I used this logic a couple weeks ago at my work. I'm a lifeguard and a few teenage guys were talking about skinny dipping. The official rules don't cover apparel so technically it is allowed. The only stigma is that you have to be okay with everyone around seeing you naked.
I'm like 30 and I've been accosted for having visible bra straps... people are not over their weird upbringing yet. They'll watch GB after GB of porn in secret, but a bra strap is where they draw the line.
I've had people whisper to me stuff like "PSSST HEY JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW YOUR BRA STRAP IS SHOWING" in this really secretive manner. Like, jeez, it's not like it's a secret article of clothing. Everyone knows I have one on. It's just a strap, it's exactly like the strap of a camisole or anything I might wear over a bra.
ESPECIALLY if it's unintentional. Like I get if it's looking askew and we're about to take a picture that you're like "youre bra strap is hanging out!" nice and loud and proud, i'm appreciative. My mom does this thing with her eyes like someone is behind me with a gun :O :O points at strapshrugs shoulder :O :O
ok mommy sorry you gave me boobs won't happen again.
My mom would always scold me for wearing white shirts in her house without a bra like it was a super big deal, like she didn't constantly look at my nipples for the first half of my life when I was a kid haha
Ugh - my mother used to tell me I should wear bandaids over my nips because they are always "on." They're nips, everybody has some, and no freaking way am I ripping bandaids off my damn nipples everyday.
Ugh yeah fuck that. I do use bandaids if I am going out and I am wearing a tight bodysuit or something like that, but usually my clothes are dark and loose, so I get away with no bra.
the bandaid is for when you're not wearing a bra so your nipples aren't poking out...so putting it on the inside of a bra makes no sense...also shirts move around..so if you put the bandaids on the shirt where your nipples would be, your nipples will just be somewhere else when you sit down or if the shirt wrinkles or whatever
I could see that being a bit weird for your dad and that might be the reason. My mom would occasionally just be chilling without a bra and it was not OK.
Yeah my step dad never even wears pants in the house. My mom always said it was different because she couldn't specifically see his dick through his underwear, which you totally could and it was generally way more unpleasant than my nips (though I might be biased)
I still don't wear a bra usually I don't wear white shirts and I don't live at home so she doesn't bitch at me anyomore :) haha
Yeah that's ridiculous. I'm a little turned on if I see the side of a girl's bra sorority style through her shirt sleeve, but that's because I'm looking at the part that covers her boob and so is boob-like in shape (I assume that's why they intentionally wear those shirts with the huge sleeve holes). The strap doesn't do anything for me. I feel the same way about the top bit of my boxers showing. Not full on gangster sag, just a tiny bit.
"Your boxers are showing". Okay? Some piece of clothing that every dude wears, so it isn't like seeing a girl having a thong on. This is standard. It's attached to a naughty bits a a few inches away and so vaguely has something to do with sexualness in their mind I've gathered. I'm not going to sag on purpose but if you see the top centimeter of my boxers I'm not really going to care.
It is awkward if a couple 11 year old girls start giggling over it though. That's the only time I adjust it in a casual setting like that.
In highschool I told a girl in front of her that her tag from her bra was showing and everyone in the general vicinity looked at me like I was weird for pointing it out.
Maybe, perhaps they're trying to be sensitive to you. They don't know that your perfectly comfortable with the situation, not that it's the same thing but if my fly is down I don't want someone yelling it across the room.
That's fair. I can acknowledge that they're trying to be helpful and I appreciate that. It is usually girls who do it though, and usually I am friends with them as well. Most of them have worn tank tops or whatever and had their straps showing before, so it just seems out of place for them to suddenly care about that.
I myself don't really care if my bra is showing—bras are things! Everyone knows this! But some of my friends just don't like how it looks with their outfit and have been like, "dude, why didn't you tell me my strap was showing?" Can't please everyone?
Visible bra straps used to bother me when I was a teenager. My mom wisely told me, "better that they see your bra than your boobs." That advice has stuck with me.
Also if a girl adjusts anything but her bra, if my panties are riding up uncomfortably I'm going to try and discreetly remove them from my cavernous ass.
Horrible memory from middle school: I had stupid ridiculous wedgie, put my back to the lockers and nonchalantly pulled my underwear (through my jeans my hand wasn't down my pants or anything) to the slide a little so it would remove itself from my ass crack. I thought I was hiding it excellently until this gap toothed redneck boy I barely knew yells loudly "EWWWW SHE DUG HER BUTT!!!" I was fucking horrified.
I hate this so much. Not so much nowadays, but when I was younger (like, I dunno, 7-12 years?), I don't know why, but I always felt uncomfortable if my dick wasn't facing upward. If it was straight down, to the side, or in an even remotely horizontal direction, I felt physically uncomfortable.
I know some people must have noticed me "re-adjusting," and I knew they were a little disgusted or confused. Well, it was either committing this taboo sin or walking around like an awkward idiot for an hour.
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That still bothers me if I'm chubbin. It slowly makes its way until it's normal to the ground and then I can't feel it as much so I slowly go soft which causes it to brush against my boxers as it goes down which stimulates me again in some sort of perpetual boner machine. It doesn't happen much any more because I'm no longer a horny teenager but every once in a while some girl is flirting and the cycle is initiated again.
