidQuestions Jul 14 '15

That reminded me of this video. It's worth a watch if you have the chance.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

That was really apt. I wish I could do some of these things, I live in a rural no where town so there's no benches, few restaurants and the closest place to go dancing is over an hour away!