We have something close in Wisconsin. The "women" will say they are ready to hit the road, and the guys will stand in the kitchen, leaning against the counters, chatting. The men think that they are waiting for the women, and are ready to go because they are standing and can stop their conversation at any moment...and the women think that, because the men are still talking and haven't said "good bye" to each other, that they are not yet ready to leave.
That's cause they have so many damn quirks. They are the only people who still think crocs are in style, they say duck duck gray duck instead of duck duck goose, and they call them hot dishes, not casseroles. Minnesotans are weird.
Edit: apparently crocs are not in style. My sources must be wrong. Or they are worn ironically.
Yeah lived here my whole life and I completely agree with you. Although I have to disagree with the crocs statement. We'll make fun of you for wearing crocs here.
As a Minnesotan, let me tell you why Duck Duck Gray Duck is better. It adds an aspect to the game where you can trick people. You can go around and say, "Duck, Duck, Duck, GREEN Duck" and then they have a moment of hesitation.
It sounds stupid but it makes the game so much better.
Crocs are definitely not in style up here, but the rest is accurate. Worth noting that we still say casserole, but hot dish is kind of its own subset of casseroles. Hot dish usually involves tater tots and a few other things.
After living in both I have learned they both think random things are an Iowa thing or a Minnesota thing when both states say it. Such as Minnesota/Iowa nice.
Minnesotan here. It's funny that sometimes you can be having awkward conversation the whole night, until its time to leave. Then you talk converse passionately in the doorway for another 45 minutes.
I'm starting to feel like some of the older generation waits to talk about what they want to talk about until you say 'I gotta go' just to keep you there a little longer.
It's a traditional Jewish dinner that takes during the holiday known as Pesach, or Passover where we tell the story of how the Jews escaped from Egypt. It is also a holiday where people get together with families, hence the painfully long jewish goodbye
seems similar, but I really cant exaggerate this enough, jewish goodbyes take FOREVER. like, goodbyes for jews means you go and have a final conversation with everyone there, where you say everything you had been hoping to say in a one on one conversation. This repeats with EVERYONE THERE.
Same, Jewish with Minnesotan parents. This is exactly how it feels. You need to start your goodbyes about 10 minutes in if you only plan on staying 4 hours. But then they all start singing and you're there until 2 am.
My mom is good friends with the temple maintenance guy, so sometimes we end up walking out with him like 45 mins after the rabbi has locked up. It's a problem.
Not a bar mitzvah but I experienced this for the first time going to a friends house the other day and his whole family was over. Literally spent half the time leaving. They were crazy. Crazy awesome.
My boyfriend and I have a centrepiece from his cousin's wedding on a side table in our living room. His mother took like three of them, gave one to us, one to his sister, and kept one for herself. Not being Jewish myself, I did not know that this was a Jewish mom thing. I understand now.
My friend invited me to her cousin's bar mitzvah and I got so drunk I collapsed down the stairs, hit my head and blacked out. So I didn't have to say goodbye to anyone.
Whenever I'm at an open bar, it's like I'm expecting them to close it any minute. I'm like "I'll have a gin and tonic... No a double... No I mean three double gin and tonics, and a beer." Next thing you know...
I'm so glad I could bring you some joy! Hang in there, and just remember, you're at least not stuck in the purgatory of not being able to enjoy a party because you're "in the process of leaving" :)
My family is both Persian and Jewish. We start saying goodbye at least 2 hours before we intend to leave. Sometimes a simple Shabbat dinner can drag on until 3 am because of these formalities
I've been told that for Purim you're suppose to get drunk to the point of not being able to tell the difference between your wife and your mom or something like that.... Idk where it originated from but a few people have told me that.
Is this a more obscure Jewish holiday? My wife's family is Jewish and I've never heard of it. They also don't drink so maybe they just choose to ignore it.
Not really obscure. They definitely teach it to kids in Hebrew school. Kids dress in costume and it's the one with the triangle cookies with fruit filling called Hamentashen.
Celebration is often a community thing. You go to temple and they read the story of Purim and people celebrate. I don't think I've heard of many people celebrating it at home like Passover or Hannukah. And it's not one of the High Holidays like Yom Kippur or Rosh Hashannah, where you HAVE to go to temple. But I bet if you asked your wife about it, she's heard of it.
Drink until you no longer know the difference between "Cursed is Hamen" and "Blessed is Mordechai". AKA, 'till you're as drunk as possible without death.
The last Jewish wedding I went to consisted of two halves. The first two hours of saying hello to everyone there and then the last two hours of saying goodbye to everyone there. I'm pretty sure you could have plotted progress on a graph.
My father is Irish, my mother is Jewish. My father is constantly desperate to leave parties without saying goodbye and gets furious with my mother who does the typical Jewish never leaving a party thing. Not compatible.
I as well have Jewish family. I sometimes think I'm the outcast because "fuck you I'm done I'm leaving bye." Meanwhile everyone and the ladies I've never met want to have a chat.
Same thing with my mother's side of the family from Minnesota... saying goodbye leads to a new conversation, which leads to another conversation, which leads to forgetting you were leaving in the first place... sometimes you go through the process like three times before you're finally free.
Persian Jew. When someone comes to the party, everyone has to stand up as they walk around and kiss each person on both cheeks. Same when you leave but not as strict. It's the most annoying ritual
Filipino parents are also guilty of this. My brother and I will be in the basement playing Halo with the other kids, then our parents will call down to us telling us it's time for us to leave. We'll answer that we'll be coming up, but we'll both know that we'll have time for at least two more games of team deathmatch before they finish wrapping up leftovers, yakking with their Navy buddies, and picking their shoes out of the sea of footwear in front of the door.
Too true. There's a joke about this: the difference between Jewish and Irish people is that Irish people leave without saying goodbye, whereas Jews say goodbye but never leave.
Persians as well. You say goodbye. The host begs you to stay. You argue like this for a couple minutes. Then some other topic of conversation comes up, and you're there talking for another 45 minutes, but instead of sitting comfortably in the living room, you're standing by the front door.
So damn accurate. I was wondering when someone was going to bring this up, and then you brought it up as a trait of Jewish communities, and you're so right, and I never realized it.
My mother and father do this everywhere we go, and when I was younger I got pretty good at figuring out approximately how long I ACTUALLY had until we left, and how likely it was for them to get stuck in a conversation.
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u/Shadowex3 Jul 13 '15
I'm jewish... we can't do this. We do the opposite, we say goodbye without actually leaving.