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What stop you from killing yourself?

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u/Parsnipnose3000 1d ago

My cousin tried that and can barely walk or string a sentence together now. He got interrupted before he died but after he'd damaged his brain pretty badly. He's been like that for about 30 years now, I think.

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u/WetMyWhistle_ 21h ago

Now I’m understanding why people always wait until their family is away for the weekend or they are totally alone to do it.

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u/Weevilflewus 16h ago

Also, the risk of someone else getting hurt trying to save you. Someone I knew tried jumping off a bridge onto a train track, a guy saw her and pulled her off but he ended up getting hit by the train instead. She’s walking around (still with injuries from the fall, but fairly alright) with the knowledge that her act killed someone else, I would feel so awfully guilty about that for the rest of my life.

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u/Fredlyinthwe 23h ago

I had a friend try that, but he was so drunk he couldn't think straight and tried it with a diesel pick-up. While not exactly healthy, a diesel isn't going to kill you

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u/Parsnipnose3000 23h ago

Interesting. I didn't know that.

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u/Fredlyinthwe 21h ago

Yep, that's part of the reason mines use Diesels(a long with diesel being better for heavy equipment anyway) modern diesels with DEF and nox filters are basically harmless. It'll fuck your health in the long run if you keep breathing in straight diesel exhaust though

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u/01000101010110 23h ago

Didn't know that

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u/Dino_Momto3 20h ago

What if we had a tattoo on our chest or our will on our lap that says, "Do not resuscitate! Do not try to revive or save! Give no life-saving measures!"

Do you think that would help?

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u/AtomicAmoeba13 20h ago

Nope. Tattoos are not acceptable forms of DNR. Without having a signed consent form on hand any emergency crew would be obligated to save you.

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u/Dino_Momto3 20h ago

So, your signed DNR would be acceptable?

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u/OU7C4ST 20h ago

Hey, your questions are a bit concerning. I hope you're ok, and if you're not, please reach out to someone you can talk to.

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u/Dino_Momto3 20h ago

Thank you, friend. I promise you, I'm not about to do anything!

I was just genuinely curious about it. I never thought about the fear of not being successful at my own unaliving. So, I was just wondering. Again, as awful as what I just said was... I'm not going to act on my sometimes constant, sometimes fleeting thoughts.

My fear is leaving my children in that way. I hold on to that saying that if we do this, we don't relieve ourselves of our pain. We simply pass it on to those we left behind.

Thank you again for your comment. 🙏❤️

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u/covertcatgroupie 17h ago

Your comments throughout this thread make me worried, I hope you are getting help, and likely medications. I had a hard time in 2020 every single day, but knew I would never, ever leave my kids. Well said that you just “pass down the pain.” Medication daily and sporadic months of talk therapy has changed so much for me and my life in general, I am very grateful.

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u/Dino_Momto3 16h ago

I am on anti depression meds. This past year or so has been oddly difficult. Idk why.

I really am not planning to do anything, not tonight, not anytime. However, I see where my comments can be concerning, and honestly, maybe they do mean something more than I know. Idk.. I have told myself to start therapy.

I don't plan to do that to my kids. I just have hard moments.

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u/covertcatgroupie 15h ago

I understand friend, my comment truly came from a place of care and empathy. glad you’re on meds, that is a huge step! 2020 was my disaster and 21-23 were very hard but not as constant because I did the sporadic therapy. I finally got real and started meds in ‘23 and since that I’ve been crawling out of my tunnel! Even though life was very hard in ‘24 for other reasons, it was ok.

I saw your post that you moved to a new state and are a parent of autism. I moved to a new state in 2021 and it’s been so hard feeling isolated. I have 2 nieces with autism & hold very high respect for their parents. Such a constant load, frequent mental gymnastics, I know it is overwhelming. Talk therapy could be very helpful for you. I liked being able to offload feelings & thoughts to a neutral stranger (I preferred online text therapy then) having them bounce back questions & thoughts to make me think more/differently. I was scared to try therapy or meds but looking back I’m SO glad I did. We all need an outlet, I hope you’ll try it. long message but I wanted to offer you support. life is hard and you’re doing great. 🧡

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u/Dino_Momto3 8h ago

Thank you very much! I definitely didn't take any comments negatively. I appreciate everyone who mentioned their concern to me.

We moved and had a baby and then covid hit. I am definitely more isolated than ever before, and having our son who is autistic does play a role in that isolation. On top of just having that added day to day life with a special kid.

I am also 41 and going through perimenopause, which is actually (about a year ago) when all the really hard days started. (Though depression and anxiety have been lifelong) Apparently, middle-aged women going through perimenopause are at a higher risk for suicide. I just started hormone replacement therapy about 3 months ago, so I'm hoping that helps as well.

I'm glad you were able to find something to help you and lift you out of your hardest times! I have truly been telling myself I need to start therapy. I am going to hopefully make this happen very soon! Thank you again.

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u/Dino_Momto3 8h ago

Thank you very much! I definitely didn't take any comments negatively. I appreciate everyone who mentioned their concern to me.

We moved and had a baby and then covid hit. I am definitely more isolated than ever before, and having our son who is autistic does play a role in that isolation. On top of just having that added day to day life with a special kid.

I am also 41 and going through perimenopause, which is actually (about a year ago) when all the really hard days started. (Though depression and anxiety have been lifelong) Apparently, middle-aged women going through perimenopause are at a higher risk for suicide. I just started hormone replacement therapy about 3 months ago, so I'm hoping that helps as well.

I'm glad you were able to find something to help you and lift you out of your hardest times! I have truly been telling myself I need to start therapy. I am going to hopefully make this happen very soon! Thank you again.

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u/SirWeinerdickMcPenis 19h ago edited 19h ago

Suicide is the end result of a disease process in your brain. You are not immune to dying by suicide in the same way that you are not immune to dying randomly as a result of any other common health issue that leads to death, for example by a heart attack or a stroke. I've been mentally ill my entire too-long life, and the information gathering you're doing here is part of that disease process, and it's one that you can stop. Don't seek this shit out. Go to the doctor and get your meds adjusted-for the sake of your kids.

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u/Dino_Momto3 17h ago

I've never heard this before. It is actually scary to read it.

I truly didn't feel that I was seeking it out other than my morbid curiosity asking questions. But I understand what you're saying. Thank you.

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u/OriginalCatfish 16h ago

Jees, do him a favor!