r/AskReddit Jul 13 '15

What socially unacceptable things are you OK with?

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 13 '15

Why on earth would you tell your co-workers this? Substance abuse counselors are some of the most judgemental people ever. I guess they kinda have to be

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15 edited Jul 13 '15

Because hes clearly a fucking man who does what he wants.

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u/N34TXS-BM Jul 13 '15

I mean sure, I do what I want too but I don't tell my mother I smoked at least half my paychecks in weed over the course of college because I don't want to have never ending grief.

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u/Keegan320 Aug 08 '15

Yes, but that's actually worth being ashamed of (no offense, I did it too) whereas having a couple beers whenever isn't necessarily a big deal

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

That man fucks!

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u/Kepgnar Jul 13 '15

I have been known to fuck myself.

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u/WOLLYbeach Jul 14 '15

I've been known to fuck myself from time to time

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

Do what you want cause a pirate is free

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u/robozom Jul 14 '15

Yar har, fiddle dee dee

Being a pirate is alright to be.

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u/ChasingALightningBug Jul 13 '15

Not clearly a man, could be a woman. Just sayin.

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u/pyro5050 Jul 13 '15

naw, i am a guy. :) married almost 3 years now. :)

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u/Stoic_stone Jul 13 '15

only guys get married

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

Thanks, Obama.

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u/Fuck_Your_Mouth Jul 14 '15

Here we fucking go again... someone fucked up by making a casual assumption and light hearted comment that someone was a guy

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u/Cheeseologist Jul 14 '15

Naw, only you fucked up by having a hissy fit.

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u/KING_0F_REDDIT Jul 13 '15

*or a woman.

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u/FishWash Jul 13 '15

He can do whatever he wants, but if he wants his co-workers to not judge him, then he should also want to not tell them about his day-drinking. It not horribly complicated.

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u/Frostiestone Jul 13 '15

As he damn well should. Hell, everyone should! No rulez guys

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u/Sighlina Jul 14 '15

To assert dominance in counseling world, you have to do the unthinkable.

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u/RonPaul_Was_Right Jul 14 '15

And we fucking respect that.

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u/Cheeseologist Jul 14 '15

Not clearly a man.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

He works into the office with a damn six packs of hard bitter. He doesn't give a single shit.

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u/xsparr0w Jul 13 '15

Best response is best.

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u/informationmissing Jul 13 '15

Because he's clearly a man who does whatever he fucking wants.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '15

or a liar

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

I want to know why you'd get up so early on a Saturday to have your house clean by 8am, only to then have a nap.

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u/cth777 Jul 14 '15

only important reply in this thread

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u/compulsiveasshole Jul 14 '15

routine probably.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

That's funny because a number of my friends work in addiction and mental health and they are frequent, but very responsible, users of drugs (LSD, pot, mushrooms, etc). They are very conscious of when, how and why they use.

I think it actually makes them better at their jobs to have a moderate perspective on drug use, and they fully recognize that each person has an individualized relationship to these substances so no single rule can apply to everyone.

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u/pyro5050 Jul 13 '15

because when you get down to it, i dont give two shits what anyone thinks of me other than my parents and my wife. my self esteem is mine, and if i want a beer at 8am, i will have a beer. :)

i probably will on saturday this week too. :)

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u/zcab Jul 13 '15

The beer I had breakfast wasn't bad. So I had one more for dessert.

  • Johnny Cash

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u/thinker99 Jul 14 '15

-Kris Kristofferson

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u/zcab Jul 15 '15

Kris did Sunday Morning Coming Down?

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u/thinker99 Jul 15 '15

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u/zcab Jul 15 '15

All this time... the lyrics even sound like him now that you say that.

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u/thinker99 Jul 15 '15

I really enjoy his recorded version of the song, though it really is one that Johnny makes his own.

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u/zcab Jul 15 '15

It's definitely one of my favorite songs. Johnny is one of my all time favorites though. So a lot of songs he sang are favorites.

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u/thinker99 Jul 15 '15

More info on Johnny and Kris and SMCD.

Bonus. I'd give a lot to have been there that night.

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 13 '15

Hey, more power to ya! I totally agree with you, just thought it was an odd thing to tell your co-workers, given your line of work :)

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u/Buddy_Up Jul 13 '15

In a way, it is good that he don't give a shit. If they react on this, imagine how judgmental they are towards clients...

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u/TonySoprano420 Jul 13 '15

And even then, your wife is the only opinion that really matters.

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u/Redemptions Jul 13 '15

Part of the response is because something like 50% of substance abuse counselors are in recovery themselves.

Source, I worked for a huge rehab company for 10 years.

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 13 '15

I'm surprised the statistic is that low, to be honest

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u/hitlerosexual Jul 14 '15

Well a lot of psychiatrists have a lot of mental health problems of their own as well. I can't say I'm too surprised.

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u/forte_bass Jul 13 '15

Omg tell me about it. My mother is a social worker and worked with AlAnon for a while. I was 28 before I felt comfortable having even a single drink around her, with all the questions and interrogation I went through every time. I mean, I understand taking drinking seriously, but damn.

