AITAH for letting my cousin play white elephant?

[u/HedgehogFun6877]

My (30m) parents threw a Christmas party and we always play white elephant/dirty Santa. We brought two gifts for my wife (27f) and I. While my wife was feeding the baby, the game started. My little cousin said he forgot a gift so I told him he could use one of ours. When my wife came out I told her and she seemed fine and we played together. At the end I picked a different gift to steal than she wanted, but again she seemed fine. We got home and she told me she was really upset that she picked out the gifts to bring and than didn’t get a change to play. It’s just a game and she didn’t say anything in the moment so I’m confused why she’s mad now. All the gifts were just stuff that we can buy whenever. I really didn’t think she’d mind that I let my cousin play instead. AITAH?

[u/MyEggDonorIsADramaQ]

There’s an article you should read OP. It’s about a guy who realized too late that all the paper cuts of disrespect will kill a marriage. This was one of those paper cuts. Even if you apologize, she will remember how you made her feel.

My wife divorced me because I left dishes by the sink.

[u/DevonJohnsonAuthor → u/MyEggDonorIsADramaQ]

Thanks for this link. Beautifully sums up why I get so irritated that my husband of 25 years doesn’t make my tea the way I like it made…. Xmas eve may not be the day to share it with him but I hope it helps him understand my feelings a little better when I do send it his way😜

[u/MyEggDonorIsADramaQ → u/DevonJohnsonAuthor]

I’m glad it’s helpful.

[u/TaiDollWave → u/MyEggDonorIsADramaQ]

The first 'big' fight my parents had was about getting fried chicken for dinner.

It's only now as an adult I can see that it was never about the fried chicken.