I feel like I'd do it out of curiosity more than anything. I'd probably do the same thing for a guy adjusting. It's probably because it's such a taboo act.
People arent ok when I have to literally adjust my boobs though. I have large boobs and if I go braless, they often sink below their designated location and the only way to get comfy again is to reach down my top and pull them back up. Thats not considered acceptable.
I'm a 44D/42DD. You just have to find clothes that allow for bralessness. The dresses I don't wear bras with are snug along the chest so it gives a teeny bit of support (I still usually have to adjust as seen above) and have thick enough fabric that my nips won't show through. I still wear a bra with the vast majority of my clothes.
Huh. The only dress I've ever been functionally able to go braless in was a renaissance festival style dress I borrowed from a friend a few years ago when we went to renfest (and I spent the entire day terrified my boobs were going to pop out lol). Maybe I will check to see if any of the clothes I have will allow free-boobin... I guess overall I just really prefer the shape bras give my boobs, nice round cleavage and such. I figure, what's the point of having awesome big boobs if you just let em flop around and look sad, you know?
Boobs and dicks are very different. And it's far more acceptable for a guy to fix an itch in his pants than for a girl to. But I still think if you're uncomfortable you should be able to take care of it with out being scrutinized.
I think it's because people associate genitals as "germ factory's" and chests aren't, so unless you're going to wash your hands afterwards that's probably why they get upset.
It didn't bug me until about 10 seconds ago when I thought about it and realized what a huge double standard there is.
A woman is uncomfortable and pulls her chesticles out of her bra to set them better? No problem! A dude takes a long stride and adjusts the undergarments inconspicuously and someone happens to glance over and notice? Registered sex offender.
I think guys tend to get the worse of it but speaking from experience, people are not that cool on a girl adjusting the chesticles. You get a lot of disapproving looks and occassionally a lecture a few minutes to hours later from grandma
Well, I thought about it some more and realized its a non-issue. I grab my junk and physically relocate it often enough in public and I've never really gotten so much as a crooked glance. If I had my hands actually inside my pants it may be a different story, but its not as bad as my comment would have liked to make it out to be.
The stride and readjust is a combined manoeuvre. One doesn't happen without the other. The stride is to unstick and position the junk correctly, and the readjust just pulls the material out so it isn't all bunched up from the strategic side switch.
I wish I could grab my boobs at work. Under bra, the whole nine. It feels nice after a few hours of work and they're all sweaty and need a breather. I do that when I'm alone. I have to consciously make attempts not to do it at work. :(
Unfortunately, it means a lot to dudes who are looking on.
For me the actual adjusting part isn't as big (harhar) as what follows: whoever in front of you will naturally follow your hand movement to your crotch, and sometimes stay there a while, this almost always makes me uncomfortable especially around people I don't know that well.
So I totally did this in front of a friend/coworker recently. I did it without knowing they were there and they looked totally disgusted. Goodbye workplace sexual tension.
Just yesterday my nips were sooo itchy. I really wanted to give them a scratch through my bra, but I was right in public, with my mom. My mom who considers having a bra-strap showing a faux-pas. I wish there wasn't the possibility that a stranger or your mother would pitch a fit when you just itched your nips.
This needs more upvotes. Pants are uncomfortable. Bras are (probably, I assume) uncomfortable. Sometimes, you just need to make a quick shift and life gets 100% better.
This is something that should be understood. If a person is uncomfortable then why the hell not just adjust themselves. Everyone deserves to be comfortable. The only time it could get weird is if someone tried to "help" (lol slight lame joke at the end)
Agree. But when you are a co-worker who does it constantly-there is an issue that needs to be addressed otherwise you run the risk of being referred to as either Itchy or Scratchy behind your back.
I'm like this with my friends, if I'm close with them I'll be like "I have a front wedgie, can you cover me?" And they'll stand in front of me while I fix it. Very helpful when in public
I have really large breasts. I cannot find a properly fitting bra to save my life and feel the need to adjust frequently. It can be embarrassing when I am noticeably caught doing so. I always try to play it off. But I do it way to much because I'm never comfortable for very long. I know some people see me and assume I am fluffing myself up but really its about feeling comfortable. Its because suck a constant frequent norm for me its hard for me not to be super self conscience.
I sometimes sort the pleat in my jeans out because it looks like I'm erect, but then I get the feeling it looks like I'm flicking a boner into my waistband. Catch 22 situation.
Exactly this. Women need to adjust their boobs because they're bouncy things that can get out of line. Men need to adjust their balls/dick either due to uncomfortable leg sticking or just a weird spot they're sitting in.
It's just a little surreal, because you expect to keep using the same pronouns as when you first met the person, but then you have to forcefully change it in your head.
Yes, but you have to pretend like you're disgusted when a hot girl in yoga pants adjusts her thong right in front of you and you're with your significant other. Yes, this happens a lot. I live in manhattan, yoga pants in manhattan are like jeans in the midwest.
This is one of the reasons why I hated dating girls as a teenager. It was the same shit every time. She'd look at me like 'Ewwwww he shuffled a bit.' Dating dudes was so much easier.
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u/LastPageofGatsby Jul 13 '15
'Adjusting' yourself. Guy or girl, just do it. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.