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u/ghostin_ Jul 13 '15

Former social worker here. Worked in child welfare (NOT CPS) for 3 years. I never, EVER, thought about sharing my marijuana habits with my co-workers. The misinformation in the field is mind blowing.

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u/LTmilton Jul 14 '15

Rly? In my experience, drug counselors are former addicts, so they're the LEAST judgmental.

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u/Gonzobot Jul 14 '15

Hell, if it were me, I'd be telling them about all the things they assume I'm doing anyways. Counselors aren't all prudes. My current coke connection used to do addictions counseling for at risk youth. He stopped doing it when he got depressed and his coke habit got worse.

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u/psymunn Jul 14 '15

Maybe depends on the setting. Most of the ones I know aren't phased unless your injecting heroin into your eye during your lunch break. The bar is just so much lower than weekend beer

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u/Lyeta Jul 14 '15

We had a substance abuse counselor come into one of those meetings you have during your first week of college. I was a pretty boring kid and hadn't even really drank excessively and certainly hadn't done any drugs by the time I was 18. They were going around, trying to get folks to share stories about how they did one of these things so they could 'counsel' them.

Dude got MAD at me for not having one of these stories and accused me of lying. Like, it is possible that an 18 year old, particularly an 18 year old at a seven sisters college, got to that age without dabbling in drugs or serious binge drinking and they shouldn't be yelled at for such a thing.

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 14 '15

That's ridiculous, sorry that guy was a douche to you. Honestly you should be commended for not trying drugs and alcohol before that she. Your developing brain thanks you!

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u/Lyeta Jul 15 '15

It was just such a bizarre thing to be chided for. You're going to be mad at me for NOT doing illegal things?

I've made up for it as an adult. My liver says 'uuughhhh'

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u/Slnt666 Jul 14 '15

I buy pills from a drug counselor. No joke

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u/Lampshade_express Jul 13 '15

I'm a mental health counselor, but many of our patients have substance abuse problems too. One of the nurses I work with told me that marijuana is the "worst drug in the world" (exact words) and that is causes psychotic disorders. He doesn't know I smoke after work, oops.

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u/cuttlefish_tragedy Jul 14 '15

That's sad. =/ Marijuana absolutely can exacerbate psychotic disorders (or take a predisposed person and tip them over the edge), as components of it (mainly THC) are hallucinogenic, but... if the person didn't have (or wasn't about to have) a psychotic disorder to begin with, having a toke after work sure isn't going to cause it!

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u/panther_heaven Jul 13 '15

WTF? So, I guess meth is basically aspirin? It's bad enough that this kind of misinformation exists, let alone in the minds of educated health care professionals.

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u/Lampshade_express Jul 13 '15

It's funny b/c Tylenol causes liver damage, but nobody seems to care about that

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

Hah, every substance abuse counselor I've met has been a drinking, smoking hedonist.

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u/JuansterMONSTER Jul 14 '15

As someone who is in a support group similar to NA , your wrong. Addiction councillors aren't judgmental , at least not in my experience

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u/Decider_Wets Jul 14 '15

I've met some of the most understanding counselors that went through shit of their own. Honesty is what is important.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15 edited Apr 14 '19

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u/horneke Jul 14 '15

What's wrong with that? The KKK is a group of people. I think we can all agree that they, as a whole, are a little judgemental.

I'll give you a minute to think about that.

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 13 '15

Well in my experience, and I've had a lot of experience with this group, they are very judgemental when comes to alcohol and drugs. It makes total sense, as it's their line of work. I'm not saying it's necessarily a bad thing, it's just something I've noticed.

But thanks for being condescending, you're awesome

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

And so you are being judgmental towards the other commenter's coworkers.

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u/Amp3r Jul 13 '15

If I have brown hair and I say all blond haired people are judgemental it is not hypocritical that I myself are also judgemental.

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u/jtb3566 Jul 13 '15

I dunno. I worked at a juvenile rehab center and we got fucked up every weekend + 'All you can drink' on Thursdays.

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u/Konker101 Jul 13 '15

they arent the ones with problems.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '15

Sounds like the kind of job that would attract people with a deep-seated and irrational hate of drugs.

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u/Mujlet Jul 13 '15

My mother is a substance abuse counselor. I've never seen her say a word about anyone drinking at any time, unless they did have a known addiction, or they were drinking to excess.

Hell, at her work's Christmas "White Elephant" party there were about 10 substance abuse counselors, and almost every gift had wine of some sort, or a little bottle of something hard.

I've heard them say it's not for them to judge other people, but to help them get better. "Just because you have a problem I don't, doesn't mean I'm any better than you are."

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u/third-eye-brown Jul 13 '15

Do you go around picking and choosing which pieces of your life to share with people? Sounds exhausting.

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u/baconnmeggs Jul 14 '15

Actually yes. I portray different sides of myself based on the company I'm around. Anyway, I wasn't judging the guy, I was genuinely surprised.